How to Ensure We’re Winning at the Long Game When Losing After 50

He was using intermittent fasting, but eating half of an entire cherry pie during his “open eating window.”

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Let’s talk pearls.

Pearl One

Truth be told, we’ve fallen in love with ‘diets.’ We revel in a long honeymoon with the newest eating plan for weeks or even months.

But eventually the Debbie-downer scientists get involved and study our beloved only to conclude that the plan is a no-go, and we’ve been led astray. Our response: honeymoon over, we’re done, and we return to our former (train-wreck) eating patterns.

Welcome to what intermittent fasting (IF) is facing this year. We were high as a kite with IF’s potential until the scientists mucked everything up by (recently) saying that it doesn’t actually work.

And yet here’s the thing: IF is absolutely fine as long as we pair IF with developing Smart Eating habits too.

Consider a guy I know who was thrilled to hear about IF. In the beginning he ate on a six-hour window and lost more weight than he’d expected. But then ‘something happened’ and the weight showed up again. So he closed his eating window to just five hours (noon to 5 p.m.)

Last I heard, even the five-hour window ‘wasn’t working.’

But turns out that during his open window, this man was gorging on Big Macs, full-sized cherry pies, cheesecake, pizza and the like.

The real trouble with this man and IF is that as he lost he wasn’t also developing better ways of engaging with food.

And that’s the piece the scientists don’t include in their equation. It’s vital that — as we lose — we also learn to navigate our food-porn culture; come to terms with our own overeating ways, and plan to live a Smart Eating Lifestyle that’s vibrant for the long game. ♥

Pearl Two

What is a skill? I consulted the dictionary which says, the definition of a skill is a talent or ability that comes from training or practice.

‘That comes from training or practice.’

Interesting.

Then I took a look at the description for ‘habit’: ‘a recurrent, often unconscious pattern of behavior that is acquired through frequent repetition: she made a habit of going to bed early.’

Wow. So training/practice + frequent repetition of new behavior = ironclad habits.

What new skill are you developing this summer? ♥

Pearl Three

In June, this slot is kept for talking about the poison of perfectionism. I have it. You have it. The only ones in our culture who don’t have it are our sweet, furry darlings.

Perfectionism.

Wouldn’t it be sad, if our little guys mused with gloom, I’m an okay Shih Tzu, but there are better. Even that mix around the corner is more adorable than me.

Let’s begin with a couple of examples and my perfectionism point will make more sense.

Imagine we buy a new car. She’s a beauty: red, shiny and gorgeous. Months later we notice that she has a scratch here, a ding there bumming us out no end leaving us thinking, I give up! This is why I can’t have nice cars. It must be me: I’m just too old to learn new car-tricks. And with that, we give up Red and revert to our old beat-up truck.

One More

You might remember that I woke up on the first of January (2022) to Covid. It wasn’t fun, but at the end of the month can you imagine me thinking, that’s it! The year is ruined. Nothing good will happen in 2022. And for the next 11 months I live in Eeyore-mode.

This example might seem silly, but this is exactly what we do after we’ve overeaten. We give up on the Smart Eating Path.

Here’s the deal: we are going to slip and overeat cake, or raid the freezer, or inhale the oatmeal cookies. It’s part of this trek we’re on: to lose after age 50. You and I are normal humans for overdoing the calories.

The only piece that matters at all is how we respond to the slip. ♥

Pearl Four

Recently I wrote about frozen bananas and what a delicious base they make for faux-ice cream. A reader wrote saying that she doesn’t like bananas.

J. writes . . .

I REALLY wish I could get past the smell/ taste/ texture of bananas because I would love to have an ice cream alternative to enjoy all summer long. Dairy free alternatives are so hard to find!

There’s been an explosion in dairy-free ‘ice creams’, and let me tell you: they’re spectacular. Thankfully they’re pricey. Our only hope is to have some for breakfast, lol, which I detail here.

However — in all seriousness — if this type of dessert leads to binging, forgo it all together.

I found these non-dairy babies at Kroger.

So Delicious. I more than sampled their salted caramel cluster made with cashew milk. My review: O.M.G. Do yourself a favor and never buy this one. Nothing to see here, just move along. Serving: 2/3 cup, calories: 260, fat: 15 g, fiber: 1 gram, carb: 31 g.

Ben and Jerry’s. You know something’s afoot when these guys are in the game. I taste-tested their Netflix Chilll’d that blends peanut butter surprise cream (almond milk) with salty pretzel swirls and fudge brownie. Wonderful, but the Ben and Jerry’s has way more calories and fat than the better tasting Salted Caramel Cluster above. Serving; 2/3 cup, calories: 380, fat: 22 g, fiber: less than 1 g, carbs: 44 g.

Oatly. Devotees rave about Oatley so I’m guessing specific flavors might deliver more of a kick. I tried the oat milk and coffee, if you serve this dessert as ice cream, nobody would know the difference. Oatlys came in at the lowest calories. Serving: 2/3 cup, calories: 210, fat: 12 g, 1 g, carbs: 24 g.

Just saying: If you’re weaning yourself off a stubborn ice cream habit, these surprise creams might be a great way to start.

A hearty thank you to J. for alerting me to a new food item that I now need to avoid like the plague. ♥

Pearl Five

What screws us up most in life is the picture in our head of how it’s supposed to be.” – Jeremy Binns ♥

Have a beautiful weekend, Thrivers! And please feel free to ask questions via the comment section below or by emailing me at: Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

With love and support,

♥, Wendy

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