Pearl One

One takeaway from the Taylor Swift and Kelce Travis phenomenon, is that — politics aside — we can all take a page from their playbook.

The two are walking examples of what “Thinking Big” is all about.

Taylor was Thinking Big when she pleaded with her parents to move to Nashville. And Travis was Thinking Big when he aimed for the NFL and went on to become one of the greatest tight-ends in football history.

Travis continued to Think Big when he sent a bracelet with his phone number to Taylor’s “people.”

Who invented the topic? My guess is that it came from the Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz which I highly recommend reading.

I became a travel writer using the idea behind the Magic of Thinking Big, I just hadn’t realized that it had a name.

Whenever you’re shooting for the stars, protect yourself by not telling the peanut gallery anything. You don’t need an Eeyore in your life right now (or ever). If I’d asked a group of writers how to break into travel writing, I’m pretty confident that they would’ve laughed and said, “good luck with that.”

And that attitude alone would’ve sent me in the wrong direction. Protect your new strategy or plan or even your fondest hope.

In case you hadn’t heard the peanut gallery is alive and well. These are the folks who love to tell others that their big dreams are “pie in the sky.” Stay away from the peanuts. They’re Eeyores who are inadvertently telling you about their mind-set, not yours. Think about it: the Eeyore has no idea what you can and can’t make happen.

As you use Thinking Big to your advantage, keep in mind that you won’t necessarily see the end result right away. I became a travel writer because I wanted my sons to travel, but I just assumed it would take the form of camping. What ended up happening blew me away.

Making it up as you go is the secret sauce to Thinking Big. ♥

Pearl Two

I was watching Comediennes in Cars Getting Coffee with Jerry Seinfeld, and it’s on the episode with Alec Baldwin asking Jerry, “your life is just one green light after another, isn’t it Jerry?”

It’s a joke meant to make us laugh and nothing more.

But look closer. Baldwin is saying that we’ve all had yellow and red lights. It’s a great joke to crack because we all “get it” that life is really hard. It’s so tempting to think, “She’s had it much easier than me.”

No.

It’s a good joke because we can all relate.

It’s just that the Baldwins and Seinfelds of the world, deal with the red lights of life differently from your average bear.

Gems from the Journal

When Life says, “no”, the successful might lick their wounds for a moment, but then they get back to it. Answer in your journal: what can I do to avoid getting hungry? What positive change can I make? How come I dislike tracking my food so much? Do I take my cold-tote with me? What’s one thing that’s going really well? What do I want to improve?

When we journal, we’re stepping outside of ourselves long enough where ideas and solutions become more apparent.  I have my own struggle with food of late. Let’s struggle together. ♥

Pearl Three

A sequence every week

A sequence from my life:

Situation: my sons are 21 years old and we’ve long promoted the idea, “get your degree, but live at home.”

They’re both pulling away from me and it’s so painful, we’d been so close and it’s been hard to have my precious sons behave like I’m an old bike they left in the garage.

Thought: “What’s happening?? We had this whole love-fest thing going on.”

Feeling: Confused, angry, and very sad.

Action: What I once would have done: I’d head for the ice cream. I would continually bug the boys, “what’s the matter? Why won’t you tell me?” “Come on, it’s me!! You remember me, right?

Result:  let one bowl ice cream spiral into days, weeks, months of living off the Smart Eating Path. Jeans are much too tight.

New sequence with a chosen thought:

Situation: my boys are 21 years old and we’ve long promoted the idea, “get your degree, but live at home.” They’re both pulling away from me and we’d been so close and it’s so hard to have my precious sons behave like I’m an old bike left in the garage.

My chosen thought: From my therapist brain, “the closer you are to them, the harder they’ll pull to get free.”   I remind myself that a lioness in the wild would never ‘baby’ her fully-grown sons. (Can you imagine a mom lion walking around with her three “cubs” who were once fuzzy and cute, but today are three adult male lions all three with that glorious mane._

Moms are working themselves out of their job — I tell myself — the young adults need to pull free of the apron strings.”

Feeling:  I feel more settled Ike, “oh, okay. That makes sense.”

Action: Return to my book or writing project.

Result:  I’m getting my work done! ♥

Pearl Four

Pearl four is an amazing book recommendation; not a review, just an awesome book I want to share

In the late 90s, this book’s debut landed on everyone’s “best of” lists, including Oprah and her book club but it’s the book that kept me company as I healed from a surgery.  

The Poisonwood Bible by Alice Hoffman. The dad, an evangelical Baptist, takes his wife and four daughters where you’d expect a guy to take the gals: to the Congo to “homestead” (when the Congo was going through political strife which in real life actually ends well). The story is told by the five female characters: the mom opens the book and the daughters take it from there. Hoffman is lauded for how distinctly the daughter were drawn.

I should add: this isn’t a quick weekend-read, but this book-dessert could make the next two weeks fly by!! The Poisonwood Bible by Alice Hoffman. ♥

Pearl Five

“Lack of time is actually lack of priorities.”
– Tim Ferriss ♥

Life has been humming along just fine, but I’m disgruntled. I think it’s allergies. I take allergy meds from Kroger, but some days are just not fun.

Guess what? Remember that my book came out a few months ago? Well, I finally found the time to fix all of the problems: mainly the font-size was way too big.

Amazon sent me the changes, and now it looks like a real book!! If you bought one from me before, I’m happy to replace it with this book! Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

For everyone else, I hope you’ll take a look: the Inspired Eater: Fed Up!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

It might sound dramatic, but there are external forces who have no interest in our success.

Hi Everyone!

This week I’m knee-deep in New York City. (When I say yes to writing jobs, I tend to overlook how much research is involved.)

For that reason, pearl one and two are from the past but updated. I wrote both around the holidays one year, so pretend we’re in mid-November.

Pearl One

In five minutes, I bet you and I can score a dozen donuts, an incredible Thai meal and fifteen different flavors of sky-high caloric lattes (that in a blind taste-test our grandparents wouldn’t recognize as coffee).

Like me years ago, I know you’ve long thought, “I only have myself to blame.” And, you would be wrong. Not just a little wrong. I mean, wrong-wrong.

To lose weight in our food-saturated world we first need to understand the giants that we’re dealing with.

Let’s start today with Big Fast-Food. Take Starbucks and Papa Johns; the two are very different in presentation, but they’re both selling junk-food. No, I’m not saying that the entire fast-food industry is having special midnight-meetings about how they’ll fatten us up, but (funny enough) that’s the result. (It would be as if cigarettes were everywhere, and we’re trying to quit.)

Take the season we’re currently in. Starbucks makes 100-million in one season (according to Forbes) from the pumpkin spice so-called “craze” they created, and then marketed to us.

The Glue

I don’t care how cozy their shop is or what their clown is like, Big Fast-Food is not our friend. Take this truism and write it on five stickies and post them in your kitchen, on your steering wheel, on your laptop, in your purse and on the bathroom mirror for starters. Be creative where you stick them. If you spend a lot of time in the laundry room, stick one on the dryer.

I’m not suggesting that we don’t play a key role in our own healthy weight, but I am saying that we can’t be long-game successful until we first understand what we’re dealing with.

We Aren’t Victims

Big Fast-Food needs to evolve into selling good nutritious food (Chick-fil-A sort of has the idea by offering their exceptional salads). You and I can vote with our feet.

Eliminate fast-food from your life. We can create a counter-force to the lure of fast-food by making it a habit to not use their product.

Thoughts on the other two forces next week. ♥

Pearl Two

Let me first say that I’m guilty of this very activity I’m railing against here. Arriving home from running errands, I press the remote button and up my automatic garage door goes. I park inside, walk up the steps to my house, and close the garage door with another button on the wall.

And I see no one: no people walking by, no neighbors, not even the mail carrier. Nobody.

Even though we’ve lived in Atlanta for seven years, I’ve made one good friend. And she’s now moved to Orlando. I’ll visit her, but it’s not the same.

Point is, humans are social creatures. And given our upwardly mobile lifestyle, the preponderance of screens, and the loss of the front porch, our social needs are not being met. (Maybe Facebook is our way to reach out?)

Yes, we have online friends – and I’m not discounting online friendships for a second –, but we can’t gather around the fire pit, drink a cup of coffee together, and just being together.

Could this be One Reason Why?

Could it be that we’re social beings who don’t get our social needs met? Could it be that we have a giant hole in our hearts where at one time long chats IRL were the norm, people engaged with their neighbors regularly, and grandparents didn’t live a state away.

Are we trying to fill the hole with pretty clothes, jewelry, cars and the like?

Or in our case are we trying to fill the hole with food?

Join me in journal-writing about this topic: how do I get my social needs met? Go deep and try to give at least three examples. (You’ll be surprised at what surfaces.)

• In what way do I reach out to others?
• Conversely, how do I keep people at arm’s length?
• Am I super formal with others? Or more down-home?
• What’s one thing I could do this week to engage with someone?
• Am I watching too much Hulu and eating poorly because I’m lonely?
• How do I connect food with being lonely?

I have to add that I lost 55 and maintained for 18 years now, because I fixed my loneliness and then I lost all of the weight. That’s not how losing and preserving works, but it is a part of the trek we’re on.

 My grandma lived her entire life surrounded by seven siblings and their spouses, kids, her mother, and a few close friends she’d known for decades. Neither she nor my grandpa lived a consumer-lifestyle. Their social needs were met so they didn’t need a fancy car.

The days of neighbors strolling by our front porch and hanging out for a bit, are likely over, but lets start learning modern ways of filling our loneliness versus feeding it. ♥

Pearl Three

It’s our new “sequence” pearl! Please send a sequence from your own life and we’ll work it out on here, totally anonymously. I love hearing from you guys. Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

My sequence from this week:

Situation: (something concrete) I’m writing an article for Costco and it’s not going quickly like I thought it would.

My thought: “I went down too many rabbit holes over the weekend as I wrote the first part of the article. If I hadn’t done all that “rabbit-holing” last weekend. I’d be close to done by now.”

My feeling: annoyed with myself because of two whole wasted days.

My action: Bum around thinking “I’ve been caught out, I’m not really a writer at all!!” (Drama.)

My result: Haranguing myself saying, “another wasted day.” (Additionally, I have to rejigger my self-esteem problem and that takes up time too.)

My new sequence using my chosen thought:

Situation: (something concrete) I’m writing an article for Costco and it’s not going quickly like I thought it would.

Chosen thought: By going down rabbit holes, I’ve learned a lot about my subject, I also need to gain background info for the article. Part of this writing thing is going down rabbit holes to really understand as much as possible about what’s going on Christmas-market wise in NYC.

My feeling: Very pleased. I did learn a lot and writing is so much easier when you’ve done the research.

My action: Got back to it, but this time stayed more focused. In the end, I thought that losing myself on the internet was just part of writing, and it is, but I also brought a lack of focus that I need to work on.

My result: Written articles!!! ♥

Pearl Four

Pearl four is an amazing book recommendation; not a review, just an awesome book I want to share

Being completely transparent I went through several books that I thought would make phenomenal book-desserts, but not a one of them passed the test.  So I picked my three spectacular reads in 2024, so far.

Life after Life: a Novel by Kate Atkinson is a book-dessert of the highest caliber think: book version of tiramisu cheese cake (made by someone who wasn’t you). ♥

Awesome, awesome, awesome on the awesome-o-meter. One Hundred Years of Lenni and Margot by Marianne Cronin is the book-dessert superstar fiction of 2024 (at least so far). ♥

Loved this book. Total Book-Dessert: I know that I’m probably one of the last on the planet to read this marvel of a story but I finally got to The Book Thief by Markus Zusak. ♥

Pearl Five

Humans are creatures of habit. If you quit when things get tough, it gets that much easier to quit the next time. On the other hand, if you force yourself to push through it, the grit begins to grow in you.” — Travis Bradberry ♥

Okey-doke, it’s back to NYC at Christmastime for me.

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

There’s incredible wisdom we can glean from our future selves.

Hi Everyone,

Two pearls are a blast from the past because I put a little too much on my plate. I always assume a project will be easier than it is. Tell me I’m not the only one.

Let’s do this!

Pearl One

In 2013 after a decade of progressing symptoms, Linda Ronstadt was diagnosed initially with Parkinson’s, and finally with progressive supranuclear palsy, a rare degenerative condition. She’s now mostly on the couch.

In an interview Linda was asked, “What advice can you give others dealing with such difficulty?”

Without hesitation she answered, “Acceptance. You have to practice radical acceptance.”

Smart Eating and Acceptance

Many of us past menopause struggle to accept our after-50 bodies. Compared to when we were 16, 26, or even 36, staying lean when we’re over 50 is an entirely different chapter in life. How much we eat became an entirely new game. I’m mere months from age 60, but no matter how much weight I lose it appears as if I’ll always have a kangaroo pouch (I call my pouch a souvenir from my babies, although having a tummy might just be a part of the aging process whether we have kids or not.)

When I finally lost my weight (mid-30s to 42), I wouldn’t have known to use the word “acceptance,” but in retrospect that’s the mental process I ended up at.

I remember sitting in traffic one afternoon thinking, “I don’t care anymore whether I lose or not. If it’s the last thing I do, I will overhaul my eating habits. And what happens, happens.”

I stopped stepping on the scale every morning; I put it away and didn’t bring it with us on our big moves. Back then my mantra was: “it’s about smart eating habits, smart eating habits, smart eating habits.”

Saying “smart eating habits”, was like a drumbeat that rolled through my mind daily for many years. It’s yours now, wield its power wisely.

Before Acceptance

Before “acceptance” I used to come up with excuses galore.

Because no, the dryer didn’t shrink my jeans, my husband’s bad eating habits didn’t cause me to gain weight, and the holidays didn’t wreck my eating plan.

It was all on me. Acceptance means that I am in charge of what’s goes into mouth, period.

Before acceptance, my voice of denial said, “To begin with I don’t eat all that much, I don’t know why I have a potbelly. (Um, it was more like an extra-large-lasagna-pan of-belly, but whatever.)

Or, “I don’t eat that much, I wonder why I have bat wings like my third-grade teacher?”

Even, “It’s so unfair that I can’t have a couple of bowls of ice cream every evening like the rest of the world!!”

Ready for the Good News?

Our past doesn’t have the answers to accepting and navigating our smart eating lifestyle.

It’s our future-selves that have the wisdom.

Gems from Your Pen

I get it: communicating with our future-self for wisdom sounds odd, but you might be surprised at how incredibly help future-you is.

Ask future-you to write to today-you. It can be any “you” in your future: you in the summer, you in six months, even you in five years, grandma-you and so on. Allow future-you to come alive through the journaling process. Remind yourself that you’ll show this writing to nobody so it’s okay if you ramble, cry, or go off on tangents.

Merely thinking the answers to these prompts isn’t the same as writing out the answers. And, btw, that disdainful voice of negativity is your own self-sabotage voice talking. Ignore her. Tell the voice that you’re trying something new. Don’t allow that voice to take up square footage in your mind. She’s insidious and primed to annihilate what you’ve started, so always be on the lookout for her and send her packing.

I’m 59 so I wrote from my future 60-year-old self.

Write at least three responses to the following.

The “I” voice is future-you thanking past-you year for all you’ve done:

• Today I’m reaping the benefits for. . . 
• Love, love, love that you put so much time into . . .
• The three best habits you developed for me are . . .
• Awesome that you overcame . . .
• Thrilled that you . . .
• You really internalized . . .
• Somehow you knew that I would need . . .
• Because now I really feel . . .
• It would be easier for me today if you’d . . .
• I would love it if you’d . . .
• What I want you to know is . . .

When you shift from past-thinking to future-thinking, you begin to open to the many opportunities that will support you as you up-level your Smart Eating Lifestyle. ♥

Pearl Two

Wish me luck; I’ll take heat for this one.

I was never a worker-outer. I’m Team Napper.

For those of us trying to lose, working out doesn’t actually work.

Hear me out.

Say you swim like Michael Phelps (most decorated Olympian with twenty-eight medals), then yes, your caloric intake won’t have a prayer against your energy output.

Turns out, Phelps famously ate 8,000 to 10,000 calories (!!!) a day in his prime and still found it challenging to get enough food.

That said, muggles like you and me don’t work out like Phelps. Most of us take yoga classes or bike three miles, five times a week, call it good, and head to the nearest fridge. Even a long day of snow skiing doesn’t require the amount of calories Phelps needed to bring home the gold.

How a Sweaty Workout Does Do a Body Good

Here’s what I finally figured out: Working out for reasons other than weight control is vital for a healthy body and state of mind especially when we’re on the other side of menopause. For example:

• Taking a long walk to get my sweet German shepherd his needed exercise: smart for me and River.
• Working out for endorphins to feel high without the side effects of drugs: brilliant.
• Getting sweaty to keep my heart fit and – hopefully – avoid the dementia that has long swept like wildfire throughout my family: again, brilliant.

But working out to help me lose weight?

No, never happened.

And scientists are just now catching on to what we’ve long suspected: lowering our food intake is really the only path to successful weight loss especially after age 50.

The Important Basics I Needed to Lose Fifty-Five

One

Committing to a great eating plan — I call it a structure — turned out to be critical for long-term success. I’ve used the Weight Watchers original point system since 1997, but there’s no particular magic to WW. Any healthy eating plan works if it makes the most sense for your life and if you can imagine using it.

Also vital: keep a pretty tracker with a pen next to your fridge to track what goes into your mouth daily. Studies are firm: those who document what they eat, are the most successful. And remember, “pretty” matters. No keeping track on old envelopes or the back of receipts. A spiral notebook is best. The spiral part makes it easier to record your eating. You also want to keep track so that you can go back in time and see what’s worked and what hasn’t worked.

Two

As I lost weight, I focused only on establishing rock star eating habits:

First I committed to my eating structure (WW) and only after my WW habits were solidly established did I create a strong habit of intermittent fasting for 14 to 16 hours each day. Specifically I stop eating by 6:30 p.m.

My thought: attempting to create too many habits at once is a recipe for failure. One fully installed positive habit is way better than five squishy habits.

Three

I used my favorite study to extinguish my evening sugar habit (what do you mean there’s no confetti?). The first two weeks were rough — no fib — but by week three, sugar was in my rear-view. Details on how I eliminated sugar here.

How long does it take to establish smart habits like tracking your daily intake? My favorite study out of England says that it takes us 66-days to establish a habit that becomes like second nature. (Published in 2009 in the European Journal of Social Psychology.)

Why I Did Not Do Hard Workouts while Losing

Other than long walks with my River (GSD), I didn’t add workouts to my day until I’d maintained my weight loss for years. Only then did I add yoga and Pilates, and finally stumbled onto my forever workout activity that I love (recumbent trike-riding). Updated on 8-28-22: I might know how to lose/maintain weight after 50, but I’m still a fawn on wobbly legs when it comes to working out. I’m learning that doing different types of working out is the best for mind and body.

Okay, I’m ready to take the heat for this post. Tell me what you think. Does working out help your weight loss or send you on the hunt for a hot fudge sundae? ♥

Pearl Three

It’s our new “sequence” pearl! Please send in you’re a sequence from your own life and we’ll to my email Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

My Original Sequence

The situation: the deck outside of my kitchen is on its last legs. My
husband’s foot stepped on a board and created a hole. I invited four deck-
builders to see the deck and give me their estimate.

Thought: OMG, decks are expensive!

Feeling: Blue.

Action: I whine and complain about the cost involved.

Result: Family members are actively avoiding my  Eeyore-attitude.

Now, the New Sequence

The situation: the deck outside of my kitchen is on its last legs. My husband’s
foot stepped on a

board and created a hole. I invited four deck- builders to see the deck and
give me their estimate.

Chosen Thought: We need a new deck and we have companies in our community
that can rebuild our deck in time for spring! I like having coffee on the deck.
If I’m really still the birds will come to the deck for food.

Feeling: Excited.

Action: Now I’m wondering when we’ll have the tear-down.

Result: Feeling a sense of satisfaction that one important “to-do” is off my
list.

Our th

Pearl Four

Pearl four is an amazing book recommendation; not a review, just an awesome book I want to share

At the beginning Such a Fun Age a debut novel by Kiley Reid had a chick lit vibe to it and I almost tossed it, but thankfully I didn’t.

A super absorbing story that you can read in a weekend. (I don’t want to write about it and accidentally give spoilers. I didn’t see the twists coming.)

Totally worth your time. ♥

Pearls Five

. “Every problem is a gift – without problems we would not grow.” – Tony Robbins ♥

I love writing about travel. Right now I’m knee-deep in San Francisco. Next it’s New York, Chicago, and Boston.

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Pearl One

Last week my husband came home from Costco with huge boxes of:

• Caramel s’mores (milk chocolate, caramel marshmallows and graham crackers)
• Girl Scout thin mints bites (“crispy center with mint and dark chocolate”)
• Girl Scout thin mint pretzels): crunchy pretzels double dipped in mint flavored 100-percent real dark chocolate.

So, you see my problem.

I know that many of you have a scarfer of your very own and want to learn how to lose after-age-50 and preserve forever even with a scarfer underfoot.

In the beginning of my weight loss and forever-preservation, I’d assumed that my scarfer would happily come along for the ride because he wanted to start eating better too. It would be so fun to do this “smart eating” thing together. I’d hoped we’d work together cheering each other on.

That was a massive fail.

So I headed out on my own trek. I did all the things like: ask him to hide the treats well so that they weren’t always in front of me, Eat Before I Eat, you know the basics.

But losing weight with a plan of forever means looking inside. The therapy world calls it “individuation” and knowing about it and working with it were pivotal to my own loss.

You know how teenage girls in cliques want to be like each other: “OMG! I have same purse!” Being part of a group is super important to teens.

As we mature, over time we individuate: we start identifying specifically who we are distinctly from mom and dad, sister, the kids in high school and so forth.

Individuation happens throughout our lives, but knowing about the idea and how to work with it are key to a successful loss.

Here’s what I mean.

Journal-write about what makes you you. Go for it! Write about what you love, and what you don’t care about. Write about what gets you really excited and what leaves you bored. Then go inside and ask yourself questions like how do I talk to myself? Do I have my own back?  What happens inside if my feelings get hurt? What happens inside when I’m angry? When I’m bored? When I’m grieving?

What makes you distinct from your sister? Your coworkers? Your husband?

Just write and write and write and let your unconscious speak.

Being able to define who you are without your partner is a critical part of living with a scarfer.

Pearl Two

There’s no end game to losing and maintaining after 50. We have today, this hour, this minute to make our smart eating choices.

Because you and I will forever be beautiful works in progress.

I try to remember this thought throughout my day. Let’s remember it together. ♥

Pearl Three

It’s our new “sequence” pearl! Please send in your sequence to my email Wendy@theInspiredEater.com

Original Sequence

Situation: (something concrete) Dad died last August in his sleep.

Thought: What?! He wasn’t even sick! Now I won’t be able to say good-bye.

Feeling:  Extremely sad.

Action: Ice cream of course.

Result: Try to get work done but give up and scroll Instagram.

My New Sequence

Situation: (something concrete) Dad died last August in his sleep.

Thought (that I’ve purposely chosen): Dad was in his own bed next to Mom, and died peacefully in his sleep. A beautiful way to pass.

Feeling: I’m so happy for dad. (No endless hospital visits and medication etc.)

Action: I return to what I’m doing in my own life.

Result: I’m meeting deadlines.

Do you see how the “new sequence” can go in about a billion different direction? Please send me your situations and I can sequence it and use as an example – totally anonymous of course!! ♥

Pearl Four

Pearl four is our is an amazing book recommendation; not a review, just an awesome book I want to shar

Holy-guacamole. I just read the best book. It’s scary, but in a good way. The author was an African safari guy for eons and tells many stories in an hilarious, next door neighbor kind of way. Every chapter has a very big story. The book starts off with a bang and ends beautifully. Highly, highly recommend. (Unless you’re one of my sons. If you are,  this is a terrible book, why not play in the sponge beds? That’s where I would play.)

Whatever You Do Don’t Run: True Tails of a Botswana Safari Guide by Peter Allison. I just realized that he wrote a sequel Don’t Look Behind You. I’m ordering it right now. ♥

Pearl Five

Failed plans should not be interpreted as a failed vision. Visions don’t change, they are only refined. Plans rarely stay the same, and are scrapped or adjusted as needed. Be stubborn about the vision, but flexible with your plan. – John C. Maxwell ♥

I LOVE hearing from you guys!!!

Have a wonderful weekend All!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

What takes you out of boredom and to your happy place?

Hello Thrivers!

I don’t think I’ve fully realized until this morning how a simple question doesn’t have a simple answer.

Today’s pearls one and two are perfect examples. For the first time I bunched two pearls together and you’ll soon see why. I could have written a book on this topic.

Pearl One

&

Pearl Two

From a Thriver: My problem is when I go away from home. Everything is so controlled at home, but when I go to my children’s houses with food and goodies everywhere I become a hungry crazy woman. Leaving for one of their houses for a week and I don’t want to get off track. I have the best intentions and plans until I get there and then I’m eating ice cream or small packages of Oreos!

I think part of the problem in addition to the food in the house, is that I’m not in my routine so boredom sets in and of course boredom eating. I gained four pounds-however as soon as I got back home and into my routine. My note: this is a grandma who taking care of her grand kids who don’t live in the same town together.

This is an awesome email because so many of us understand the problem of kids and calories automatically arriving together.

Congratulations, B, on maintaining a “controlled” home. That’s huge all on its own.

Today we’re looking at how to travel and be far from your own kitchen, yet not pig-out and overeat.

Probably the most significant mind-shift any human being can ever make is to shift from an external locus of control to an internal one.

An example:

Let’s say you’re at a bash. It’s New Year’s Eve and the champagne is flowing.

A partier with an external locus of control might think: “I have one-year sobriety with AA, but it’s – come on – New Year’s and everyone is holding a flute. Just one won’t be a problem.”

But another person with an internal locus of control will tell herself, “After the year I’ve had devoted to staying clean and sober, there’s no way I’m drinking tonight.”

The internal locus is essentially about keeping your own council; not going with the herd; blazing your own trail.

I’ve mentioned that I’m a freelance travel writer and I’ve been asked whether I’m “good” or “bad” on cruises or trips in general.  

It’s a perfectly valid question, but harkens back to the yo-yo dieting of old. Living the Smart Eating Lifestyle is about strengthening habits or weakening them. We’re watching ourselves from a meta-view and making corrections as we go. So, I take my habit’s with me no matter where I am.

It’s a foundational mind-shift to take yourself from “I’m externally motivated” to “When it comes to eating, I have an internal locus of control.”

The Planning Mind-Set

If you haven’t yet become friends with food-planning, let me introduce you to her. I’d be nowhere today without her constant support.

Take a look at the micro-steps I use before and during trips. There’s an “after” too, but we’ll save it for the next pearls.

A week in advance of a trip, I plan on my laptop where I’m likely to find obstacles and – after giving it a lot of thought — how I will deal with each challenge. I write it all out.

So, B: you might write “when my grandson is out with friends,” I don’t have much to do and get bored.” Plan exactly what you’ll do in each boredom situation you identify. Remember, you’re not trying to lose weight on your grand kid trips, you’re maintaining/preserving.

I plan down to the detail like, “it’s a five-hour drive to the grand kids. On the way over, I’ll eat a sliced-up apple and a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. To be safe, I’ll bring two peanut butter sandwiches and a baggie of baby carrots too.” Then I plan when I’ll eat each on the car-ride. Usually having one food item every hour keeps me in a good place hunger-wise.

This is a critical part of your planning. I also plan one fun-food that I’ll have each day. I could be a margarita at dinner when you guys eat at a Mexican or getting a fancy coffee drink in the mornings. Whatever the special food is, it needs to be written into your plan for every single day.

Re: “but when I go to my children’s houses with food and goodies everywhere I become a hungry crazy woman. I’m hungry with the kids and I get bored because I’m out of routine from home.”

Boredom and/or being tired are both like monsters from a Stephen King horror book. Don’t take the two lightly. Not having a solid plan for boredom takes me down every time.

Plan a list of what’s fun for you. I take tennis shoes so that I can walk, I listen to playlists I made in advance, I might sign up for Netflix or Hulu for just for the week. (Only don’t forget to unsubscribe once you’re back home.)

I make sure that I have a lot of my favorite foods within easy reach. I shop in advance or sometimes at the destination, but either way, I shop for the food I LOVE.

I also always bring my food tracking notebook and track my eating, just like I do at home.

But the key to making anything work is don’t let yourself get hungry. Ever.

One More Mind-Shift

This is definitely meant for journal time. We could ask ourselves this question for the rest of our lives.

Journal-write to the question: “why?”

Why in the world are you on this trek at all? Ask yourself to write answers to “why?” at least three times or more.

In response you might write:

Why? “Well of course I want to reach my preferred weight. I don’t want to get lectures from my doctor anymore. And I want the best health I can manage.

Why? “Because I want to be included in family activities, I want to be a fun grandma. Not the worrying-about-how-gross-she-feels-in-a-bathing-suit grandma, I want to feel good in my own skin.”

Why? “Because I was lonely as a kid, and I wished my grandma had had more energy. I just seemed to tire her out.”

Your brain is watching you. Every time you use smart planning and strong mind-sets. Your brain sees when you sees what you’re doing and thinks, “wow, she’s really serious about this losing weight thing.”

Pearl Three

In March I’m keeping pearl three for something fun that I want to share

Last week a thriver sent in the best idea for a crunchy (high-fiber, low calorie) snack:

Set your oven at 400 degrees.

Drain a can of garbanzo beans, and pat them dry with a paper towel. Place them on a cookie sheet using parchment paper. The garbanzo beans need to lay flat, and not on top of each other.

Spray the beans with olive oil. Let them bake in the oven for 20 minutes: pull the beans out and sprinkle with garlic and smoked paprika powder. Back into the oven they go for 10 minutes.

These spices work well too: Ranch, cinnamon and sugar, rosemary and chili powder. Thanks to Pound Dropper.com and the wonderful thriver who sent this tasty (MS) idea in!

I’m a cruncher; I love most anything when there’s a crunch. My review: so good! Especially with ranch. ♥

Pearl Four

So, here’s the thing. I had two books I thought would be awesome enough to be called a book-dessert, but when I tried to get interested in each one, they both just fell flat.

So, I’m suggesting this book today is top-notch based solely on following reviews.

About this book Stephen King said, “I would defy anyone to read the first seven pages of this book and not finish it.” John Grisham said, “It’s been a long time since I turned pages as fast as I did with American Dirt.”

The book was an Oprah Book Club pick and on Amazon it’s received 4.5 stars from 165,094 people.

I’m sold.

 American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins .

Pearl Five

“Have a bias towards action – let’s see something happen now. You can break that big plan into small steps and take the first step right away.” – Indira Gandhi ♥

I know what I’m doing this weekend: reading American Dirt. Have a great weekend Everyone!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Success is wonderful, but remember: Smug goeth before a fall.

Pearl One

I’m hearing from so many of you guys that you’re about to or already have reached your preferred-weight!!

Congratulations and confetti to your success!!

I know, it feels amazing to be at the number you most want to see when you look down at the scale.

In our past this was the moment to party! Chips and margaritas, here I come!

But this is not our present or our future.

Look at it like this: getting to your preferred weight is like the house falling on the Wicked Witch of the East.

Like Dorothy, you’re at the beginning of the yellow brick road.

So, give yourself a high-five or even gift yourself something that will remind you of this day like jewelry or planting a tree in your yard.

Then get back to it like this:

Your part-time job is preserving your loss. It’s important to continue to call it a part-time job because it elevates preserving your loss as one of your top priorities. About ten years into preserving my loss, I started calling the work and mind-sets involved “my hobby.”

Strengthen your smart eating habits. Journal-write about which habits are the strongest and which the wobbliest? What can you do to strengthen your wobbly habits? Be honest with yourself. If you write, “I rarely use my cold-tote. If I’m out doing errands, I’ll stop for a Big Mac and fries. What’s the big deal? I’m at my preferred weight, a Big Mac won’t be the beginning of the end for me.”

Tough love: yes, it will be.

If the cavewoman in you gets French fries one time, you’re starting the downhill toboggin ride. Hope you brought your helmet.

So, make the habit of packing your cold-tote the night before so it’s easy to grab in the morning. (A habit requires 66-days to embed, but only the first two weeks are rough.)

Have a daily talk with yourself. I gave myself a loving, but strict order to never, ever get smug thinking, “I’m on fire. I’ve so got this.”

I said it to myself every single day: don’t be smug (about your amazing weight loss). Reestablishing bad habits is right around the corner for those of us that succumbs to being smug.

Stay committed to your eating plan. For years after I reached my weight-window, I continued to live on my eating plan; I continued asking my husband to hide food so that it wasn’t staring at me, I always ate before I ate and so on. And I discovered the age-old eating plan of breakfast like a king, lunch like a princess and . I was sold. Ate ever since.

I’m on my eighteenth-year of preserving my original loss. But I remember the first year of preserving I colored within the lines. (Not to be annoying, but I helicoptered my eating for a solid ten years where I might have a bite of donut, but never went beyond that.)

My thought is that there are stages to preserving our loss. And together we’ll figure out what those stages are!

So please email me Wendy@theInspiredEater.com or leave a comment below. I’d love to hear how many months or years you’ve been preserving. What didn’t help? What did help? How quickly did you adopt the habits? Do you have a favorite?

Keep daily notes on living on the Smart Eating Lifestyle, because one day somebody will say to you, “what are you doing to maintain for so long?”

And by sharing the ins and outs of smart eating, you’re illuminating a very dark path for someone else. ♥

Pearl Two

I’m turning the big 6-0 soonish so I’m using Pearl Two as an example of sequencing in my own life.

The original sequence:

• Sequence: I was born in July, 1964.
• Thought: a huge part of my life is over. My dad is gone, my Mom has Alzheimer’s and my sister sold our family home.
• Feeling: Very down, very blue.
• Action: I get a lump in my throat and tears in my eyes and I can’t see my laptop’s screen anymore.
• Result: I eat sherbet if we have any. (Two big bowls.)

So, now I’ll do a “kind and supportive” sequence.

• Sequence: I was born in July, 1964.
• Thought: Turning 60 is great given my blog’s topic. Now I can say that women over 60 absolutely can lose weight and maintain the loss. For a lifetime.
• Feeling: happy, enthusiastic
• Action: I recommit to this blog, the Inspired Eater.
• Results: A better, more in-depth for you, the thriving reader. 🙂

I didn’t use a “bridge” sequence because having done them forever, can usually switch from old to new fairly quickly, but I’ve written sequences for years. ♥

Pearl Three

In March I’m keeping pearl three for something fun that I want to share

The hearing aides came in the mail!! I’m wearing them now to see how well they work. I’m not sure how many feet the aides extend in helping to hear, but they’re wonderful for conversation and hearing the TV. And – you might want to sit down – they cost $349 total. The landscape of hearing aids costing your first born are over!! The company: Ceretone. ♥

Pearl Four

In pearl four, I’m not reviewing books, I’m recommending reads that I’ve read and loved. We all need the power of a great book to counteract the lure of nighttime eating.

“Masterpiece . . . Such masterful strokes seem to qualify Small World as the quintessential great American novel, as Evison eloquently shows that perhaps the most authentically American ideal is the ongoing, blended palette of stories.”—Booklist (starred review).

I literally had to leave this book downstairs so that I wouldn’t stay up so late reading.

One way I rate whether a particular book can be called a “book- dessert” is whether I get pulled into the story fast enough. This book had a slowish start, but by chapter two I was loving every minute of it and I stayed up reading this one late into the night totally messing up my sleep schedule.

It has multiple story-lines with one theme being wanting to escape a certain situation. Super great.

Authors who can write like this author just seem like aliens to me.

Small World: A Novel by Jonathan Evision. ♥

Pearl Five

You must have a level of discontent to feel the urge to want to grow.”
― Idowu Koyenikan ♥

If you’ve liked this post, I would love it if you’d share it with fifty of your closest friends. Word of mouth is the best way to grow and and thank you!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Hi Thrivers!

The time-change hit me harder this year. My sleep schedule is way off.

Let’s go:

Pearl One

At this moment, there are four different kinds of ice cream in our freezer.

You see my problem.

Back when I ate right along with my scarfer – and ballooned to my highest weight because of it – I had to put serious planning into how to coexist with someone who eats like a fifth grader.

I often think about Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’s grief scale.

You can use her scale on large sweeping topics like overeating:

Denial

It’s fine to eat two chocolate croissants. There’s no problem. Everything will work out in the end.

Anger

I was angry with him for not being willing to change his scarfer-ways.

Bargaining

I tried to talk my scarfer into joining me on the smart eating plan If we were both into smart eating our kitchen wouldn’t be full of junk-food.

Depression

I’m fat and ugly and I cannot seem to make living with him and his food habits work for me.

Acceptance

Acceptance isn’t about liking the reality; it’s about coming to terms with what-is. Its when you realize that he’s committed to the scarfer lifestyle and isn’t going to change any time soon.

I understand that as I go further into the smart eating world, my scarfer won’t be joining me. In fact, he’ll always have junk-food at the house. That’s just how it rolls.

Or you can use her scale on just one food item like ice cream.

Denial: I don’t each too much ice cream. Just a little at night. It’s all good.

Anger: WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME?! Every morning, I wake up disgusted with myself because I overate ice cream last night. Ugh.

Bargaining: I overeat ice cream, but I work out like a wild-woman!!

Acceptance: It’s a high fat, high calorie, high sugar food. Most importantly, ice cream is at the very top on the “soothing” scale. Ice cream is a comfort-food. Nevertheless, I need to figure out how I’ll manage when my scarfer brings ice cream home.

In the beginning I asked my scarfer to buy flavors I didn’t like. And also asked him to put the ice cream on the bottom shelf – in our freezer, it’s kind of dark and I don’t tend to bend down low – maybe wrapped in a brown bag or something like it.

Some women ask their husband to keep the ice cream out of the house, and eat it on his own time.

Eighteen years into the maintenance/preservation stage, I still ask my scarfer to keep it as out of sight as possible.

But I can still be lured so even now, I insist that the ice cream stay at the bottom of the freezer towards the back! Wrapped in a brown paper bag. ♥

Pearl Two

Speaking of ice cream, in the last few days I’ve struggled with, “oh, a bowl of ice cream sounds good right now.” (Say it in a whiny tone to really immerse yourself in my experience.)

In response to finding that I was looking long and hard at the freezer door, (yes, it happens). I realized that I needed a new reframe asap. One day it just magically appeared. I know where milk comes from, but when I said to myself that milk and all milk-products – ahem, ice cream? – are meant to fatten baby cows, now you’ve got my attention.

I love baby cows. I just don’t want to look like one.

Been using it all week: works like a charm. ♥

Pearl Three

The upkeep on this 59-year-old body is getting kind of pricey. Either that or I’m falling apart faster than everyone else. Yesterday I went to an ENT (ear, nose and throat doctor), but before they’d do my audio test, they had to first clean out my ears. Which sounds gross, but apparently everyone needs their ears cleaned.

It was scary when the doctor started sticking things into my ear, but happily no pain. So, guess who needs hearing aids? No surprise there, my hearing has nosedived over the last two years. I’m so tired of saying, “excuse me, can you repeat?” all of the time.

I have to keep reminding myself, “We are not our bodies. We have a body” and we need to take care of her.   

As you go forward remember: never starve your body. Don’t call yourself mean names. And don’t put off the important health appointments (she writes as she puts off her mammogram and colonoscopy.). ♥

Pearl Four

All the Broken Places by John Boyne (love this author) details the lives of a mother and older daughter, Gretel, fleeing Germany immediately after WW2 ended.

The high-ranking SS husband/father has already been hanged.

In the beginning, we meet Gretel at the age of 91 living in a tony end of London in current times. In a parallel story we see a young Gretel who at aged 20 is trying to come to terms with feeling complicit in the war crimes. While her mother seems to have learned nothing, Gretel was waking up to the horror that, was their lives.

This is the same author who wrote, Boy in the Striped Pajamas.

Perfect book-dessert. This is an amazing writer not to be missed. ♥

Pearl Five

“The most common approach is very seldom the most effective and most efficient.” Tim Ferriss

I’m trying a new way to make a salad that you can eat from all week long, no leafy greens involved. I’ll share next week!

If you missed last week’s post it’s right here. And I’d love a follow on Instagram and Facebook.

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Art flourishes when we live out of the box.

Hello Thrivers!

Let’s jump right in!

Pearl One

Every year my town center displays the most beautiful Christmas tree I’ve ever seen. It’ s made from various-sized, all white-lit globes with the largest globes sitting at the bottom, getting smaller as they ascend into a traditional shape.

It’s a work of art. Every year I’m surprised to see the tree because — in my mind — a bureaucracy is about long lines, initialing twenty-thousand forms and hearing, “we don’t do it like that. Next!”

But turns out, my assumptions about government weren’t keeping with the times. I forgot to factor in the baby boomers who’ve – in my town’s case – installed wondrous and/or super cool art in all five parks. These are some forward thinking people. And I know that other towns and cities are going all-in on art too.

Photo courtesy City of Suwanee

Why Group-Think is a Liability

I don’t know how I knew, but something inside told me that (in this case)the herd was wrong; a slow weight loss – a pound here, half a pound there — took me to my preferred weight. Keep in mind that I only weighed myself when I had the boys at the pediatrician’s office.

Otherwise, I put my scale away and focused only on building strong habits.

Funny enough as you begin to notice more of our culture’s “truths” about weight loss and develop your own, the quicker you’ll actually lose weight.

Keep your eyes peeled for the automatic assumptions that are rife in the weight loss culture. ♥

(p.s. I know that many, many women love decorating their Christmas tree creating their own works of art. I was using the white tree as an example.)

Pearl Two

To engage with your unconscious, journal-write to these questions:

• what do I automatically think when I hear, “tiny wins really do add up?”

• How can I break though this vintage thinking and give “lose slow” a try?

• What worries me about thinking differently about weight loss?

• Has the herd’s understanding of weight loss impacted my success?

• What are my automatic assumptions around weight loss? (You may need to journal-write to this question a lot: it’s hard to see our assumptions.)

• How can I reframe old assumptions into fresh and new thoughts and habits.

Consider that the “experts” in weight loss don’t really know why one woman is 20-, 60-, or 400-pounds over a healthy weight. (Although they’re certainly trying.)

You know how some people are the “but why” folks? And no matter the situation they’re usually playing devil’s advocate?

Well, you and I need a bit of their fairy-dust starting with: weight loss only works with a scale and at a fast clip loss.

A great example of vintage thinking. ♥

Pearl Three

I’m keeping pearl three for something fun that I want to share

Have you heard of a “food-puzzle” for cats? Omg, I love the food puzzles!

Max is – let’s just say – well-insulated. The vet gets on my case about his weight every time.

We use two food-puzzles: a puzzle-ball that Max rolls around to get food to appear.

He also has what they call a Tower food-puzzle which Max loves too. Like the ball-puzzle it slows down his eating. ♥

Pearl Four

Pearl four is where I share phenomenal finds to keep book-dessert present and vibrant in your life

I know that I’m probably one of the last on the planet to read this marvel of a book, but I finally got to The Book Thief by Markus Zusak. This book spent ten years on the New York Times best seller list who called the book, “brilliant. . . it can be the type of book that’s life-changing.”

It’s set in 1939 and we meet a very poor German family. I tried to skim-read the conclusion so that I could recommend all of it to you, but every time I tried skim-reading, the book wouldn’t let me. I kept getting drawn into the story.

If you love historical fiction, you’re probably already read this book. But if Nazis and concentration camps upset you, there’s not a lot of typical Nazi stuff here. The relationship of the characters with each other makes it work so well.

Loved this book. Total Book-Dessert. ♥

Pearl Five

There was a calling to my life and I responded to the call.” — Oprah ♥

If you missed last week’s post it’s here.

If you have family and friends who might like the Inspired Eater, it would be wonderful if you’d send them my way.

Have a beautiful weekend, everyone!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Our habits are so valuable they’re like jewels

Pearl One

Hello fellow thrivers!

Several thrivers have let me know that they’re at their preferred weight and now what?

Well, in the bad old days, our default would’ve been, “I’ve lost all my weight! I’m officially off the diet! Bring on the weekend’s pizza and beer party!!”

But in 2024 we know better; because there is nothing “to go on” or “off.”

This is the moment when I stay super real with you: maintenance/preservation for me means checking my scale in the mornings to see if I’m staying within the four-pound window I’d set for myself when I first started preserving.

I had a friend who would stay on the WW’s points plan during the week, but allowed herself “to pig out” as she put it, on Saturday night. Her thinking was black and white.

But in our new default; there’s no “good” or “bad.”

There’re just choices: some better than others.

Here’s what I put into place for my first ten years of preserving:

First

Choose a four-pound weight-window that feels comfortable to you. Weight naturally fluctuates so be kind to yourself when you pick your range.

Second

Work with yourself gently, but consistently to breathe in about eight times a day: “I’m at my preferred weight and it’s okay. I can do this.”

Here the prefrontal part of your brain is soothing your inner cavewoman. You’re overcoming many years of unconsciously and consciously thinking, “I’ll always be fat and ugly.” So, breathe in: “I feel really comfortable at my new weight” often. I can’t underline this step enough.

Three

Habits are like precious jewels: lose one and it may be lost forever. You wouldn’t toss a ruby or emerald into the bushes. Revere your habits, they are valuable.

No matter what, don’t say to yourself, “oh, just this once.” “Just this once I’ll throw this diamond, it’ll be fine.” Cherish and keep your habits safe.

I learned this the hard way when I lost my giant-salad-for-lunch habit because of my new braces. It’s been difficult getting that salad-habit back in place. (I’m working on it, I’ll get there.)

Four

Make peace with the truism that staying on your eating plan is how a forever-loss works. When I first started maintenance there was no way I’d let myself (my cavewoman) ruin all my hard work (prefrontal). So, I stayed on my eating plan and just deviated a bit here and a skosh there.

Make your new mantra, “a bit here and a skosh there.”

Small bites work.

Of course today I wouldn’t eat a skosh when in a Mexican restaurant, but I’d take half of my Mexican plate home in a doggie-box. Re: the chips. I literally eat five or six. My habits are strong enough to eat only half of the meal, to eat just a few chips. If there are certain foods that you’ve learned trigger you to overeat, steer clear. Even in preservation-mode: steer clear.

I’ll write more about preserving/maintaining. These are the four pillars that I’d journal write about. Explore your feelings, thoughts and assumptions around these four ideas for preserving. And congratulations!! ♥

Pearl Two

As I head into my eighteenth year of preserving my loss, I should tell you that I talk to myself all day and evening long.

Drench yourself in these powerful thoughts.

“This time I’m protecting and preserving my loss.”

“Oh, hell no! I won’t eat so much that I’m outside of my weight-window.”

“Do I want those cookies or do I want to fit into a size-eight jeans?”

“Food is not my entertainment.”

“Great food choice!! “(When I choose smart food.)

“No ma’am, that food is not for us.” 

And of course, “a bit here and a skosh there.”

I love in Miley Cyrus’s song Flowers she has a line, “talk to myself for hours, say things you don’t understand.”

See? Talking to yourself is super power! ♥

Pearl Three

I’d love your input. And that’s not just blog-talk; I’m actually wondering how I should go forward. It appears as if Oprah and WW are cutting ties because she said in a People Magazine interview that the new “diet drugs” are good for maintenance. I guess that didn’t go over so well with WW.

It’s my thought that the new meds treat the symptom and not the cause. But I know how much we want to be slim, and I wouldn’t blame anyone wanting to give the med a try (to be clear, I’m not recommending meds). I mean, back in the day at my heaviest, I’d have taken out a small loan to try these new weight loss meds. (That said, I’ve of some really awful side effects, so proceed with caution.)

I’d love to hear what you think: in the comments below or to Wendy@theInspiredeater.com. And thank you! ♥

Pearl Four

I don’t mean to brag, but I’m getting much better at finding a rock-star book to recommend. Today’s beauty of a book is Yellowface by R.F. Kuang. I’d seen Yellowface on lists and Goodreads etc, but for some reason I thought it was sweeping epic type book.

Boy, was I wrong. I opened Yellowface, and was immediately pulled into the story. Two women go to Yale and both exit college planning to create a huge earthquake of an appearance into the literary world. One soars to the stars and lands on the best-seller lists, is showered with awards, Netflix deals and money. The other one tanks. The tank is jealous of the star and the story proceeds from there. Super good, you have to read it.

Yet another exceptional book worthy of book-dessert status. ♥

Pearl Five

Patience is waiting. Not passive waiting. That’s laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow — that is patience.” — Leo Tolstoy ♥

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♥, Wendy

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