Hi Everyone!

We have new people on board – welcome again! — and I’d love for us to be on the same page.

The ground floor must: choose an eating plan that you love and then marry it. Switching up how we eat every year or two isn’t a recipe for our success.

Second-must: begin to track your eating in a little notebook you leave by the fridge with a good pen. Studies back this tactic, and anecdotally I’d never give up on the magic of tracking what I eat. I even track when I’m traveling.

If you’re new, have you had the chance to read Begin Here? It should be very helpful.

Let’s go!

Pearl One

I’ve been reading diet books of late and I’m a little miffed. There’s a lot of advice like “eat mindfully” and “speak kindly to yourself”, but then never give a whisper about how to do any of it.

Now, you might think, “Wendy is just bragging because she was able to do it.” No, as you know, I think that getting smug is the first step into a downward spiral. I will never be smug about losing the weight and preserving the loss forever.

I’m angry because there’s a massive diet-empire out there that has long led us to buy their product “that works.”

Except the product doesn’t work.

And then they blame us! Their customers!

Here’s what the diet-cartel needs from you and me: desperation so great that we’ll buy their product hoping for a “cure” to our frustration. They care about our success to the point of how it’s affecting their bottom line. That’s why there are only weight loss companies and no weight maintenance companies. The more successful we are, the less money in their pocket. Slick operation they built for themselves. ♥

Pearl Two

Let me share the specifics on what I did – in real life – to eat more mindfully. I didn’t start to eat mindfully/intuitively until I was well into my eighteenth year of preserving my original loss. I probably went overboard and could have started sooner; my suggestion to you is wait until you’ve preserved your loss for ten years before you try going it alone.

How to speak kindly to yourself? The whole idea behind transforming your self-talk is to progress slowly so that you don’t want trigger your inner cavewoman. She wound merely snort,“How ridiculous!! This is idiotic!!”

Remember that your cavewoman is the part of our brain that only wants to protect us from the saber tooth tiger She wants us to stay in her pajamas, watching the Kardashians on Hulu eating a couple bowls of chocolate- mint ice cream.

It’s our prefrontal brain that’s the smart adult inside our brain. The prefrontal wants to prepare and plan and maybe take sensible risks.

So, proceed super slowly.

On a day when your prefrontal brain is fully in charge: tally up how many times you’re mean to yourself in one hour, on a drive to work, and later, for an entire day. You might think, “I can’t do anything right” or you might actually call yourself names. Just tally up what you’re telling yourself at any given point in time to determine how often you’re mean to you.

Journal-write to these questions (most inexpensive form of therapy on the planet.)

• Why do I say “I’m fat and ugly” and not “stupid”? (Why do you use one word over another?)
• Am I overly critical of myself? Of others?
• Do people in my family of origin beat themselves up internally (I could tell that my dad did)?
• What are three paths I could take to be more positive towards myself?

Here’s how to take yourself to a better place. Let’s say you begin with:

“I’m so stupid” turns into

“I can be stupid, but sometimes I’m not” into

“Hey, I’m a human, all humans make mistakes” into

“I’m not so bad” into

“I can do this; it just takes time.”

As you work with yourself to increase your positive self-talk, just know that you’ll revert and call yourself names and – without any drama — merely note it and consciously substitute something positive for the negative word. Remember, positive self-talk is a process that just improves over time if you stay with it. ♥

Pearl Three

Our Sequence Slot!

Old Sequence

Situation (something concrete): We have a leak that is driving our water bill up to $700 a month from $200. My husband has looked for the cause, but can’t find it. Time to call a plumber.

Thought: Just great!! We don’t even know a plumber let alone afford one.

Feeling: Annoyed, like there’s one more thing on my plate.

Action: Zippo.

Result: More anger.

New Sequence

Situation (something concrete): We have a really bad leak that is driving our water bill up to $700 a month from $200. My husband has looked for the cause, but can’t find it. Time to call a plumber.

Thought (consciously chosen).  I can do hard things. If this little leak ends up costing a lot to repair, we’ll make it work. Going in, I knew that houses require maintenance.

Feeling: Resigned. Calm.

Action: Put a post on Next Door to see if anyone could recommend a plumber. The neighbors did have recommendations and the plumber was at our house the next day.

Result: The plumbing gets fixed — yes, the bill was large –, but no more mystery, sky-high water bills!

Pearl Four

My summer goal is to read nothing but funny books. The funny I’m currently reading is David Sedaris’s, Calypso He is a prolific writer and you’ll find all of his here. Apparently I didn’t start in the “right” place. Start reading him at his beginning.:Let’s explore diabetes with owls. ♥

Pearl Five

Align your focus with the solution and not the problem.” ♥

Jim Rohn

A summer challenge: during June, July and August vow to laugh — hard — every single day with yourself, other people or your kitty. It’s a fun resolution. I did this one year for the entire year and still remember how fun it was!

♥, Wendy

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Hello Thrivers,

Is it just me, or have we had the best cherry crop ever this summer? Get them while they’re still tasty: cherries, corn on the cob, and red grapes.

Ready?

Pearl One

If you think about it, it’s folded into our culture that “drowning our sorrows” is the norm and that the practice should be respected.

As you know, my dad passed three days ago stunning us all. So, have I been soothing with food?

No, I haven’t been using food to feel better. I’ve reached the point on the trek up the lose-weight-over-fifty mountain that when I’m sad, I no longer reach for food. I can finally understand – from an authentic place in my heart — that food does as much for grief as an ice cream cone does for an empty gas tank.

And given that I don’t turn to booze or drugs either, I’m watching myself closely to see how I do handle the sadness of my dad dying, so I can report back to you.

So far, I can see that I zone-out with a really good book (just finishing The Sympathizer; so, so good) along with staying busy. For example, yesterday I had a doctor’s appointment an hour from me and dealing with those fun hours used up most of the day.

But my key takeaway? One of the best salves in our arsenal is that I give myself plenty of room to cry. Crying during grief reminds me of being sick and throwing up. You know when you have a flu and you feel awful, but then you and feel better for a while? That’s how I think about crying in grief. I think that when the tears come out — and we don’t fight it — crying can be healing for us.

Cry, cry, and cry some more. It’s a weight loss superpower. It really is.

Dad, you knocked it out of the park; we’ll take it from here. ♥

Pearl Two

The Importance of Our Preferred Weight. Admittedly, I went a little wacko in losing weight because I purposely got down to a low number. Today I linger somewhere between a size 6 and 8 pant-size. I specifically took myself down to this weight because I wanted to see if it would be possible. Truth be told, if I’d only lost forty-five pounds, all would have been right in my world, but I wanted to lose ten more – and preserve the loss forever —  to see if these smart eating tools really work.

These tools really work.

All that to say, changing how we live successfully live in our food-porn world is, well, everything.

Anymore we’re not living in the 1960s or 1970s and dieting in hopes that our stomachs will look more like Twiggie’s or Cheryl Tieg’s.

We don’t bake in the sun anymore either. Times have changed.

The era of scale-numbers being foisted upon us from an outside entity belong to the last century; today’s woman chooses the weight best for her, and has learned the skills to make her preferred weight happen. ♥

Pearl Three

In August we’re doing a different challenge each week.

In the scheme of things, I believe 100-percent in transforming how we deal with food from top to bottom, but just to be totally confusing let me also say that I use “leapfrogging” to various events in my life to keep me stimulated on our losing-after-fifty trek. For example, say I have a cruise lined up for November and today it’s August 25. I’ll keep my early November cruise at the forefront of my mind as I make food decisions throughout September, October, and early November.

Leapfrogging is a helpful tool most obviously for huge events like trips, reunions, and weddings, but it also works for smaller events like lunch out with a friend, an appointment for a pedicure, or even plans to see a Broadway show.

So, here’s our challenge for the end of August. Journal-write about how you’d like to feel on Thanksgiving (the U.S. or Canada’s) and the December holidays. Will you be down five pounds, or are you working hard to preserve your current weight (so, so, so important)? When the holidays roll around what will you wear? What do you want to focus on when the holiday season arrives: tight clothes? Or making memories? Write about what future-you most wants when the holidays are before us.

And remember to write little “leapfroggy” events into your calendar like how do you want to feel when you next see your hair stylist? (I do this one every five weeks. My hair person always makes my hair look good so I want to feel good inside too.)

Leapfrogging is absolutely a thing that belongs in our smart eating tool bag. ♥

Pearl Four

Books love us and want us to be happy.

This story is hard to believe, but the events actually happened to the writer Kurt Vonnegut when he was a young serviceman. Meilan Solly, Smithsonian Magazine can explain it better than I can when she wrote, “When Vonnegut was a young serviceman, he was captured in WWII by Nazi Germany and famously survived the 1945 aerial bombing of Dresden by hiding in the meat locker of a slaughterhouse—a harrowing experience that closely informed the plot of his masterful 1969 novel, Slaughterhouse-Five.”

If ever there were a five-star book dessert, this one lives on the top tier. ♥

Pearl Five

Make it happen, girl. Shock everyone.” ♥

Anonymous

Have a relaxing weekend, Everyone!

♥, Wendy

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Between Team Yum!! and Team Self-Control: who do you think will be the victor?

Hello my thriving friends!

At the risk of repeating myself, this is such a kind and sweet group of women.

You guys are a joy to write for. You seem to like what I write, and I love getting to know you and shining a spotlight on what’s real and up-to-date about losing after fifty.

Very win/win.

Keep telling me what most interests you. I try hard not to write “fluff” posts; you definitely influence what goes into this blog.

Let’s go!

Pearl One

It’s easy to point at our Amazon Prime culture as being the culprit behind our expecting life to be chop-chop “let’s move it, people”, but truth is: we’d been seeking the fountain of quick weight loss decades long before Door Dash, Uber and Fed Ex showed up in our lives.

Check out these seven fairy tales that our culture embraces as “fact.”

Myth 1: Working Out Works.

Every time I see a woman huffing and puffing down the sidewalk I want to stop the car, jump out and say, “You didn’t hear. Unless we’re training to be in the Navy SEALS we don’t lose weight chugging up and down the street.”

Remember how we once looked at spot reducing? That if we did 100 sit ups our tummy would flatten?

True, right?

Then somebody realized that if strong abs were surrounded by extra weight, the stronger ab muscles wouldn’t shine through the fat around our middle.

But please don’t get me wrong, so much wonder comes out of a regular workout.

For example the endorphins are almost a medication with no side effects, but a stronger heart (from cardio) and stronger muscles (from weight lifting) feel good too. And an active lifestyle is said to combat falling and breaking a bone, several cancers, diabetes, and heart problems. Not to mention helping us sleep better at night.

Plus, the more we work out the better time we’ll have when we traipse through Italy seeing her treasures, including being fit enough to play with grand kids or grand dog.  And we’ve learned from Jack LaLanne and Jane Fonda’s example that strong healthy bodies can help us live to be very old, happy ages.

Get sweaty everyday for thirty to forty minutes.

Myth 2: Self-Control and Motivation Is Our Only Hope.

Way back when, I wouldn’t have understood it if someone had told me that motivation offers false hope and won’t help us lose weight. (I would’ve thought, “well, what else is there?!”)

But today having preserved my loss for seventeen years, I can tell you unequivocally that motivation plays no role in losing and maintaining after fifty.

Motivation is like Endora from Bewitched, it pops up when it feels like it and that’s no way to craft a life. The only way to lose and maintain is to develop ironclad habits.

If you find yourself hoping for self-control or motivation, dip back into Atomic Habits by James Clear to remember how vital habits are on our weight loss odyssey.

Myth 3: Calories In, Calories Out!

(Sad trombone.) We all know how dumb this one is.

Myth 4: After Menopause, There’s No Way.

Our culture has long trumpeted the idea that women “over a certain age” are simply out of luck if they’re hoping for a large loss after age fifty with a plan to maintain (preserve) the loss forever.

But here’s the deal, in these modern times you and I have smart eating tools and updated knowledge at our fingertips that our moms and grandmas never came close to having. It hurts my heart to think about how they approached weight loss, and how – while they might’ve pulled off ten or twenty pounds for a wedding or reunion – they had no idea how to preserve the loss for a lifetime.

Chuck the yesteryear playbook; we’re writing new rules to what women “of a certain age” can accomplish.

Myth 5: Losing Weight is Easy.

Years ago — when I had my “moment of clarity” (habits first, then scale) — and began to lose in earnest, I never once thought, “hey! Losing weight is a total cake-mix!”

And preserving the loss is no picnic either.

The magazine and social media headlines might scream, “Lose Weight ASAP on the Eat Cake and Ice Cream diet”, we know the truth behind the headlines because we’ve lived the truth: losing weight and preserving for the long run takes dedication and a super cool, modern toolbox to navigate our food-porn culture.

Myth 6: Losing Weight is Impossible.

It’s funny, but the group that tells us to lose forty pounds before a surgery can be scheduled, are the same peeps who can’t really tell us how to lose, and certainly don’t know anything about how to create a forever-loss.

Myth 7: Losing Weight Has a Beginning and an End Point.

If we’re being honest, we’ll admit that we once saw losing weight – or smart eating — as something “we did” such as, “I can’t wait to go off this diet so that I can have pizza too.”

Today we now know that losing weight and preserving for a lifetime is about what we are.

We no longer lose weight for the summer, and gain it all back by the end of December.

We’re older, wiser and too tired to go along with the “weight loss is linear” myth that hogged all the limelight in the last century.

Weaving smart, strong food habits into the very fiber of our being, and transforming who we are – and how we handle food — is the only way to a successful forever-loss. ♥

Pearl Two

Join me on any typical morning.

It’s 7:15 a.m. and the alarm goes off. (I’m shooting for 6:30 a.m.).

I feed my very mean kitty, and put food out for the birds and squirrels.

I eat my toast with butter and then head for my writing desk – I do my best writing in the morning — and about two hours later the idea of eating something pops into my head. Yes, I had a substantial breakfast. No, it’s not time for lunch. And, yes, I still find myself thinking, “something tasty right now sounds like an amazing idea.” At that, I glance at my laptop’s clock and see that it’s only 10:45 a.m.

Hmm. Now what?

At that, my prefrontal brain tells my cavewoman, “Noon, just wait until noon. You can do it. You’ll be fine.”

And I do and I am. ♥

Pearl Three

A different challenge each Friday in August

If you’re not already, our challenge this week is to track what you eat and how you count it (calories? points?) for every single meal. Sometime I’ll share the messy stack of notepads I’ve used to track through the years.

If you’re a pro at tracking your food, plan instead to boil five eggs to eat on the run this coming week when you’re slammed with errands and work (don’t forget a light sprinkle of salt for the tastiest egg). ♥

Pearl Four

Books love us and want us to be happy!

Quietly Hostile: Essays is Samantha Irby’s newest book out in 2023. I don’t know how she does it, but Irby somehow makes the symptoms of Crohn’s disease extremely funny. I mean, we’re over fifty and as we age we all have something, but Irby is just forty-three years old and has been dealing with the symptoms of Crohn’s for decades.

Irby’s books detail the many times the disease did a number on her, her depression, bad dates, good dates, lots of socks (good, bad, and disgusting socks), and about a million other embarrassing moments that she skillfully spins into humor. She spills it all and calls her writing, “connection through commiseration.” 🙂

And yes, I feel deeply understood after reading an Irby book. And P.S. one story gets seriously gross when she’s talking about urine. My thought: skip that part.)

Pearl Five

With every act of self-care your authentic self gets stronger, and the critical, fearful mind gets weaker. Every act of self-care is a powerful declaration: I am on my side, I am on my side, each day I am more and more on my own side.”

Susan Weiss Berry

Have a great weekend everyone!

If you’ve enjoyed these Pearls it would be wonderful if you’d share with a loved one. Also, you can follow me on Facebook and Instagram. And — if you’d like to do a deeper dive into losing weight after age fifty — read the Inspired Eater: the Book. (I started calling it “the book” so it wouldn’t get confused with the blog.) Update: the book is now called the Inspired Eater: Fed Up!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

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No fuss, no drama. Sometimes we just need to quietly remove ourselves from the situation when others are being rude.

Hi Thrivers!!

Holy cow, you guys. I’m on day twelve (as I type) of my no sugar challenge and I’m annoyed at how annoying going no-sugar is.

Now, of course there’s sugar in fruit and funny places like spaghetti sauce, but I’m staying well under the twenty-four grams of sugar a day that’s recommended. My main move is to steer completely clear of cake, candy, cookies, ice cream, donuts, brownies; the usual.

And it’s been annoying.

But as I like to say, “the first fourteen days are the most formidable.” So, I’ll let you know how I’m doing by day 16.

Pearl One

You and I forever have been told not to “beat ourselves up” about, say, baking red velvet brownies from scratch “for the family,” but then eating most of the pan myself, I mean, yourself.

But – really – what does “don’t beat yourself up” encompass? Because I think it’s much more than just critical self-talk.

It’s my thought that “beating ourselves up” can take several forms like allowing ourselves to continually ruminate on “shameful” moments from our past or memories from childhood of someone being cruel to us.

I combat the habit of ruminating about a sad or cringy memories by using a symbol – I’ve mentioned before that I think of a cathedral I once saw in Savannah — to pull me out of a not-helpful thought. It takes practice but you can shift out of a detrimental thinking pattern.

But we’re also “beating ourselves up” when we allow others to treat us badly and don’t immediately remove ourselves from the line of fire by walking away.

And to be super-clear, I’m not suggesting you throw a metaphorical rock at someone being rude/abusive and then walking away. I’m saying walk away with an internal attitude of, “no, this situation has gone too far and I’m taking a break.” (Try to keep in mind that when others are being awful to you, they might be fighting with you, but they’re actually arguing with old ghosts like their parents. Remember: it’s not about you – okay, maybe a kernel is about you — mainly your family member is fighting with a yesteryear loved one.)

And, of course, we have the traditional use of “don’t beat yourself up” that means don’t use attacking self-talk when something funky happens in life. Do I sometimes look at the scale and think, “what the hell?” Absolutely I do. I have a negative thought for literally two seconds or so and then shift into, “let’s be curious, let’s be determined, let’s be loving.”

I’ve worked hard to stay chill and not think, “I’ll always be big, god dang it, why is this so hard?! Why can’t I do this?!” Habituate yourself into talking kindly to you. Why? Because there’s zero evidence that beating up on ourselves helps us in anything, ever.

Authors don’t beat themselves up as they write a book. My son didn’t beat himself up while taking ten years of piano lessons. And I didn’t preserve my loss for seventeen years by beating myself up as each day went by.

Whether we’re beating ourselves up by ruminating on old hurts, letting someone else verbally attack us, or using highly critical self-talk, it’s time to internalize the truth that none of this helps us conquer our goals.

The only way to move into the future with confidence is to take a deep breath and tell yourself, “Wendy believes I can do this, I guess I can do this. I’ll work to habituate a loving internal voice and insist on respectful external conversations with loved ones. Sounds tough, but I’m tougher. Yes, in fact, I think I can do this.” ♥

Pearl Two

This genius idea comes from Thriver and writer of a gorgeous blog called Mantel and Table. Thank you, Barbara, for sharing your beautiful creativity with the planet!

From Barbara:

“I have either four or five ingredients in my summer salad formula. Four, if I’m not adding a protein; five, if I am. When I go to the store, I just buy my favorites in each ingredient category. Then when I’m ready for a salad, I add one of each category, and I’ve got a fabulous summer salad!

The ingredient categories I like best are these (Wendy’s comments in parenthesis):

• Salad greens – (like butter lettuce or spinach)

• Cheese – (feta is a great one)

• Nuts – (such as pecans or almonds)

• Fruits – (chopped apple or sliced strawberry)

• Protein – (I often use Trader Joe’s vegan chicken; found in cold case with yogurts.)

The point is to have a simple formula so you don’t have to think about it too much – just make your delicious salad and leave more time to sit down and enjoy it!”

I love this idea so much! Thank you again Barbara. I plan to forever take this formula with me when I shop. ♥

Pearl Three

A different challenge each Friday in August

Today’s challenge: Build a salad and eat it for lunch at least three times this week. I hope you’ll write to me and share what salad was on your plate each day. Seriously I want to hear from you! ♥

Pearl Four

Books love us and want us to be happy

As I type, we’re in August which makes me think that I should be recommending fun, bubbly books. Friends, failure! (I’ll do better next summer, I promise.)

For now, check out this marvel of a story that won the Pulitzer in 2016 (which is one of many that the author’s been awarded). He teaches at UCLA and is one of those people who seem super-human from another planet.

As I’ve mentioned a thousand times, I love books that tell an awesome story, begin with a bang, and also expands my mind (teaches me something good). The Sympathizer by Viet Thanh Nguyen brings it.

Many call the opening sentence “the best they’ve read in years.” The book starts in Vietnam and moves to Los Angeles in the U.S.

I’m only half-way through, but so far I’d call this a must-read and deserving of book-dessert status. ♥

Pearl Five

“It’s not about perfection, it’s about how quick you are to recover.” ♥

— James Clear

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♥, Wendy

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Hello Thrivers!!

It is so exciting to hear about your successes! I’m also hearing how frustrated you are once you’re in the preserving-the-loss mode. This is where the new change takes place. Pearl One gets into the details about preserving your very precious loss for the long-run.

No longer will preserving our loss get short-shrift as maintenance got back-in-the-day. Preserving our loss is now taking center stage.

Pearl One

Let’s keep talking about forever preserving your original loss. I’m learning that some Thrivers reach their preferred weight, but can’t seem to stay in the weight-window they picked for themselves.

Some people lose too much weight to the great concern of people around them, and others struggle with gaining.

Life has changed and we’re no longer doing the old didn’t-really-work-anyhow maintenance thing. Let’s look at preserving your original loss as if you’ve been given a large, beautifully cut diamond to take great care of. That’s how precious your weight-loss is.

The main thing to do in the first years of preserving your original loss is to stay on your eating plan and deviating occasionally, add to it the REP and work on strengthening your habits.

The overriding self-talk is, “we don’t eat like that anymore.” And then show your brain how serious you are: pour salt over the calories or similar. Your brain is always watching what you’re doing and if you consistently give it the message, “I’m not playing around anymore. It’s not going to be easy, but I am turning away from junk-food and instead reading a book, walking the dog, or planning a future day-trip.”

I will always add: if you’re pining for junk-food, it means that you’re hungry for food-food. Also women over 50 sometimes feel really tired when they’re hungry. I still tell myself daily, “Reach for real food.”

Remind yourself daily that there are no short cuts to success and that “Nobody said it would be easy. They just promised it would be worth it.” Thank you Mae West for this quote-nugget.

Bottom Line

Feed your mind well. Find the quotes that speak to you and sprinkle them throughout your life. Even better: memorize the quotes. This micro-step has helped me so much through the years.

Work to strengthen your habits. You want to be handed a beautiful box of donuts and say, “Yeah, I don’t do donuts anymore, but thanks for the thought.” (Hint: you can have a donut in about three to five years of preserving).

When preserving your loss, don’t let yourself move from the sandbox at the park to the freeway in one fell swoop. Take yourself in stages. Getting too thin? Whole-milk cottage cheese, not junk-food or large portions of fettuccine. Gaining? Re-revisit your habits and write in your journal about what’s working and what’s not.

And plan, plan, plan how you’ll step more firmly onto the Smart Eating Path.

It always comes back to “don’t get cranky, get curious.” ♥

Pearl Two

Have I told you guys about the first junk-food? Back in 1883 at the World’s Fair in Chicago, Cracker Jack made its debut on the national stage. (Candy existed decades earlier and honey has been around forever, but Cracker Jack was the first mass-produced junk food.)

Nobody could possibly have foreseen that the simple snack would develop into a world-gone-wild junk-food landscape. Our moms and grandmas didn’t stand a chance at the tsunami of calories that flooded their world because the monster-wave did not come with instructions.

In response to our “Twinkie-lifestyle” the diet-cartel rode up on a white horse to save us from what I call the perfect storm: 1) fast-food 2) Grocery stores packed in junk-food and 3) restaurants that serve humongous-portion sizes of low-nutrition food.

Thing is, we didn’t need to be saved; what we’ve needed all along are real tools that’ll take us where we want to go.

What’s my point? That you and I — and our moms and grandmas – are the ones who’ve consistently accepted the blame when a diet “doesn’t work.” And after being consistently blamed for so long, we then develop a deep sense of shame.

We think, “Why can’t I do this?” “I regained the 50-pounds. What is wrong with me?!” “I’m to blame, I do overeat, it is my fault.”

You guys, this is how domestic-violence survivors talk. They say, “Well, if I hadn’t done blank, he wouldn’t have gotten so mad.” Until they see the reality of their situation, they take the blame over and over.

The reality of our situation is that we live in a food-porn culture. Until the junk-food phenomena goes the way of the cigarette (it’s a little different with junk-food, but it could be done) we need to stay dubious about the diet-cartel’s “help” and their money-making shenanigans.

My thought: let’s use the diet-cartel’s products as tools to help us trek up the “losing after 50 mountain.” But let’s stop seeing these companies as our rescuer. Their product is merely a tool that we might choose to use or not depending on our need at the moment. ♥

Pearl Three

Sequencing is taken directly from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). The purpose of sequences is to help us move from reacting to circumstances to responding. I encourage you to do a sequence a day in your journal. Powerful stuff.

Default-Sequence

I’m writing from a dear friend’s point of view:

• Situation (be very concrete): I weigh 250-pounds, I stand 5’5.
• Thought: I hate being this large and am beyond frustrated and angry with diets.
• Feeling: Furious at the whole damn thing of trying to lose, regain etc.
• Action: I talk a lot about how nothing seems to work.
• Result: I’d like to lose about a hundred pounds, but never do.

Chosen Thoughtful Sequence (a bridge)

• Situation (be very concrete): I weigh 250-pounds, I stand 5’5.
• Chosen thought: Times are changing. Maybe new, cutting-edge ideas are appearing in weight loss. Hmm. We’ll see.
• Feeling: Very wary, but with a sliver of hope.
• Action: Reads the latest and greatest of weight-loss in 2024.
• Result: After having some success on the intermittent diet, but I’d like to improve my habits around food, so I started to read the Inspired Eater blog and begin to work on my mind-set. ♥

Pearl Four

I just finished a book-dessert of the highest caliber. If you like an absorbing story line about a female friendship set in modern time history then you’ll love The Lion Women of Tehran by Marjan Kamali. Like The Kite Runner by Khaled Hosseini did for Afghanistan, Lion Women is now doing for Iran (just came out in July 2024). One of my favorite things in life is to learn about other cultures and their history while reading a gripping story line. ♥

Pearl Five

There are moments of frustration in life. You must build good relations to support you in these moments. You must also learn to encourage yourself and decide to stay encouraged in life.” ♥

Lailah Gifty Akita

i love this quote. Decide to stay encouraged. This thought is what I’m working to embed into my mind.

I’d love a comment below on how you’re doing while living on the Smart Eating Lifestyle.

Make it a wonderful week!

♥, Wendy

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I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Especially when we’re well over fifty we can say,

“You know what? Time for something new and amazing just for me.”

Pearl One

I want you to know about the most powerful mind-shift I clung to when I began my smart eating trek in earnest and continue to rely on as I preserve my loss.

“I won’t live like this anymore.”

That’s it. Nothing fancy. Nothing “aha-ish.” Just the plain truth: I was sick and tired of constantly dealing with the battle between me, overeating, and clothes cutting off my ability to breathe.

My really abysmal eating habits had been winning for decades.

When I finally decided that “I won’t live like this anymore” the goodness hit the fan, and I was on a roll.

Even today, I use this phrase almost daily still because it immediately reminds me that living an overeating lifestyle guarantees nothing but annoyance, emotional pain, and a constant urge to beat myself up (which, btw, doesn’t help anything).

“I won’t live like this anymore.” Tell yourself this phrase two or three times a day. Write it on stickies and put them wherever only you will see them. And write in your journal about what the phrase means to you.

In other words, don’t just read these words, the magic happens when you engage with the deeper wisdom behind “I won’t live like this anymore.”

Because once you do, you won’t. ♥

Pearl Two

As you know, I’m not a nutritionist, dietician, doctor or even a barista, but when I find smart food that makes our life a smidge easier, I share.

A thriver sent in this fantastic recipe.

Hi Wendy,

I just wanted to share my newest “muffin” creation with you. They are scrambled eggs in muffin form. And I baked them in my toaster oven. I used 4 eggs and got 6 “muffins.”

In addition to salt and pepper, I added a little cheddar cheese and bacon bits. But you could add onions, peppers, or whatever strikes your fancy. I plan to freeze them, then get one out when I want an egg. — Signed, M.

Wendy included: I used six eggs for six cups. Spray a 6-cup capacity muffin tin with nonstick oil spray or use the silicone cups I use. In a large bowl, whisk eggs and onion. Add egg mixture halfway up into each muffin cup.

Include your preferred topping combinations into the cups. Bake for 15-20 minutes, until set. Let cool.

Yum.

Thank you, M!! Keep them coming! ♥

Pearl Three

A different challenge each Friday in August!

Our challenge: be honest. Do you actually go to bed with a great book early every evening? Or do you agree that it’s a fabulous idea, but haven’t established the habit for yourself?

If you’re in the middle of watching an absorbing streaming show, I get it. Finish your show and avoid getting hooked on another one.

I’m not against a streaming-dessert as long as the screen is in your bedroom and away from the kitchen. Sitting in your living room to watch TV is a sure-fire way to fall off the Smart Eating Path and overeat.

Your goal is to disrupt the pattern or habit. And I’ve found the most success by taking a phenomenal book (cannot be dry and boring) to my bedroom every evening around 8 p.m.

I know. It’s sounds early, but here’s what I’m convinced of: after a long day we’re at our lowest mood in the evenings when it’s way too easy to think, oh what the hell? and descend on the cookies, cake, and ice cream.

So instead of “white-knuckling” it and forcing yourself to give up the evening calories – which we know doesn’t really work in the long-run anyhow – swap the negative eating for positive reading.

When we take something away from ourselves (like evening sugar), it’s important to give ourselves something in return like a spectacular book.

And I say books because if you give yourself, for example, a luxurious hot bath-dessert, the bath alone isn’t likely to lure you to your bedroom at 8 p.m. every single night for years on-end.

So do your nighttime routine: at 8 p.m. brush your teeth, jump into your jams and read your book-dessert for the next hour and a half. You’ll catch up on sleep and deep-six those evening calories. ♥

Pearl Four

My first inclination is to just say, “read this!” and not give you the plot because you might not really care about the story-line, but a masterful author can do it all even spin whitewashing a fence into a critical part of character-development, so keep the fence in mind as I give you the details. The Heart’s Invisible Furies is about a young Irish girl who’s thrown out of her community because she’s pregnant. The first chapter will grab you, no doubt, but just know that while the first chapter is super compelling it doesn’t contain the dry wit that the following chapters have. And this author John Boynce can write the blank out of dry wit, tragedy, everything. This dude can write.

I’m only half-way through this large book, but it’s such a great story that I stayed up (too) late last night reading. And if you love learning a bit of history as you read you’re in luck because the story takes us from the cultural morays of 1945 Ireland and into (much improved, thankfully) modern times. People magazine wrote, “By turns whimsical and heartbreaking, Boyne’s sprawling novel treads Dickensian territory across seven decades of Irish history, ending with a redemption for both a country and a native son.”

The book also won important awards and was on several “best of” lists when it came out in 2017.

My review: a five-star book-dessert. ♥

Pearl Five

Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.”

Michael Jordan

My book — the Inspired Eater: the Book — is available at the moment at no charge to KindleUnlimited members. If selling a book on Amazon, I’m required to give the book at no price on KindleUnlimited before I can release it to everyone. And if you’re a KindleUnlimited member, you’ll find the book here. 🙂

If you like the book, I would appreciate it so much if you’d leave an Amazon review. (And thank you.)

For the rest of us, the book will be available at fifty percent off ($3.99) starting next Thursday, August 3.

Have a great weekend everyone!

♥, Wendy

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My favorite cold-tote

The best book-desserts on the planet

Flourishing after age fifty is a real thing. Owning your “flourish” allows you
to feel like you belong with the billions of us trekking the Smart Eating Path. 

Pearl One

You’ve tried a million times to lose weight, and are highly skeptical that the micro-steps I share will actually produce results?

I get it.

But consider this: we’re late bloomers. Tell yourself, “Some bloom in their younger years; I happen to be blooming in my second half of life.”

All kinds of blooming applauded!

In decades past, we didn’t know that we didn’t know (about how to lose after age fifty for the long haul).

And for whatever reason, I stumbled upon the map.

But the map doesn’t belong to me.

So — as you continue to bloom — I want you to have and know this map too. And then, spread the word. ♥

Pearl Two

Last month a home-bound friend and I wanted to get together for lunch, but she wasn’t ready to go out to eat. So, it was left to me to bring restaurant meals for us both.

What did she feel like? Mexican? Pizza? Thai? Chinese?

She didn’t really care; I should just get whatever I wanted.

Oh, great. I really don’t love trying to deduce what someone else might like.

But, knowing that Mexican or pizza are not the smartest food choices, I narrowed my options down to: Thai or Chinese?

At that, I turned to Google asking “which type of food is the best for those trying to keep it healthy”?

You know, I totally assumed that I’d find a rather namby-pamby “both cuisines are wonderful in their own special way” type of response.

But that is NOT what I learned!!

I was so surprised to discover that Thai is far and away preferable health-wise to those of us helicoptering our health.

Why Thai?

There are several key differences between Thai and Chinese, like the following:

(1) Thai food isn’t made with heavy sauces, but with light delicate herbs and spices.

(2) Thai dishes are packed in non-starchy veggies like carrots, cucumber, bean sprouts, onions and the like.

(3) Many dishes substitute coconut milk instead of heavy cream for great flavor.

(4) Thai has brown rice as an option which is what I always order.

(5) Rather than fried spring rolls, order “summer rolls” at Thai that clock in around 110 calories each, aren’t fried, and are stuffed with healthy veggies.

My Two Favorite Orders

I have two go-tos that I always order:

• Thai “yum, yum” salad made with tofu. (The word “yum” in Thai means “mixed” or “tossed together.” But in any language this salad rocks!)
• Green curry. I order mine with tofu as the protein and request extra vegetables. (I mean, so good!) ♥

Pearl Three

Back in the day, Saturday morning cartoon commercials were sophisticated thanks to the Mad Men who aimed their laser directly at kids who were too young to see the dangers of highly sugared cereals behind Tony the Tigers, Franken Berrys, and the count Choculas.

Shelby (my sister) and I — thoroughly brainwashed thanks to those ads – couldn’t help but notice that “the other kids got to be ‘coo-coo for Cocoa Puffs’, why not us?!”

So, my mom relented. (Phew, we thought, finally.)

Every December she he wrapped mini-boxes of sugared cereal and stuffed them into our Christmas stockings.

And it wasn’t just sugary cereal my mom disapproved of. We weren’t allowed to have Tang, Kool-Aid, Hostess-anything, Jif peanut butter and so on. (Don’t get me wrong, my mom wasn’t a health nut. She bought all of the Hostess cupcakes and Ho Hos she and my dad partied after we’d gone to bed.)

Then when fast-food began mushrooming across the land, true-to-form my mom wasn’t biting and rarely allowed us to partake.

The woman was psycho.

All that said I want you to know about the book titled: Salt, Sugar, Fat: How the Food Giants Hooked Us by Michael Moss. You’ll be stunned at how sneaky and (frankly) immoral the people behind the junk food explosion really are.

Salt, Sugar, Fat isn’t a book-dessert read; it’s just not juicy enough. But once I skimmed the boring first part, this book became hard to put down.

It’s a keeper and here’s why: reading just a page or a day and highlighting your favorite passages will allow your smart eating life to soar.

It’s that good.

And that annoying. Just a few pages into Moss’s book and I was checking the sugar ingredient on everything I thought was innocent like spaghetti sauce, bread, even my favorite whole-wheat bagels.

Salt, Sugar, Fat should be called titled, How Big Food Tricked Us Into Eating Chemicals as a way of Life. ♥

Pearl Four

I’ve shared this book before, but if you haven’t had the pleasure: lucky you because a wonderful story is coming your way! Min Jin Lee’s first book, Pachinko, snagged the Pulitzer’s Fiction Runner Up in 2018 and is proof that aliens live among us (meaning the advanced level of writing is beyond comprehension). Her second book Free Food for Millionaires is a phenomenal read too! ♥

Pearl Five

Don’t wait your turn. Bet on yourself and have the confidence to stand up and say, ‘My time is now.'” ♥

— Robert F. Smith

Have a wonderful weekend all! And I’d love a follow on the Inspired Eater Facebook page and Instagram!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

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My favorite cold-tote

The best book-desserts on the planet

Many high caloric foods have dropped off my radar entirely, except for this one little ingredient.

Hello Everyone!

I’m coming to you from oven-central. I know. It’s hot almost everywhere; hope you’re staying cool. ♥

Pearl One

I can’t stop thinking about a question a reader asked me ages ago, “doesn’t it get easier? Does keeping the weight off become an automatic habit or will I forever be battling my cravings?”

Flippantly I replied, “you’ll always want the raspberry pastry.”

But over the last few months, her question keeps tapping me on the shoulder, and when it does I ask myself, “after these seventeen years of preserving my original loss, is it easier? Did I give “C” the right answer?”

So, after a lot of thought, my final answer is that yes, it does get easier.

I can forgo fast-food and junk-food 24/7, no problem at all. I’m also great at dealing with the endless porn-food in the grocery store aisles largely because I never shop hungry.

And you should know that – back in the day, I could eat a whole Pringles can by myself. No trouble whatsoever. It took the magic of time, but once I’d fully embedded the habit to never eat cracker/chip type snacks, it’s become very easy to bypass them.

It Wasn’t Overnight

Looking back, I lost interest in crunchy/salty artificial “food” in stages like at first it was somewhat difficult to say no to the chip then it became a bit easier and so forth until I got to the point where I have absolutely no lingering, “oh, I’d love a whole box of Cheez-Its right now.”

But here’s what I do still have issues with: anything made with sugar. And since I have zero intention of gaining the weight back, I monitor my sugar intake carefully.

How I Helicopter the Sugar

Habit Alert! As with any entrenched craving, I keep myself relatively full so that I don’t get hungry and commence to lobbying myself for an ice cream sundae (homemade or Dairy Queen; either suits).

When The Scarfer (my husband) brings home a pink box from the bakery filled with fancy cookies, yes, I still yearn to try one. At that, I have an automatic question I ask myself to put the cookies in their rightful place: do I want a double-fudge chocolate shortbread cookie or do I want to be a size 8? This question gets me out of the danger zone immediately.

But, again, it took time for this muscle of asking the right question to develop.

To combat the sugar-urge, I also eat fruit to provide the sweet vibe I’m looking for. My favorites are strawberries, grapes, watermelon and cherries. In my world, there is nothing better – outside of our fur-kids – than laying down with a great book and a bowl of grapes or cherries on my tummy. In the olden days I’d crunch through Oreo after Oreo as I read a book; but not anymore. I’m very happy to report that I completely detoxed from Oreos and have replaced them with fruit.

Going Cold-Turkey

These days, I want to not want sugar, the same way that I don’t want chips or french fries. I want to be done with sugar (other than fruit). So that said I’m implementing an action-plan right now (mid-July) to stop my extraneous sugar habit. A reader reported that she reads food labels and allows herself twenty-four grams of sugar a day (because sugar shows up in places you wouldn’t expect like bread). Note to reader: As you know, I’ve given up all evening sugar and haven’t relapsed. The evening sugar is definitely gone — detailed here — but I still partake a little here or there during the day and that’s the type of sugar I want to put an end to.)

As I ditch the sugar, I’ll keep notes and let you know exactly how this challenge is going. I’ll share the times I goof up and the times I got it right. My promise to you is that I will not give you the rosy picture. I will share every bit of the trek.

Wish me luck. ♥

Pearl Two

Have you read When You Give a Mouse a Cookie? This darling five-star children’s book details the chain of events that unfolds when a hungry mouse shows up at a little kid’s home and requests a cookie, and then needs a glass of milk, then looks in the mirror to check out his milk-mustache, and upon seeing his scraggly hair requests a pair of scissors to trim his bangs and so on and so forth.

You and I are living When You Give a Mouse a Cookie every day of our lives. We just haven’t known that we’re both the mouse and the little kid.

Here’s what I mean.

Say you eat beautifully at breakfast and lunch, and only “ruin everything” (drama-alert!) around three in the afternoon.

A micro-chain of events leads you to the Snickers bar at mid-day.

In your journal, deconstruct how you end up at the candy bar.

Write about:

• what you eat for lunch.
• what small snack you have at 2 p.m.
• how you’re feeling (both emotionally and physically) at 2:30 p.m.
• how you’re feeling (again, both emotionally and physically) at 2:45 p.m.
• how you’re feeling at the hour you usually lunge for the chocolate.

Write your sequence of events that lead to afternoon junk eating for six or seven days and become an expert on why/how you’re caving into candy around 3ish every day. (Get to know your sequence so well that you could give a TED Talk on the subject. No, I’m not kidding.)

There can be both highly personal reasons why you specifically want sugar in the mid-afternoon (such as when you were a kid, your mom returned home from work in a terrible mood at 3 p.m.), but at some level my guess is that you’re also merely hungry.

Journal-write about emotional pain from your past, but at the same time, keep yourself relatively full during the toughest windows of your day.

Because learning how to shut down your particular mouse and cookie — the immediate trigger — is the hack to creating so much goodness in our lives. ♥

Pearl Three

Topic for July: how to keep steering yourself back onto the Smart Eating Path.

I live in Atlanta and it’s super hot in July. My sister lives in Arizona where its a billion degrees beyond hot.

We call Atlanta’s heat, “humid.”

Shelbie calls Tucson’s heat, “dry.”

My grandma referred to the heat she lived in as “muggy.”

If I tell you that it’s “blazing” or “freezing” outside, you immediately get the picture.

Naming things makes them real and helps us talk about about them without calling concepts or items “the thingy.” We can’t call everything “a thingy” we need to give “the thing” a real name.

Which leads to my point, we don’t have enough words for smart eating, but that’s about to change.

Today, we’re talking “intentional eating.”

When I’ve strayed off the Smart Eating Path and have become intimately involved with Publix’s ice cream aisle, one of the ways I rein myself in is with smart self-talk; I ask myself, “are you ready to get back to intentional-eating or do you want to continue ravaging the kitchen?”

Asking myself this question is powerful because it floods my brain with all that “intentional-eating” encompasses which to me includes: having my smart foods on hand in the kitchen, going everywhere with my cold-tote packed in smart snacks, stopping food at 6 p.m. and going to bed around 8 p.m. with a delicious book-dessert.

Intentional-eating also includes the very effective “drip, drip, drip” method I featured here in Pearl Three of this post.

Your Takeaway

Write what intentional eating means to you. Edit the list and write some more.

The next time you’ve overeaten or binged, and are ready to hop back onto the Smart Eating Path, pull out your intentional eating list and steer yourself back on course. ♥

Pearl Four

Books love us and want us to be happy.

Richard Powers, won a Pulitzer Prize for The Overstory, but I “met” him reading his 2021 book: Bewilderment. An Oprah Book Club selection, Bewilderment delivered one of my most favorite things: a first chapter that draws me into the story immediately. Too many amazing reads start slow, so I often remind myself to be patient and chill. Bewilderment‘s story is about a nine-year-old boy and his astrobiologist dad (studies the possibility of life on other planets).

I was feeling blue when I picked up Bewilderment, but finished the book feeling positive and perky. Also, Bewilderment is slim meaning you can read it in a weekend. I give it a solid four-stars, and have already ordered The Overstory at the library. ♥

Pearl Five

Stay away from those people who try to disparage your ambitions. Small minds will always do that, but great minds will give you a feeling that you can become great too.” ♥

Mark Twain

Sounds harsh, but it’s important to say good-bye to the “that’ll never work, it never did before” crowd. Let them dump their Eeyore-thoughts elsewhere.

Protect yourself by staying mum re: your burgeoning smart eating habits.

Have a good one and see you on Tuesday!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

My favorite cold-tote

The best book-desserts on the planet

Happy End of May, Thrivers!

Let’s get right to it.

Pearl One

I don’t have a thing against Starbucks, per se. I’m just not wild about any fast-food drive-thrus and their artificial ingredients that wreak havoc on our weight and health.

What’s that?

Starbucks isn’t really fast-food? It’s actually in a luxury class all its own?

Well, let’s get quick background on the subject.

Last summer the famous McD featured a Chocolatey Pretzel McSomething, but it’s been replaced.

This coming summer the king of fast-food is bringing us the Strawberry Shortcake McCalories made with vanilla ice cream, strawberry-flavored clusters (whatever those are), and shortbread cookies.

And here’s what’s important to remember, the summer McFrozen is “limited time only” so you and I need to move our caboose. Like, stat.

So back to Starbucks. Their featured summer drinks are the Chocolate Java Mint Frappiccino and the White Chocolate Macadamia Cream Cold Brew.

According to Starbucks’s press release the drinks are available starting in May in the U.S. for a limited time, while supplies last.

See what I mean?

McD’s McFlurry and Starbucks’s drinks are both “limited time only” and we need to move fast or we’ll lose out on this spectacular drink experience.

But my guess is, dig under the surface and you’ll find that the fast-food giants are actually serving “limited time only” desserts as a way to create a habit.

The fast-food peeps are aware that they have “true fans”, what I’m betting is they hope their specialty drinks will tempt on-the-fence customers and the never-evers (like myself) to drive screaming into their drive-thrus for a drink-dessert that’s the living end.

But here are the two pain-points for you and me:

1) Training our taste-buds to love a bowl of plain strawberries maybe capped with a swish of whipped cream is our life-long plan. If our mouths are having a party with the high-sugar and/or high-fat desserts like the McFlurry, the humble strawberry doesn’t stand a chance.

2) Eliminating our habit of stopping at any fast-food is the whole idea. Big Fast-Food wants to obliterate our good habit of cutting them out of our lives entirely.

How to get around the fast-food in your life? Read on. ♥

Pearl Two

You want fun-food? I once told myself, “Hey, no problem, you can have the food, as long as you first study the nutrition count.”

My rule for myself was that if I read the nutrition labels on a product or the nutrition count online then I could have the fun-food.

But somehow that gorgeous pizza didn’t look so awesome when I realized that – holy cow — a slice of Mellow Mushroom’s meat pizza is 530 calories, 27 g fat, 1,370 mg sodium, and 48 g carbs. And who stops at one slice?

The sodium alone is crazy.

Figuring out the nutrition count on donuts, fast food burgers and ice cream is life-changing.

Do you see what’s actually happening? It’s your cavewoman who wants to chow the pizza. But it’s your prefrontal who reads the nutrition info. leading you to make smart food choices.

Get the prefrontal involved and it becomes your decision what you’ll eat and when. ♥

Pearl Three

June’s topic for the month: what cannot be an afterthought in our smart eating lives. Every week we’ll talk activities that require hard-core planning rather than off-the-cuff moves we might normally make.

Today’s topic: we’re heading into summer vacations and planning how and what you’ll eat on the trip needs to be given serious thought.

I’ve been a travel writer for 16 years now, and I never gained weight on trips. Having a solid plan in place and not winging it moment by moment gets all the credit. Whether I was traveling by car or plane, I knew exactly how the food-situation would go down.

Bottom line: Know before you go. ♥

Pearl Four

Books love us and want us to be at our preferred weight.

You are owed an apology. And the Mountains Echoed by one of my favorite authors, Khaled Hosseini, should have been one of the first book-desserts I shared. The book’s genre falls under both “historical fiction” and “domestic fiction.”

Total honesty: if I’d read a description about this title’s plot I’d have thought, “hard pass.” But I’d read Hosseini’s other two masterpieces — The Kite Runner and A Thousand Splendid Suns – so I was 100-percent in. When I came up with the idea of book-dessert it was because of books like And the Mountains Echoed.

So, that’s my review: 100-percent. ♥

Pearl Five

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” C.G. Jung ♥

We can access our subconscious when we pick up our journal and allow our subconscious to talk with us through the pen. ♥

Have a fantastic weekend, all!

♥, Wendy

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Our daily motto: full immersion. Full immersion. Full immersion. Say it often and in time your brain will latch on and begin to make better smart eating choices.

Hi Thrivers,

Fun week babysitting an African grey parrot. So sweet, so smart.

On with the show! ♥

Pearl One

When my boys were young, we moved often enough that homeschooling them seemed like the best plan. Also, as a travel writer destinations and hotels don’t want to deal with media during their busy seasons, but in bleak February they’re like, “come on down!” So, the boys being homeschooled made it easier to travel.

And one son’s personality did not lend itself to the school system. (To put it mildly.)

So, I put one toe on the home school yellow brick road and never looked back. It wasn’t long before I realized that to do a spectacular job, I had to go all-in.

It was time: go full immersion or go home.

Homeschooling my boys became my thing, I even put reading my own books on-hold for many years because reading kid-lit was an enormous slice of our homeschooling life. If we weren’t doing an actual lesson, we were with Laura and Pa watching a railroad being built.

Point is: weight loss and preservation after age fifty also requires full immersion.

I know. I can hear you saying, “look, lady. My schedule is packed. I might be retired but I’m regularly knee-deep in a, b, and c. Full immersion might be a lovely concept for others, but it won’t fit my lifestyle. What else have ya got?”

That’s the thing.

I don’t have anything else. Attempting to live the Smart Eating Lifestyle without calling it a part-time job and living like it’s your part-time job is the only way I know of to preserve a forever-loss.

If you want the Ozempek quick-fix then, of course, you can lose twenty pounds for the upcoming reunion.

But if you’ve had it with losing and regaining the same pounds over and over again, the time is now to fully immerse into the Smart Eating Lifestyle. (Why is “the time now”? Because we’re not twelve, that’s why.)

As I’ve said, follow my bread crumbs. I want to forge a new chapter for women over fifty; one where we create the best, healthiest second half of life as we possibly can. And that starts with learning how to get to your preferred weight and preserve the loss for a lifetime.

I’ve mentioned before that when I caught a picture of myself at my cousin’s wedding, I honestly didn’t know at first who the heavy woman in the red dress was until I saw my very round face peering back at me.

We’ve got this. I’ll share every micro-step I ever took over the last two decades. Just follow my lead and we can make this happen. But first, commit to the full immersion. ♥

Pearl Two

Put succinctly, being bored when we’re living the Smart Eating Lifestyle is playing with fire. Insert fun into the harder windows of your day. Don’t take boredom lightly. Along with stress and grief, boredom is one of the top three smart eating day-destroyers. ♥

Pearl Three

Topic for July: how to keep steering yourself back onto the Smart Eating Path.

Acknowledging that you will slip into negative eating is the first step in dropping the traditional drama around food (“what’s wrong with me?” “I’ll never be a size 12” and so on). So, you ate the cheesecake. I mean, who hasn’t?

Here’s the new modern-day drama you’re fully encouraged to embrace: grab the ketchup (or salt, whichever’s handy) and squirt the blank out of the offending food that you might inhale. Or take a slice and then squirt it. You have to move fast for this trick to work.

Squirt like your life depends on it. No little blob-squirts, douse the sucker!

The ketchup or salt is doing double-duty for you. 1) Squirting the cheesecake with ketchup means that that particular offensive food is done. Now you can easily throw it away. But 2) the ketchupping action shouts to your brain that life is changing. No longer will we – you and your brain – be at the whim of food. Your brain is always watching, always soaking in what you’re up to. If your brain see’s you decimating negative food often enough it will think, “we don’t like porn-food. Good to know.”

After you’ve ketchupped the last of the cheesecake, wait an hour or two, keep yourself busy, and get back to your happy and healthy food plan (for me that usually means I make my blueberry-oatmeal bowl). And remember, even if you only ketchup the very last bite of cheesecake, you can still call it a win. ♥

Pearl Four

Books love us and want us to be happy.

Summer is for light and frothy books. Who wants to sit at the pool reading the Grapes of Wrath (awesome page-turner, by the way). In honor of summer, I highly recommend Lisa Scottoline’s — rhymes with fettuccine — memoir-funny books.

The books are a LOL-hilarious and a very frank peek behind a successful writer’s curtain. Also, they’re best read in order. 🙂

• Why My Third Husband Will Be A Dog: The Amazing Adventures of an Ordinary Woman
• My Nest Isn’t Empty, It Just Has More Closet Space
• Best Friends, Occasional Enemies: The Lighter Side of Life as a Mother and Daughter
• Happy and Merry
• Meet Me at Emotional Baggage Claim
• Have a Nice Guilt Trip
• Does This Beach Make Me Look Fat?:True Stories and Confessions
• I’ve Got Sand In All the Wrong Places
• I Need a Lifeguard Everywhere But the Pool
• I See Life Through Rose-Colored Glasses ♥

Pearl Five

Life doesn’t get easier or more forgiving, we get stronger and more resilient.” ― Steve Maraboli ♥

And as we’re getting stronger and more resilient in parts of our lives, we need to acknowledge and high-five ourselves when we pull off something wonderful like getting the colonoscopy we’ve long ignored or taking a new route to see clients so you don’t drive by your (once) favorite donut shop. Throw a little internal party for yourself as in, “wow, look at me. I haven’t had a chip or a cracker in a year!” (Large parties allowed too.)

Thank you so much for everyone who follows me on Facebook and Instagram. Very appreciated.

I would love it if you’d share a post with family, friends, even doctors. 🙂

Have the kind of weekend where you stop and appreciate how cool and accomplished you are.

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

My favorite cold-tote

The best book-desserts on the planet