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Happy December Thrivers!

I still need to get my niece and nephew something for Christmas. She’s 22 years old and he’s 19. Something small, but nice because I also include a gift card. Any ideas? She’s very girly. He’s just a nice college kid.

Would love ideas: Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

Pearl One

Politics completely aside, I was driving with my son, 20, the other day and heard him laughing about “Elon Musk’s latest rocket fizzle.”

My son was smirking like, “Musk is so lame.”

My “kid” is at the age when he doesn’t listen to me anymore (which makes for super happy times, for sure), so I had to let the “teaching moment” pass, but I can share the moment with you.

When Musk is shooting up rockets that tank, he’s merely doing what all super successfuls do: at every fail point, their brains are click-clacking away and they are learning as they go.

They’re like, “okay, we’re not at optimal performance.

Yet.”

That’s it. They fail and fail and fail until they hit the target. And that’s how I lost the 55-pounds and how I maintain/preserve today.

Consider taking out your journal and writing to these questions:

  • How do I think about failing in general?
  • Why am I fine with “failing” when I was learning how to make a pie crust, but I’m not okay with “failing” around smart eating? (Given that our new century has brought us a lot of new info. to the table like developing habits.)
  • What do I tell myself when I’ve goofed up again?
  • What exactly is failure – to me – around food, my body and eating?
  • How do I cheerlead myself?
  • How do I harass myself?
  • As a kid, who talked about my weight, and how do I think my weight was perceived?
  • What’s one new thing that I know today about losing weight that I didn’t know ten years ago?

The idea is to essentially have a conversation with your unconscious about how you engage (at a deeper level) with the idea of failure and how it’s affecting your Smart Eating Lifestyle.

Pearl Two

I meta-noticed that I like to think of so-called “failures” as life essentially saying to me, “Your attempts at such-and-such project have been impressive, but no cigar. Try again.”

It’s often seemed to me that as I work to bring a dream into the world, Life is pushing back like, “Show me. Show me how much this really matters to you.” And, “no, just doing x,y and z won’t cut it. You’ve got to make it crystal clear to me if you want to bring your dream to fruition.”

If the Smart Eating Path feels elusive to you as if, “this never works for me.” Just chill and think to yourself, “hey, it’s just Life pushing back on me.”

Getting frustrated and annoyed is normal when we’re grappling with something huge. Yes, I know that you feel like you’re attempting to lose and maintain forever, but what we’re doing here cannot be put into the same category with “I’ve always been trying.” No, you haven’t been trying with these micro-tools we have today like, always carry a cold-tote, Eat Before You Eat and so on.

At that, get on with your learning curve.

Pearl Three

In Pearl Three we do a deep-dive on James Clear’s book Atomic Habits

James Clear writes, “Success is not a goal to reach or a finish line to cross. It is a system to improve, an endless process to refine.”

I love the meaning behind this quote.

This is cerebral way to say, “just keep improving on a daily basis what you want to transform.” James is big on saying that if we just do better by 1% a day, we’ll make enormous progress over the long run. That idea never spoke to me. I’m too literal, I was like, “how will I know it’s 1% and not 5%?!” But he’s really just telling us that small positive shifts every day add up.

Challenge yourself to look for good ideas when you’re around people who don’t have an issue with weight and food. Watch what they do. Be willing to walk up to strangers and ask questions. Be willing to tell yourself that there’s always new ways to continually improve on our forever-loss.

Pearl Four

Welp, I loved the first book about Hendrik Groen’s life so much that I ordered the sequel, On the Bright Side: The New Secret Diary of Hendrik Groen, 85 Years Old by Hendrik Groen and am loving it as much as the first.

The writer’s voice is like having hot chocolate with whipped cream on top, cat in lap on a snowy afternoon. I found it to be a very comforting and gentle read.

In diary form for a full year, the book details the life of a charming senior citizen living in an senior person’s home in Amsterdam.

Sounds boring, but it is an adorable read. I’m only halfway through the sequel, but these two books will be gifts to my aunt in her 70s. Highly recommend.

Pearl Five

“If you so choose, every mistake can lead to greater understanding and effectiveness. If you so choose, every frustration can help you to be more patient and more persistent.”

Ralph Marston

Once I’ve sent this post to you, I’m wrapping my kid’s keyboard in lights! It’s funny, but there are so many ways “to do” Christmas. And now I’m thinking, “let’s hear from our Thrivers in Australia!! How do you do Christmas when it’s blazing hot?”

If you like this post, I hope you’ll send it to a friend or family member. And I’d also love a follow on Instagram and Facebook.

TGIF! And have a wonderful weekend!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

This article originally appeared in SixtyandMe.

Turns out, maintaining a 55-pound weight loss – after age 50 – isn’t as easy as one might think.

Especially in December.

Quick backstory: I lost the 55 in my early 40s and have kept them off for 17 years now. I’m 59 as I type.

I love a tasty buzz as much as the next girl, but at the same time I don’t want to drink what are essentially boozy desserts and run screaming from my scale on New Year’s Day.

Having maintained my loss for years now, I have zero interest in gaining and then re-losing the weight all over again. So, behold the alcoholic calories that I rely on throughout November and December.

But First a Few Tips

Go for the Lowest Calorie Drink

When you’d love something to sip during the holidays, consider the lowest calories in the wine world: brut champagne that comes in at 65 to 95 calories for four ounces (half-cup). We’re not talking sweet champagne, our drink is the driest of dry champagnes, so look for the word “brut” on the label.

Of the hard liquors, vodka is just64 calories for one ounce (eighth of a cup).

Do Ruin Your Meal

Don’t dive into even the lowest calorie drinks until you first “Eat Before You Eat.” Remember how your parents always said, “Don’t eat this close to dinner, you’ll ruin your meal!”

Well – sorry, Dad – ruining our meal is exactly the idea for those of us losing and maintaining after age 50. Before the meals where you know you’ll be tempted, eat an apple or banana with a teaspoon of peanut butter, have a half cup of cottage cheese or a small bowl of cereal.

If you’re anything like me, being hungry at a beautiful spread is a surefire way to overeat and over drink.

Limit the Number of Drinks

Decide in advance to keep your drink limit to two. No matter how low the calories, these beautiful drinks add up.

On with the show!

Fun Recipes to Try

Santa Clausmopolitan

Forget for a second that this is the cutest holiday drink ever, it’s also – if done right – seriously low in calories too.

Begin creating your Santa Clausmopolitan by ignoring the recipes that say to rim your glass with a lime wedge and then dip in sanding sugar.

Why? Because sugar is very high in sugar.

But if you’re looking for super-pretty, rim the glass in sugar!!

The Clausmopolitan I drink is created with vodka, low-calorie cranberry juice, a splash of triple sec (high in calories so a dribble is best), fresh lime juice and fresh cranberries.

A Chilly Chocolate Peppermint Patty

This tasty drink is my very own creation. Did you know that you can buy chocolate almond milk and that it’s only about 100 calories for a full cup? (Somebody upstairs loves us.) Add one ounce vodka to your chocolate almond milk, a drop or two of mint extract, and ice. Yum.

The Snowflake Martini

This delish of a drink is absolutely the living end.

Ingredients:

  • A little white sanding sugar, for rim (although I only rim when I’m really feeling wild and crazy)
  • 1/2 cup ice
  • 1.5 oz. white chocolate liqueur (121 calories)
  • 2 oz. vanilla vodka (128 calories)
  • 1 cup of vanilla almond milk (30 to 60 calories)
  • 1 lemon wedge, for rim

Directions:

Rim your glass with the sugar, if you like to go that route. Add in the ice.

Pour in the chocolate liqueur, vodka and milk, and finish by placing the lemon wedge on the glass’ rim.

Delicious, right?!

Hot Boozy Chocolate

Don’t be scared of making your own low calorie hot chocolate – this is totally do-able.

Ingredients:

  • 8 oz chocolate almond milk
  • 2 tsps cocoa powder
  • 1/8 tsp stevia powder or 3-4 drops of liquid stevia
  • 1.5 oz vodka or 1 oz rum (64 calories)

Directions:

Heat your almond milk on the stove stirring continuously (burnt milk is not fun). Once heated, add the rest of the ingredients to your hot chocolate.

Finish up with the vodka or rum.

For fun, I squirt a bit of whipped cream on top and add chocolate sprinkles (because I’m five).

And my work here is done!

Boozy Eggnog

My darling grandma – who rarely drank – always said yes to a cup of eggnog laced with bourbon. As I got older, I realized that the quintessential holiday drink held about a gazillion calories per innocent-looking, festive cup.

But then – cue angels singing on high – I stumbled upon the nut-nog market that sent the high calorie eggnogs packing! (These eggnogs are so delish that I have to limit myself to one cup or I’d drink the entire carton. Just sayin’.)

Check out these sweet little numbers:

  • I love the Trader Joe’s nog (in the cold section by the yogurts) with its insanely low 50 calories for a half-cup.
  • The Blue Diamond Almond milk Nog is also low at 60 calories for a half-cup. (I serve this one to company.)
  • The Silk nog’s soymilk comes in at 80 calories.
  • The So Delicious coconut milk holiday nog clocks in at 90 calories for a half-cup.

Just add bourbon (100 cals for 1.5 ounces) and a light sprinkle of nutmeg to create a boozy holiday adult drink.

Dirty Snowmen

For dinner I might have a small bowl of brown rice and veggies, followed by this bad boy.

Ingredients (2 servings):

  • 1/4 cup melted chocolate, for rim (optional, I forgo)
  • 1 cup vanilla almond milk “ice cream” (if you haven’t yet known the pleasure of almond milk “nice cream” prepare to be wowed. (There are 120 calories for a half-cup, but again, this recipe is for two servings).
  • 2 cups heated chocolate almond milk (about 100 calories if you buy unsweetened)
  • 1/4 cup Baileys Deliciously Light is lower-sugar and lower-calories than the regular Baileys. About 110 calories for two ounces (quarter-cup).
  • ½ cup chocolate shavings (again optional, I only do this for guests)

Directions:

Start with rimming your glass with the melted chocolate – if that is your thing. Pour in the almond milk ice cream, heated chocolate almond milk and Baileys drink.

Top off with chocolate shavings – or whipped cream.

Yum-city!

Skinny Girl Cocktails

I should tell you right off the bat that the Skinny Girl drinks come in rich-girl prices. I love the Skinny Girl low calorie margarita, but the brand also offers pina colada, mojito and several other flavors. But the really good news is that other brands have gotten in on the reduced calorie drink game too (like Jose Cuervo). So shop around for the best prices in your area.

The Simple Vodka Soda

Pick your favorite low-calorie soda and add 1.5 ounces of vodka. Bada boom. (Soda’s been getting a bad rap of late which it totally deserves. Turns out soda is not good for us on a bunch of levels which is why I limit my diet soda drinks to once or twice a year.)

The Vodka Martini

Ingredients:

  • 2 1/2 oz vodka
  • 1/2 oz dry vermouth
  • 1 dash orange bitters
  • Garnish: lemon twist
  • For looks, add an olive-skewer

Directions:

Mix all of the liquids and add ice until chilled. Then garnish and voila.

Vodka, vermouth (105 calories for three ounces), and lemon peel.

Bottom Line (No Pun)

Anytime we substitute almond milk and “nice cream,” or reduce the amounts of high caloric liquor, we’re automatically bringing the drink recipe down to a reasonable amount of calories.

When you and I are losing and maintaining after age 50, we have to bring our best creativity to the party!

Hope you’re having a wonderful December All.

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

This is how to use the calories: make them into a wreath and hang them on the door!

Pearl One

I’m often asked, “do you stick to smart eating even on vacation (I do), but trips aren’t the only exciting part of our lives. There are many days in the year that can trip us up.

The holiday season can be a bear for lots of us just as much as a vacay. Temptation is everywhere.

Christmas is a particularly tricky month because, unlike Thanksgiving, Christmas-eating goes on all through December.

We need a December playbook.

That is, if you plan to sail into January feeling at the top of your game.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about an elaborate plan of what you will or won’t eat three Thursdays from now.

No, I mean that every single morning, we draw up a fresh, new plan. If you’re like me you’re thinking, “I have enough to do, I don’t need more, but thanks so much.”

Okay, fair enough.

Slight detour: if your plan is to preserve (maintain) your current weight throughout December, it’s essential that you tell yourself that weight-preservation only happens when we call preserving a part-time job.

Back to our regularly scheduled program.

So, the first thing to do is eagle-eye points in your day that could easily cause trouble. Looking in advance for problem areas in the day means that we can plan smart solutions right at that moment before the problem even begins.

Here’s my plan for tomorrow (normally I’d write up this plan On Saturday morning).

Morning Plan for Saturday: My husband, sons, and I go out one night every December to see the lights and then eat out (usually a high-end pizza dining spot.)

The Potential Problem: Eating pizza won’t help me to preserve my weight or continue embedding my new habits.

My Best Shot: In the old days, I’d be totally triggered to chow slice after slice of pizza with my family culminating in dessert at home (because I’d already “blown-it”). My plan now is to eat well throughout the day; then when we’re looking at the lights (in the car), I’ll eat the apple that I sliced up earlier. If the apple doesn’t take the edge of my appetite, I’ll eat a small yogurt too.

Because I’d foreseen the difficulty in advance, I know to bring my cold-tote with me packed with sliced apple (don’t just grab a whole one, make eating smart easy) and a small yogurt + spoon.

Later, when we sit down to dinner, guess how hungry I am?

Exactly.

The whole idea is that when you order, you decide whether to have two pieces of pizza, or a fancy salad and not your cavewoman.

You guys, eating before you eat + morning planning is the superpower you’ve been looking for to survive December.

Pearl Two

This post partly appeared in a very old post.

Back in the day when food was my entertainment, I’d tell myself, “I’m SO BORED” and with that, I’d raid the kitchen for some “deserved” nothing-to-do-eating.

Today I deal with boredom differently, here’s what I finally figured out:

The feeling of boredom was never meant to signal us to locate and eat handfuls of M&M’s. Feeling bored is a challenge from the best part of ourselves to bring new exciting plans and ideas to life.

And excitement is different for everyone. You might be excited to travel like seeing the castles in Europe, while I want to fulfill a lifelong dream to learn Spanish. A friend might want to hike every waterfall in her state. Someone else is ready to adopt a rescue-dog.

Before I go any further, I have to add an important caveat: I’m not suggesting that if we simply embrace a new passion that the extra pounds will melt off.

But what I am saying is that when you coax your own dream-projects to life you’re establishing a better relationship internally — and feeling good about ourselves is part of a forever weight-loss.

Pearl Three

In Pearl Three we do a deep-dive on James Clear’s book Atomic Habits

James Clear tells us “You should be far more concerned with your current trajectory than with your current results.”

I think Clear is telling us that the future takes care of itself, that our work is in the now, the today, this evening and so forth.

I’ll never stop saying embed the habit, and the scale will follow. (But for December put yourself in preservation-mode).

Pearl Four

Book-Desserts!

Do I have a winner for you today. As I was reading I continually thought, “how do I explain why this book is so good?”

The plot is about a senior citizen nursing home in the Netherlands.

If you loved A Man Called Ove: A Novel, the 100-Year-Old Man Who Climbed Out the Window and Disappeared, and Eleanor Elephant is completely Fine then this is your book.

The Secret Diary of Hendrik Groen by Hendrik Groen is character-driven and hilarious. The voice of the diarist is cozy and comfy. As his diary unfolds, our guy highlights the various people and funny stories.

I loved it and was sad to see it end, but thankfully the author has written other books. My review: 100 stars. This book paired with its sequel makes an exceptional gift for readers who are tired of awful Nazi, and animals do not get hurt.

Pearl Five

While overeating would be seen by some as an indulgence of self, it is in a fact a profound rejection of self. It is a moment of self-betrayal and self-punishment, and anything but a commitment to one’s own well-being.

Marianne Williamson

Some interesting news: I finally have the book, The Inspired Eater: Fed Up! live on Amazon and I’d love it if you’d take a take a look. A review would be wonderful too.

Have a beautiful weekend!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

There’s more to Christmas then eating every calorie in sight. Start with the fur-kids.

Pearl One

Happy December, Thrivers!

I think this one will be a heavy-lifter.

I was so happy when this thought occurred to me. It really is our brains that will take us to our preferred weight, not the latest, craziest diet.

In the past, I’ve said that attempting to lose weight in November and December is just being mean to yourself. I encouraged you to maintain (I call it “holding”) through the season.

And I’ve added that it’s important to remember that the holidays are only over two or three days, and it shouldn’t be two months of overdoing it.

But!! I came up with something better.

I’m asking myself the strongest question I know of for December’s onslaught of calories.

You know the game “would you rather?”

Here’s what I’ve been asking myself:

“Would I rather eat all the things throughout December, but be completely annoyed with myself come the first of January?

Or would I rather, stick with my smart eating plan now and forgo most of the treats – not all, but most — and be thrilled to wake up on January one feeling awesome!”

Both questions are tough: do you want to “have fun” with the food in December and be sad when you wake in the new year? Or do want to be challenged to stay the couse in December and be thrilled when you wake up in the new year?

Of course, I run with the latter. I’d much rather keep my eating sane in December so that in January I’ll wake up feeling very pleased.

The idea behind this question is that when we see a plate of beautiful homemade fudge we’ll be snapped back to reality that January is — in fact — just around the corner.

Join me: ask yourself this very question at least two times every single day. Go!

Pearl Two

Our Visualization Tool. At a quiet moment this week, crash on your couch, close your eyes, and identify what the difficult moments will be food-wise in the coming week.

When you’re ready, write by pen or laptop how you’ll respond to each food-challenge.

I’ve written often about the importance of planning for get-togethers or parties so that we’re not arriving  famished to the shindig.

But what about dealing with the day-to-day of Christmas-calories?

In my life, the Scarfer starts buying Christmas cookies in October and after Thanksgiving is barely out the door begins to lay out his display every evening on the kitchen counter. (I mean, “thanks Costco!”)

Journal -write what daily challenges will trigger overeating and write how you’ll respond to each difficulty. Ask yourself this question every day and don’t mix up “fun” with fuel-food.

Pearl Three

Digging deeper into Atomic Habits

James Clear tell us in Atomic Habits, “The greatest threat to success is not failure but boredom. We get bored with habits because they stop delighting us. The outcome becomes expected. And as our habits become ordinary, we start derailing our progress to seek novelty.”

I’m so glad that Clear talks a lot about boredom because it’s a powerful force to contend with in our smart eating lives.

Have a long journal “chat” with yourself. Write about boredom and how it affects your life. Ask yourself: how do I handle the daily, normal boredom of the daily that we all deal with.

Over many years I slowly shifted from a food-focus to address almost every emotion including boredom. IF I’m bored food really does look like a little party for the mouth.

Journal-write about boredom and address how you manage it, rather than it managing you.

Pearl Four

Book Dessert!!

I read this week’s dessert selection titled Molokai by Alan Brennert when it first debuted in 2003. The story begins one hundred years ago, when the authorities take a little girl, Rachel, from her family home on Honolulu, and leave her on the island of Molokai (due to an 1866 Hawaiian king decree that those with leprosy would live out their lives on the island without spreading the disease to the main population). We watch Rachel grow up and fall in love. We also see the evolution of the disease, how as time went by thoughts about the diseased changed.

Only problem with this book? Oh, did it make me want to visit Molokai.

Molokai falls under the historical fiction genre, but is packed in historical facts about actual people who lived on Molokai and cared for the people with Hanson’s disease. It’s been twenty years since I read Molokai, and several scenes from the book still run through my mind.

Pairing Molokai with Honolulu (same author) would make an awesome gift. Highly recommended. Five sparkling stars.

If nothing else, check out the two books’ covers. Lush and gorgeous.

Pearl Five

“Don’t settle for average. Bring your best to the moment. Then, whether it fails or succeeds, at least you know you gave all you had.”

Angela Bassett

Happy December 1!! This month can be so beautiful, but tough. It’s okay, we’re up for the challenge!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Some people are just flat-out hard to buy for, but give them a book on their favorite topic, and watch the explosion of smiles!

I’ve read all of the books below (my dad reviewed the baseball ones ) and given many of these titles to family and friends as gifts. I hope this list gives you some great ideas for the upcoming holidays!

For every woman ages 12 to 104

A Woman of No Importance the Untold Story of the American Spy Who Helped Win World War II by Sonia Purnell left me floored. The author knocks this true story out of the park having researched and written the book in such a way that you can almost feel the Gestapo just steps behind Virginia as she flees France. Review: an incredible read. My top non-fiction favorite of the year.

Miss Benson’s Beetle: A Novel by Rachel Joyce. Don’t go by the book’s cover or title. In Miss Benson, two very different women find adventure while establishing a profound friendship. This absorbing page-turner would make a beautiful holiday gift for a dear friend. I loved this book.

For the baseball lover in your life

Baseball 100 by Joe Posnanski. A life-long baseball fan talks baseball’s Greatest 100 players in history. My review: my baseball-obsessed dad LOVED it. He read that his favorite player — Stan Musial — was ranked 9th and said, “I can live with that.” High praise from my dad. He even asked me to send a copy to his best friend from childhood.

My Dad, Yogi A Memoir of Family and Baseball by Dale Berra. My mom sent me a photo of my dad reading this book. He finished it in two-reads.

For anyone who loves to laugh

Is This Anything? by Jerry Seinfeld. Jerry at his best, but you definitely want to listen to the audio version that Jerry voices. Fun. Nee. (Plus Jerry is the gold-standard in the dad and husband department.)

The Complete Calvin and Hobbes by Bill Watterson. This is an awesome book-set for everyone. I gave a set to each of my sons. And I need my own set now (because I don’t want to accidentally damage theirs). After a rough day, it’s a sheer pleasure to sit back and enjoy the genius of Bill Watterson. My boys loved receding their own set.

I Can’t Make This Up: Life Lessons by Kevin Hart. Maybe he’s your favorite or, like me, maybe you don’t know who Kevin Hart is (“Wasn’t he in Jumanji?“). In his first book, Hart is our hero who battles monsters at every turn and triumphs in the end. While technically a memoir, this is really a motivational-map for success.

How did a kid “from the wrong side of the tracks” become one of the highest paid comedians in the world?! Hart details his life from being an unwanted pregnancy to the death of his mom and a lot more. Six stars out of five.

For the historical fiction loved one

The Splendid and the Vile: A Saga of Churchill, Family, and Defiance during the Blitz by Erik Larson. Wow. That’s it: just wow. (One cool thing about this book: many of life’s problems seem tiny compared to Churchill’s challenge of ridding the earth of Hitler and his flying monkeys. Erik Larsen is a genius at writing thrilling non-fiction. My review: Masterpiece.

Dead Wake the Last Crossing of the Lusitania by Erik Larson. Awesome, gripping, unforgettable.

Isaac’s Storm by Erik Larson. About the biggest storm in American history that went down in Galveston, Texas. Written in Larson’s usual riveting style.

For the memoir lover

Simple Dreams: A Musical Memoir by Linda Ronstadt. Like you, I grew up listening to Linda Ronstadt’s music and never gave her much thought; but after reading her memoir, I now understand what a powerhouse Linda was in the rock world. Great read about her life.

Orange is the New Black: My Time in a Women’s Prison by Piper Kerman. I know you’ve seen the show, now read the book and get the first-hand scoop on Piper’s year in prison.

For your hiker

Wild by Cheryl Strayed. Total five-star memoir about a woman who deals with her difficult younger years by hiking the 1,100-Pacific Crest Trail. Alone. If you’ve seen the movie, the book is even better.

For the workout enthusiast (& those who want to be inspired)

These two books paired together would make an awesome gift because the two stories intertwine.

Living with a SEAL — 31 days Training with the Toughest Man on the Planet by Jesse Itzler. This book was written by the guy who married Sara Blakely the Spanx founder. (He founded a bunch of companies too.) They’re both cajillion-aires, but are very salt-of-the-earth people whom you’d love to have as neighbors. The book is funny and smart.

Can’t Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds by David Goggins. Goggins is the SEAL member of whom Itzler speaks (I suggest first reading Living with a Seal, before reading Can’t Hurt Me). Awesomeness thy name is David Goggins. His story is stunning.

For the philosopher in your life

The Obstacle is the Way: the Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph by Ryan Holiday. Ryan writes compellingly about how difficulties in life can empower us. This is a don’t-miss.

For the kids (5 to 8 year olds)

The Magic Tree House series by Mary Pop Osborne. This series was the centerpiece of our reading-lives when my two were little. A boy and a girl — Jack and Annie — travel our world’s timeline via their magical tree house. The kids go on adventure everywhere they land and we — the readers — learn so much right along with the pair. Titles include: Dinosaurs Before Dark, Lions at Lunchtime and Pirates Past Noon.

Whether you give each book individually or give as a boxed-set (books 1-28) your little giftee will love these books. (My kids are twenty and still occasionally say, “Yeah, we learned about that in Magic Treehouse).”

School House Rock (30th Year Anniversary). Yep, every song we loved as kids are in this boxed set. A perfect gift for students.

More for the kids (5 to 10 year olds)

The Little House by Laura Ingalls Wilder (volumes 1-9.) Like Tom Sawyer, some stories are beloved by every new generation that comes along. I read the series to my boys twice when they were little. To this day, when someone says, “All’s well that ends well,” I ask, “Who said that?” and they come back with, “Ma!”

For your female friends and family who love to laugh

I highly recommend this series of non-fiction work by Lisa Scottoline. Books one through six are my favorites. Funny, funny lady.

Why My Third Husband will be a Dog by Lisa Scottoline (the first memoir in the series).

Does this Beach Make Me Look Fat also by Sottoline. (her sixth book in the series).

Bitter is the New Black by Jen Lancaster. Such a fun read! This book is Jen’s memoir about how she and her hub pulled through the bad economy. In wonderfully sarcastic writing, Lancaster details what went really wrong, but also what went really right. She started with the perfect life (great job, great husband) to dealing with the hard knocks of no income. Jen is funny, and silly, a little boozy and all around wonderful. Lancaster wrote several funny memoirs after the first: Such a Pretty Fat, I Regret Nothing, My Fair Lazy, Bright Lights: Big Ass. Jen’s memoirs will be particularly appreciated by dog lovers.

For the fiction lovers

Sweet Sweet Revenge LTD: A Novel by Jonas Jonasson. This author is one of my favorites. Sweet Sweet Revenge is a tongue-in cheek story with well-written, lovable characters who make the most of the hilarious situations they find themselves in. If you like to learn as you laugh, this is your book. You’ll learn about other cultures and the art world. This book takes a second to get into, but from there it’s a rollicking ride. Awesome book gift for those love “humorous fiction.”

Cutting for Stone by Abraham Verghese. A masterpiece written by a surgeon. Mere coincidence, but I was reading Cutting for Stone while waiting to see a surgeon. As he entered the room he immediately saw what I was reading and said, “that is a great story.”

Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine by Gail Honeyman. This hilarious book features Eleanor, and the story is told through her eyes. She’s a little different, very literal and very lonely. We see Eleanor get to know an IT guy at her office and this sweet story unfolds from there. I fell in love with Eleanor, and years after first reading the book, still remember certain scene like when her friend takes her to a Starbuck-like place. Funny, funny, funny, but in a kind way. On Amazon, Eleanor has over 200,000 four and a half stars.

Pachinko by Min Jin Lee. This is this powerhouse writer’s first book that snagged the Pulitzer’s Fiction Runner Up in 2018, and is proof that aliens live among us.

Free Food for Millionaires also by Min Jin Lee. Standing ovation for this author’s second book. This author is on fire. I highly recommend both.

The Humans by Matt Haig. When you first start reading The Humans you might wonder if it’s a non-fiction and then think that maybe it’s sci-fi. It’s neither. It’s a five-star read, infused with a bit of magic, that’ll make you just feel good to be human. The story is about an alien who’s been tasked with visiting Earth to see what humans are all about. The alien inhabits a dad’s body and goes home to “his” family. It’s a fish-out-of-water story and has hilarious moments, but is also touching and wonderful. Makes for a perfect gift.

The Midnight Library. This Haig masterpiece is about a woman who isn’t so thrilled with her life. Nothing’s going her way and she’s ready to bow out. She ends up in a purgatory that takes her down several cool life-threads. If you’ve ever wondered, what if?, this is your read. And Haig outdid himself with the ending.

The One Hundred Year Old Man Who Climbed Out of the Window and Disappeared by Jonas Jonasson – Funny and phenomenal. Everyone loves this story.

This is Your Life, Harriet Chance! by Jonathan Evison. This read falls under the really-good-fiction-that–immediately-pulls-you-in genre. It’s a thoughtful, seemingly light but a relatively thorny story about 78-year-old Harriet Chance, recently widowed, who goes on an Alaskan cruise. No hilarity ensues. Instead, Harriet begins the process of taking stock of her life, as so many do in the older decades. My review: Easy to read (meaning not a slog, grabs you almost immediately) and absorbing.

The Heart’s Invisible Furies: Novel John Boyne. I just found this new-to-me author this year (2023) and what a find! The Heart’s Invisible Furies could easily be Boyne’s Magnum Opus. Boyne’s writing is funny and poignant. This was my favorite fiction book of the year.

The Echo Chamber by our man, Mr. Boyne. Here the author takes on an entirely different genre. The Echo Chamber is written as a farce and very well done. In fact, the funniest line I’ve ever read in a book came from The Echo Chamber. After dealing with a particularly harrowing situation in his life, The Echo Chamber trounces social media and the whole cancel culture.

If you need more ideas, just shout: Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

Happy holidays ALL!

Pearl One

A dear friend and I did a “girlfriend’s cruise” together. Over lunch one day, she asked what I thought about intuitive eating, and in a flash I realized that I’d been intuitively eating all week on the cruise ship.

At hearing her question, it got me thinking about the various weight loss methods that I’ve been asked about over the last three years.

Take a look.

Intuitive Eating

Intuitive eating is a very cerebral approach to weight loss, only to be considered after you’ve preserved (maintained) your loss for fifteen years.

No, I’m not kidding.

It’s like we need to crawl before we can walk.

When we’re attempting to eat intuitively, we’re told to “listen to our stomach’s needs”, to “honor our health” and “discover the satisfaction factor.”

Honor our health?! What does that even mean?

I never fooled with intuitive eating until I lost the fifty-five pounds and preserved the loss for 18 years. I probably went overboard and could have give IE a chance at year-15.

In the years before? No way. (It was just a beautiful idea that did not produce hard-core results.)

Look at it this way, pretend we’re in third grade and intuitive eating is in a PhD program.

Intermittent Fasting

Others have asked what I think about intermittent fasting (IF). Initially I was interested in the concept of IF, but several red flags soon popped up for me.

One, I know that I’m outside of the norm, but I don’t think that choosing the open window (time-wise) of eating is a good idea. In my experience, the best plan is to eat a large breakfast, moderate lunch, a snack in the afternoon, and a tiny dinner at 6 p.m. (Decreasing evening eating is a heavy-lifter in our toolbox.)

And two, when we’re told that “we can eat whatever we want,” it means that we’re not establishing smart eating habits along the way that will create a forever-loss.   

Overeaters Anonymous

Then we come to Overeaters Anonymous (OA). A reader asked me about OA and I told her, “I’ve never used OA myself, but I know women who speak very highly of their program.”

Why I didn’t use OA back in the day? I have no idea. A lost opportunity for sure. (I was young and likely too mortified to talk about my eating habits in public.)

If you know much about Alcoholics Anonymous or Narcotics Anonymous, OA provides a similar support-approach. There’s no charge and they’re not commercial. OA is 100-percent about working with those of us who don’t engage well with food.

It’s my belief that pairing OA and the Inspired Eater will produce astonishing results in your life.

Pearl Two

I know.

It’s hard.

You’ll get no argument from me. Losing weight at our age is no picnic. And maintaining in December? Surprise! Not as easy as you might think either.

But amazing news: you and I can do hard things.

I repeated this gem of a saying to myself over and over when I was dealing with – like most of us — the hospital and some really invasive (rude) tests.

Because of these five little – but powerful – words I maintained my dignity when life was stuck in extra-hard mode.  

I. Can. Do. Hard. Things. Use liberally throughout December.

Pearl Three

In pearl three we closely examine Atomic Habits.

James Clear tell us in Atomic Habits, “The problem is not slipping up; the problem is thinking that if you cannot do something perfectly, then you shouldn’t do it at all…”

Ohmygosh, this quote is so me. Before I’d had my aha moment (late 90s), I was either starving (thinking that was how to lose weight) or eating everything that wasn’t nailed down.

I thought being really hungry was just part of losing weight. I assumed that thin people were just better at dealing with their hunger. And I know I thought that I was the only person on the planet who misused food. Seriously.

Where do you fall? Do you “all or nothing” it?

Because one of the biggest mindshifts you can make is allowing room for error or “slips.”

Shifting from “all or nothing” to “I’m only human and I’m learning as I go” will determine your ability to create a forever-loss for yourself.

We’re not in school anymore. The food we eat will not be graded. If we make a mistake and overdo it, the teacher will not talk to our parents, and chowing the cookies will not be on our permanent record.

Pearl Four

I don’t know why I even picked this memoir up in the first place, but I’m so thankful that I did. It’s essentially a modern day’s hero’s journey.

I Can’t Make This Up: Life Lessons by Kevin Hart. Maybe he’s your favorite or, like me, maybe you don’t know who Kevin Hart is (“Wasn’t he in Jumanji?).

In this memoir, Hart is our hero who battles very difficult people at every turn and prevails in the end. While technically a memoir, this is really a motivational-map for success.

How did a kid “from the wrong side of the tracks” become one of the highest paid comedians in the world?! Hart details his life from being an unwanted pregnancy to the death of his mom and a lot more.

Trust me, this is a don’t-miss. If life is extra-hard at the moment this book will keep you going.

Six stars out of five.

Pearl Five

“You have power over your mind – not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.” 

Marcus Aurelius

It’s a short week (in the U.S.), so then why do these holiday weeks always seem so long?!

I’m putting together a book list for holiday gift-giving, stay tuned. It’ll be in this format, “For the baseball lover in your life.”

See you on Tuesday!!

.♥, Wendy

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My favorite cold tote-bag to carry smart snacks.

Your powerful brain is watching everything you do.

Pearl One

Years ago, I was driving with my parents and my two boys in our van and I guess I wasn’t driving fast enough because one driver peeled out from behind me and went screaming down the road.

At that, my five-year-old son scrunched up his little face in anger and said, “There goes a. . .

“This’ll be interesting,” I thought.

“PUNK!!”

There goes a punk. Not exactly a curse word, but okay. The Scarfer uses the word “punk” occasionally so that’s where my son first heard the word.

Kids absorb everything.

My Point

Like little kids, our brains are watching everything we do.

If you weigh your protein every single time before you cook it, she’s watching and thinking, “Oh, okay we’re the kind of person who measures everything.”

If we stop eating at 6 p.m. each evening, she’s like “Got it. We don’t eat after a small dinner.”

If we have too much food leftover, she learned long ago to think, “Our tummies are not trash cans.”

If you take a bite of cookie that’s just not worth the calories and spit the bite into a napkin she’ll think, “Wow, we are serious about losing weight. We even spit out food.”

As you trek the lose-weight-after-fifty mountain, plan to prove to her daily that you’re utterly serious about smart eating

How do you prove something to your brain?

Through repetition.

She just needs to see proof that something really matters, so give her as much proof as possible.

Pearl Two

Hard question so I’ll go first. (We’ll do this backwards.)

My answer: yes, for the first three decades of my life food was definitely my primary entertainment and then I married someone who had the exact same hobby as me.

The question: is eating your hobby?

As we’ve well established, eating has been there for us when we’re having a huge emotion we don’t know how to deal with. Eating is there when we’re celebrating. Eating is there when we’re bored.

But do you also treat food like a good friend and a toy all packaged in one?

Here’s the thing, If you slowly take away one hobby – eating – something wonderful needs to replace it.

It would be cruel to take a toy from a toddler and not offer something equally as attractive in return.

For example, I love travel writing, but plenty would think, “but that’s work.” Right. But I enjoy it.

I don’t get hiking the Grand Canyon either, but plenty of people do it.

In your journal delve into what you love most in the world. Don’t expect immediate answers. Something might occur to you when you’re scrubbing the shower one afternoon.

Start by asking yourself these questions:

What part of my life is humming along beautifully and that I’ll keep in my life forever. . .

What is something that I love, but rarely do?

How do I navigate being bored, tired, drained, annoyed etc.?

And what method do I use to interrupt the, say, boredom?

I just really want. . .

I wish that. . .

Keep rolling the topic around and around in your mind.

(Small disclaimer: nobody lost weight and preserved the loss forever merely because they took up a new hobby. But having passions in life is just part of the bigger picture of losing-after-fifty.)

For me, my writing work took off around the same time that I lost the fifty-five pounds. I’d actually found something that I loved way more than food: writing and reading.

Thing is, it’s a big deal to give up all fast-food, not eat after 6 p.m., bring a cold-tote everywhere we go.

Taking away a favorite toy – food – is a cataclysmic change; be gentle with yourself and lose weight slowly.

And give yourself something amazing in return.

Pearl Three

In Pearl Three we closely examine Atomic Habits.

In Atomic Habits James Clear tell us, “How to create a good habit.

  • First law: (cue) make it obvious.
  • Second law: (craving) make it attractive.
  • Third law: (response) make it easy.
  • The Fourth law (reward) make it satisfying.”

Clear says that of course there’s more nuance to developing a new habit, but this is a very good start.

Pearl Four

I could say that the week got away from me, but the truth is while reading a book for our fourth pearl today, I got too embroiled in it. (After a thorough read, though, it’s not at the book-dessert level.)

I was considering one of these funny books.

The first two books look excellent if you want to lighten your mood. I don’t know about the third. I’ll read it and share it if here.

Comedy Comedy Comedy drama : a memoir by Bob Odenkirk. Bob is the guy who played “Saul” in Breaking Bad and Better Call Saul. I have a feeling it’ll be a great read.

Hello, Molly!: a memoir by Molly Shannon of SNL fame. I’m looking forward to reading this one.

Just being curious I googled “the best of the funny books”, and this popped up.

Titled, the Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole (1937-1969), it falls into the “humorous fiction” genre.

After I read these three, I I’ll share my thoughts. And if anyone has read one these books, please share in the comments below!!

I need a weekend of laughter.

Pearl Five

One day you will tell your story of how you overcame what you went through and it will be someone else’s survival guide.”

Brene Brown

Have a fantastic weekend everyone!!

♥, Wendy

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You and I are works of art in progress. We learn as we go.

Hello Thrivers!

I have to say, it’s been a tough week. Looking forward to a great weekend of reading.

Pearl One

Could there be more annoying words?

“It’s all about the ‘journey,’ not the outcome. It’s about what you learn along the way, and how you’ll be stronger because of the path you’ve chosen. It’s not the prize that comes at the end.”

Give me a break. When we’re very unhappy with the status quo, the “it’s the process that really counts” message just sounds like a lot of noise.

I mean, say a friend needs a hernia surgery, but first has to lose forty-pounds and can’t figure out how to lose the weight. It’s a huge, important situation in her life.

There’s nothing cute or sweet about food, eating, and our health.

“A journey” makes what we’re doing sound like a delightful train ride through the beautiful rolling countryside.

What we’re attempting here – a forever weight loss — is not a little, cute thing; it’s a big deal to shift from the yo-yo dieting world to the Smart Eating Lifestyle.

We don’t want food to have such a grip on our lives. We each want to be at a particular weight so that certain clothes will fit and we’re sick of being lured or – later — repulsed by food.

You’d like this experience to be somewhat doable, not because you’re a slacker, but because if everything is too difficult to actually work then what’s the point?! For too long we’ve all ping-ponged between “trying really hard” to “accepting what is.”

Couldn’t life just make this one process a little easier?

Yes, it can, but first we have to be honest and start calling our work what it actually is: a rigorous — sometimes grueling — trek.

Pearl Two

Once you’ve named the struggle it becomes more manageable. If you know what you’re dealing with, you bring the right tools and have a much better shot at success.

What do I consider my best tool? Every part of success starts with a thought in our minds that we then  make visible through our actions.

Take committing to bring a cold-tote along always. It starts with the thoughts,

“I need an individualized cold-tote. I don’t have one.” (This is the one I love.)

“I need to prep healthy snacks on Sunday afternoon so that I have something smart to pack in my cold-tote.”        

“I need a specific plan about how I’ll remember to take my cold-tote. (You can put your car keys in the tote.)

Every new eating habit you want to instill starts with your thoughts. ♥ 

Pearl Three

In Pearl Three we closely exam Atom Habits.

In Atomic Habits, James Clear writes, “The third and deepest layer (of habit change) is changing your identity. This level is concerned with changing your beliefs, your worldview, your self-image, your judgements about yourself and others. Most of the beliefs, assumptions, and biases you hold are associated with this level.”

This concept was new for me: the idea of “changing our identity.” So instead of merely employing smart habits, the most important piece is seeing ourselves in an entirely new light.

Last weekend, my sister was running into the grocery to get sandwiches for us. Before she left the car I said, “No chips! I don’t eat chips.” My identity has changed around what I eat. It wasn’t, “oh, should I have the chips? Or shouldn’t I?  kind of thing. It was just “I don’t eat those.”

It’s similar to offering a friend’s mom a drink and she says, “Thank you, but no, dear, but I don’t drink.”

How you see yourself in your mind’s eye is a thought. So, let’s go with “I’m very resourceful and can figure such-and-such out. How you think of yourself is is a huge component of a forever-loss.

Tell yourself, “I’m smart and I can figure this out” like 20 times a day.

         

Pearl Four

The author started writing this debut novel when she was just 16-years-old, and even though I knew her age as I read, it doesn’t seem possible that a young person could write such a sophisticated novel.

Scrolling through Oprah’s Book Club picks, I was pulled to this book because the author and I come from the same part of the world. I grew up in a snooty suburb outside of San Francisco that somewhat shoulders where the author grew up in Oakland, CA.

Nightcrawling: A Novel by Leila Mottley is rough, and gritty, and completely compelling. The novel starts with a bang (my favorite thing) and tells a fictional tale about a poor Black girl and how she manages to deal in life with a deceased dad, a mom in prison, and a brother who wants to follow his uncle to become a successful rapper.

We see the protagonist take care of a neighbor-boy whom she’s known since birth and keep him fed and going to school

Even though this is a work of fiction, she based part of the plot on actual circumstances.

Nightcrawling is gritty and rough, and nobody is saved by a rich uncle. Highly recommend.

Pearl Five

“Struggling is not the identity. You must learn to live while you struggle, such that anyone who sees you can separate the struggle from your life.”

Anonymous

The other day a friend picking me up needed to use the bathroom in my house. As she came in, I looked around and thought, “what a mess, but at least the dining room looks nice.” And then I remembered, the dining room was a wreck too.

It was, like, time to declutter. (I know, I’ve said this before.) Any tips, absolutely welcomed. Here are my challenges: I don’t know what to do about sentimental stuff like drawings from my kids and collars from my fur-kids.

Have a really relaxing weekend, Everyone !

♥, Wendy

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My favorite cold tote-bag to carry smart snacks.

My five-star book list.

It’s hard to know whether a new handbag is buy-able without a budget & why this matters to us.

Hello Thrivers!!

Can I brag for a second? I’m getting better at picking really good books for our Pearl Four book-dessert. I’m getting great suggestions from various Facebook pages and I’m also discovering new authors — like John Boyne and Rachel Joyce — and end up wanting to read all of their books.

I wanted to point out my favorite pearl today, but I think all five are impactful for our quest to lose after age fifty in a food-culture gone berserko.

Pearl One

If you and I are talking money and I say to you, “Save more” you wouldn’t know what I meant in terms of your day-to-day money decisions.

Seeing you look puzzled, I might add, “Save, don’t consume.”

At that – and because you’re so industrious — you might begin to squirrel away every last cent. You won’t travel, you’ll buy your clothes at the thrift store, and you’ve ditched the idea of having grand kids because — hello?! — they’re expensive and never hit the clearance rack. (You have to remind yourself to give your adult kids your decision.)

Without a larger, overall financial plan, it would be natural for you to wonder, “Can I afford a fancy hand-bag? I’m not really sure.”

In this situation, you’re attempting to purchase an item without having a greater plan — in the case of money, we call it “a budget” –, and without that guiding light you’d have no idea whether you can afford an item or not.

But that’s exactly how it rolls when various and sundry people tell us, “lose a few pounds.” And yet nobody explains further. It’s as if somebody hands us a parachute and says, “You’ll be fine, just jump out of the plane.”

So, you see where I’m going with this.

For you and I to transform our relationship with food on a day-to-day basis, we must first create a big-picture plan that will help us make wise choices as we go about our minute-by-minute lives.

The Art of Going Rogue

Like using a budget, choosing an eating plan is vital for our long-term success.

In the late ’90s, I just happened to be on WW’s old points, liked the plan a lot, and have been on it to this day. But when they switched to “new points,” it was no matter to me, I just stuck with my pal, the old points system.

I thought, “if it’s not broke, why fix it?”

And bam! that was the dawning of my realization that our lovely diet-culture didn’t — and doesn’t — have my best interest at heart.

At all.

I sensed that switching eating plans every two or three years – old points, new points, colors, eat carbs, don’t eat carbs, fats are good, no they’re bad and so forth — would not help me in the least. (Years later, I agree with me even more today about keeping the same plan throughout your life.)

My Thought

Create your big picture plan. Write out exactly what you’d most love to have in life re: your weight, your clothes fitting well and the like. Maybe you want to be in great shape for the grand kids. Maybe you want to be able to easily ride your horse without worrying that you’re too heavy for him. Or even – like me – you grew up as a butterball and want to experience what a size-10 jean feels like for the next few decades.

Whatever your dream, journal-write about it, create an Oprah-like vision board, and plan to go a bit overboard as you bring your plan into reality. Remember, by calling losing after fifty a “part-time job” we’ve freed up time to let our unconscious speak to us through our pen or keyboard, and our vision board too.

Pearl Two


This Pearl originally appeared in an earlier post.

I started losing weight in earnest back in ‘97 just before my sweet cousin’s wedding.

I was at the heaviest I’d ever been and, no, I wasn’t all lush and gorgeous like Christina Hendricks or Oprah.

Back then I attended weekly Weight Watcher’s meeting on the regular, and I’ll never forget one leader’s masterpiece of a metaphor.

Here’s the picture she painted:

Let’s say you need groceries.

You slide into your sexy red Corvette and drive to Whole Paycheck. Along the way you breeze through three green lights, park where nobody can scratch your baby, and head into the store.

All good, right?

But then the Weight Watcher leader said, “Wait! What if – as you’re driving to your favorite grocery store — you soar right through two green lights, but then come to a stop at a red?”

Do you roll your eyes thinking, knew it. Other people can go to the grocery store, I guess I don’t have what it takes. And then do you turn around and drive home?

Of course not.

That would be ridiculous.

But — her point was — we do exactly that when we swerve off the Smart Eating Path; we eat cake or Snickers or whatever and think, “everything’s ruined” and we commence to overeat for the next six months. Until many months later when we try again and end up in the same loop.

Year-in and year-out.

Manage Your Expectations

Here’s the thing: as you lose weight expect road bumps, slow trucks, and red stop lights.

Stop signs happen. We call them “slips.” Prepare for slips by creating a rock-solid back- up plan. (More on the back-up plan here.)

Pearl Three

James Clear writes in Atomic Habits, “Conventional wisdom holds that motivation is the key to habit change. Maybe if you really wanted it, you’d actually do it. But the truth is, our real motivation is to be lazy and to do what is convenient. And despite what the latest productivity best-seller will tell you, this is a smart strategy, not a dumb one.”

There’s gold in them thar words. Mr. Clear is saying that the human being is motivated to be sloth-like and to do what is easy. My guess is that you and I love the easy life because our ancestors needed to conserve energy every chance they got in order to see the next morning.

So, awesome news: there was a time when our lazy gene served us well.

Even better, Clear is advising us to work with our lazy gene, and not against it. The idea is to make it difficult to get donuts, and super easy to pull together an oatmeal/blueberry bowl.

Clear is essentially telling us to get rid of the food in our kitchen that doesn’t have our best interests at heart, to put small hand weights in the bathroom where we’ll most likely lift them two or three times a day (ten reps each), and to carry a protein granola bar in our purse so we don’t stop at Burger King.

The plan: make smart eating super easy on yourself. Make it a pain in the neck to access the junk-food.

In the old days, motivation was all we knew, today we have a deeper understanding about humans in general and how habits directly affect the outcome of our lives.

Pearl Four

I guess I’m a little bit of a book snob in that I’m far more likely to pick up a book that’s been at least nominated for a bunch of awards. But then I came upon Salt to the Sea by Ruta Sepetys. I opened the book only to find a page packed in awards, notables and honors. We’re talking “#1 New York Times bestseller”, “Winner of the Carnegie Medal”, a “Wall Street Journal Best Book” and on and on. Twenty in total. I’ve never seen a book’s list that garnered so many awards.

That said, I’ve only just dipped into Salt to the Sea’s first few chapters. Salt grabbed me on page one. Set in WW2, the book is told from four people’s perspectives. Reviewing the book, Booklist wrote, “An impeccably researched story of hardship and survival in Eastern Europe. “The New York Times said, ” Ruta Sepetys acts as champion of the interstitial people so often ignored — whole populations lost in the cracks of history.”

But when Salt to the Sea grabbed me from page one I thought, “this will be one amazing book-desert.

P.S. The reason I’m not further into Salt to the Sea is because I was finishing up last week’s book-dessert: The Echo Chamber. Fun and highly recommended.

Pearl Five

“There is no substitute for persistence. The person who makes persistence his watch-word, discovers that ‘Old Man Failure’ finally becomes tired, and makes his departure. Failure cannot cope with persistence.”

Napolean Hill

When I visited CA last week, would you believe that I left my phone’s charging cord at home? And that the four stores I went to didn’t carry the “special” cord that my phone requires? In the end, it was totally fine. But the funny part was that my sister and niece were more horrified by the situation than I was.

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Have a wonderful weekend, All!!

♥, Wendy

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A forever-habit that will always have our back.

Hello Thrivers!

Mid-October is the perfect time to say to friends and family, “please no food gifts in December.”

And to avoid a Halloween free-for-all, don’t buy candy that you love or even like a little.

Take me, I would never – ever — hand out Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (because I literally wouldn’t hand them out, I’d hide in the dark and eat them).

Pearl One

Remember how we learned in middle school English to never — lol — use the words “always” or “never” when we write? Well, sorry Mrs. Garland, because here I go.

Do you want to know the one habit I never stray from? I always “Eat Before I Eat.” I never arrive at the dinner table, party, or a restaurant hungry. Of course, I don’t show up full either, but you won’t hear me say, “I’m famished!!”

Here’s how to Eat Before You Eat: about thirty-minutes before a meal, have something easy like a handful of cherries, an open-face peanut butter with a touch of honey sandwich, carrots in hummus, a half-cup cottage cheese with grapes (one of my favorites), one banana and so forth. And if I’m driving to an event, I eat healthy snacks out of my adorable cold-tote.

Our mission: never begin a meal “starving”!

Taking the edge off our hunger by using the Eat Before You Eat tool is a massive game-changer because it puts us in the control-seat. No longer is the gorgeous plate of lasagna and crunchy garlic bread in charge.

Sorry beautiful food! Your spell over me is — poof! — gone.

Eat Before You Eat and your brilliant brain is back at the helm.

Pearl Two

When I was a teenager, my first boyfriend – a dedicated weight lifter and runner – would watch me plow through a stack of Oreos in the afternoons (likely while watching Donahue), and finally one time said, “Now you’re just boredom-eating!”

“Um, I’m just what?” Back then, I’m fairly certain that I thought boredom-eating was just what one did.

I mean aside from meals, didn’t everyone snack on junk-food throughout the day and night? I mean, my friends all did (note: friends can make our ultimate success truly difficult).

Needless to say, I didn’t have a clue how to lose weight except to haul out my standard go-to: the yo-yo (which we now know doesn’t work anyway). If I’d only known the main pillars of smart eating, my life would have been so very different (for one, I’d still have my gall bladder. I miss that little guy).

Fast-forward to my early forties when I shifted from losing the fifty-five pounds to preserving the loss, and bringing my boyfriend’s simple comment from decades ago along for the ride.

As I held Peter’s words close, it also became clear that our culture encourages all kinds of eating-scenarios that aren’t in our best interest. Take a look.

  • Entertainment-eating (the movies, eating in front of the TV, overeating at parties).
  • Friend-eating (you overeat with specific pals).
  • Impulse eating (someone brings home butter cookies in a pink box from a bakery).
  • Distraction-eating (if I’m attacking the kitchen I can avoid thinking about whatever’s upsetting me).
  • Evening-eating (when we inhale dessert after dessert at night).
  • Exhaustion-eating (especially returning from vacation or a long day at work).
  • The 3Es: every-emotion-eating (pretty obvious, but especially eating through grief).
  • Weekend-eating (you let-loose for the weekend because you were “so good all week.”)
  • Friday-evening-eating (same, love to inhale food after a stressful week work.)

A Better Plan for Our Smart Eating-Lives:

  • Intentional eating (I plan and then make a plan to plan. Planning is like magic).
  • Precision eating (I eat a small healthy snack every hour to get myself back on track after a free-for-all).
  • Fuel-eating (I know that ninety-five percent of the time I’m eating for the energy I need for my daily life).

Journal-Gems

To get a better grip on why you reach for the highest calories around, start with your journal and give voice to your unconscious through your pen or keyboard. An excellent place to start:

  • When did I first begin friends-eating?
  • How did my friends-eating progress from there?
  • How do I keep friends-eating habit alive today?
  • What is a good habit(s) I can instill that will take the place of friends-eating? (Name at least three.)
  • What would I most prefer that I do versus friends-eating?

While it’s not the last word on overeating, knowing yourself better will always play a pivotal role in how you engage with food.

Pearl Three

The Pearl Three slot is now being dubbed “the habit pearl” where we’ll look closely at great books on habit.

In Atomic Habits, James Clear writes:

“The greatest threat to success is not failure but boredom. We get bored with habits because they stop delighting us. The outcome becomes accepted. And as the habits become ordinary, we start derailing our progress to seek novelty. Perhaps this is why we get caught in a never-ending cycle, jumping from one workout to the next. As soon as we experience the slightest dip in motivation, we begin seeking a new strategy – even if the old one was still working.”

These words are gold. We know what’s it like first-hand to be in a never-ending cycle jumping from one eating plan to another. In the late 90s I picked a plan that I loved – WW old points – and I did not switch to the WW new points. I hear they’re doing colors now. We shouldn’t be changing our eating plan every two or three years. Choose one that you love and keep it forever.

Boredom is a huge obstacle to success to maintaining a Smart Eating Lifestyle. I even wrote the following post about exciting-eating: “Why Having a Food-Party in Your Mouth is Everything When We’re Losing After 50.” Read here.

Taking boredom seriously and addressing it in our lives is one of the pillars of self-care. When we ignore our boredom, we often default into food. I also wrote more specifically on boredom here.

Pearl Four

  • Did the book grab me from the first few pages? Five-Stars!
  • Will the book keep me up late assuring that I’ll be a zombie in the morning? Yes, so set a timer.
  • Did I learn something new from the book? Yes!
  • Is the book good enough to capture my attention over a six-hour flight? Yes, yes, and yes!

I’ve read three of this author’s books and am stunned at how versatile he is. In one book, the back drop to his story is the history of Ireland from the 50’s to current day (The Heart’s Invisible Furies: Novel). So it’s easy to assume that he writes “historical fiction.” An excellent book, I highly recommend.

Another Boyne story focuses on a man attempting to reach the highest levels in the literary world (A Ladder to the Sky) and could be called “Boyne’s pointed thoughts about the ethics of book publishing” genre (Boyne skewers the publishing world). Also, an excellent book. Thoroughly recommend.

But right now, I’m smack in the middle of The Echo Chamber by our man, Mr. Boyne. Here the author takes on an entirely different genre. The Echo Chamber is written as a farce and very well done. In fact, the funniest line I’ve ever read in a book came from The Echo Chamber.

The main premise of the story might remind you of Schitt’s Creek: the parents are wealthy and their adult kids still live in mom and dad’s fancy diggs. The dad is a BBC famous talk show host awaiting a title from the queen, and the mom is a novelist who doesn’t write her own books, but hires someone to do the leg work.

In The Echo Chamber, Boyne mocks social media, political correctness, and the Woke culture as a whole. But even as he shines a light on our current cancel-culture, he stands solidly behind having a deep compassion for all. (He likely wrote this book in answer to his critics who took umbrage with a title of one of his books. He was 100-percent on their side and yet they went after him anyway.)

Trigger Warning (irony intended): I’m only half-way through this very fun read, so I don’t know anything about the ending, but I have heard that the turtle doesn’t make it. So proceed with caution.

If you need something light and entertaining you will love this book.

Pearl Five

The secret to permanently breaking any bad habit is to love something greater than the habit.”

Bryant McGill

It’s going to be an interesting weekend. For our new readers, my dad died in August and so I’m meeting my sister in California to go through my parent’s things (my mom has Alzheimer’s and is in memory care near my sister), and choose what we’d like to have. Then my sister is putting the house up for sale. Okay, this is just getting plain weird. A new family will live in our childhood home?! But, but then where will mom and dad live?! Oh, yeah. Okay, give me a minute, I’m starting to get it. Surreal stuff this getting older thing.

Traveling to CA and then back to Atlanta is a lot of time in airports and on planes. Wish me luck.

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Have a wonderful weekend, All!!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I’m an Amazon affiliate. If you buy from a link in my post, I’ll receive money, but the arrangement won’t cost you a dime.

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

My favorite cold tote-bag to carry smart snacks.

My five-star book list.