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First we create good-enough success, then comes the confidence. We circle back around, create good enough again and more confident ensues. Compounding confidence, it’s slow, steady, and totally worth it.

Hello everyone!

I haven’t had the greatest week. I dealt with a doctor whom I really love who was surly with me yesterday (I think we had a miscommunication that I need to address); I have a bunch of niggly things to do that are time-consuming; and I still haven’t gotten my Christmas cards out. (For future readers, it’s February 10.)

On with a happier topic: when I first began writing the Friday Pearls, I’d assumed that each pearl would be one- or two-liners max, but because I received such affirming feedback from you (and thank you!!) the pearls grew and grew into the phonebook that they are today.

So, thank you again.

These pearls exist because of you.

Pearl One

(Your Version)

Today we’re talking about what I wish I’d known when I started losing in earnest back in ’97.

Choose Your Favorite

In Aunt Bea I write about the importance of marrying your favorite eating plan that you can live with forever. I like to think of my eating plan like this: I love my backyard and its fence (that keeps the coyotes out); but you should know that my neighbor has a sparkling, gorgeous, well-maintained pool.

Even though the pool looks inviting, I know that I can’t hop my fence, help myself to my neighbor’s collection of pool floats, and kick back for a beautiful (SPF) day in the sun.

An eating plan is like a fence, it constrains our choices and sets us up for a long-term success. Do I have a preferred eating plan that I’m pushing? Nope, not even a little. Some of us need to be gluten-free, some plant-based and others Keto. What plan you choose is between you and your doctor. Once you’ve chosen your eating plan, expect to keep it forever.  One of the most negative things to come out of the diet culture is that a new weight loss plan is being pushed every two years. This is not in our best interest, it only benefits the companies. Find an eating plan you like, and use it as you’d use a fence around your backyard.

(If you haven’t received Aunt Bea just shoot me an email at Wendy@theinspiredeater.com and I’ll send her right to you.)

Jot it Down

Keep a pretty notebook with a pen next to your fridge, and record what and when you eat every single day. Recording food becomes second nature once you’ve established the habit. (And if you detest this idea, read on.)

Twenty-six years later, I’m still at it. Why? Because it keeps me honest and engaged with my daily intake. The whole goal is to stop being unconscious when we eat and become engaged on a conscious level with our food. Plus if you don’t write it down, it’s super easy to eat more than you realize.

If the idea of writing out your food intake sounds like a terrible idea, journal-write about your feelings towards tracking. Something is going on underneath not wanting to track. And by the way, women who don’t want to track are a thing. You’re not alone. Many struggle with the idea of tracking. Journal-write and explore what’s happening beneath the surface of tracking.

We can do this. I may sound cheesy and oddly cheerleady, but we can do this. Just follow my bread crumbs and we’ll get out of the woods forever.

It’s Not Only What, It’s When

It took diligent work and the power of time to develop the habit of not eating after 6 p.m. I’ve found that if I stop eating around 6:00 p.m., I wake up loving the scale.

You guys, if you think I’m full of hops (as my gram would say) check out these two links by heavy hitters in the science/health world:

ScienceDaily: “Eating dinner early, or skipping it, may be effective in fighting body fat.” (www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/11/161103091229.htm.)

National Institute of Health: “Timing of Breakfast, Lunch, and Dinner. Effects on Obesity and Metabolic Risk.” (www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6893547/.)

Ruin your Meals

I never eat hungry because I always “eat before I eat.” Always. Eating before eating usually means that an hour before a meal with others or any large, tempting meal, I’ll have something like one of the following: a small container of yogurt, a peanut butter and jelly sandwich on whole wheat (easy on the PB&J), an apple or grapes.

Super Smart Eaters

Years ago I learned – thank you Tony Robbins – that rather than asking, “Why Me?” to instead ask strong questions that actually serve you like, “How can I eat today for maximum health?” or “How can I take my spinning workout from forty- to sixty-minutes?“

But then I happened on this 180-degree difference of a question – by writer Dickie Bush — that wowed me:

What would I do to make today horrible? (LOVE this question!!)

Writing is a human being’s superpower. I keep my journal in my computer (One Note or Evernote) where I write and write and write to find answers to my problems. (Feel free to name your journal. Remember how Anne Frank called hers kitty? An adorable idea.)

Journal-writing brings my unconscious to life and the unconscious comes up with coolest solutions and/or mind-shifts. It’s like seeding your garden. Keep at it and beautiful blooms will appear. Just ask your brain strong questions and write out the beautifully scented answers.

The Beauty of Compounding

Say you eat a bowl of Ben and Jerry’s every single evening for a week.

One bowl for a week? No big deal.

But say you eat a bowl of Chunky Monkey every night for a year?

Ohhhh, my bad! You wanted to fit into your bathing suit come summer? Sorry, but compounding is working against you when you OD on Chunky Monkey for 365-evenings.

Now let’s say that you’ve moved your measuring cups to an easy to reach cupboard  (at least two sets of course) and use them at each meal. Let’s also say that you’re eating healthy bites throughout the day like baby carrots, you Eat before You Eat, and you celebrate your tiny-wins – every day. . . for a year? (Heck, even four months.)

Now you’re using the cool party trick of compounding for your highest good.

So, be-be gone Chunky Monkey! Hello sandy beach in June!

The Insidiousness of Self-Sabotage

Self-sabotage may turn out to be a human reaction that’s triggered when our unconscious – our cave woman — is merely working hard to protect us.

Her basic motto is: don’t reach for the gold. It’s way too scary. Just stay in your cave where it’s cozy and protected, and there’s loads of food in the fridge! Do any of these scenarios sound right?

Self-sabotage might be a learned behavior from childhood that we’ve carried into our adult lives.

Or maybe having been disappointed time and again, you’re sick of trying. (You’re done.) But that’s okay: feel “done.” Let your feelings surface and journal-write about them and how sabotage unfolds in your life.

The more you journal-wrote about how self-sabotage unfolds in your life, the more skilled you’ll become at catching the self-sabotaging behavior before it sneaks in and tries to wreck your plans. Don’t let it.

Learning to say, “I see you, self-sabotage, and I know that when you show up, something is likely frightening me” is a great place to start in your journal.

Pearl Two

But what I really, really, really wish I’d known

Here’s yet another “fact” of life that the diet culture has long pushed. They like to tell us that when we do enough of a, b, or c, losing weight will become effortless. The weight will practically melt off. You’ll never have a serious craving ever again!

You guys, if someone tells you this – ever – they’re lying to you. Okay, maybe that’s too harsh, maybe they don’t know that they’re lying because they’ve never had much weight to lose in the first place, so they don’t understand how difficult this trek is for women over 50.

I’m not being cruel, I think we’re stronger and better equipped knowing the challenge that’s before us. I think anything less and the culture is infantalizing us when it says that “losing will be easy.”

Bring the right tools to the lifestyle and losing after 50 becomes a touch – just a touch – easier.

Pearl Three

During the month of February, I’m leaving this slot for talking smart mind-shifts like how important it is to call this endeavor of losing after 50 a part-time job or a hobby.

Today’s mind-shift: we’re first generation trekkers. I’ve often used the image of trekking up the Matterhorn as being as challenging as losing after 50.

I call us the first generation of trekkers because we’re the first to have a handle on how to navigate our food-porn culture. I’m not saying we’re perfect, but I am saying we know so much more than our moms or grandmas knew, and we’re the first to put this intel into action.

Be proud of the role you’re playing in history and take notes as you lose and maintain so when someone asks “how did you pull this off?” you’ll have the details ready to roll.

Pearl Four

If you’ve grappled with the medical system — and who over 50 hasn’t? — this memoir is like a gift from the heavens.

The Beauty of Dusk by Frank Bruni starts a tad slow. I found myself skim-reading and began to think that maybe the book should have been distilled down to the size of an article.

Thankfully!! I did not put the book down (after coming super close). In his early 50s, Bruni had it all: a phenomenal job (New York Times columnist and bestselling book author), friends, family, a partner: he was living his best life. But one morning he woke up with a blurriness in one eye that turned out couldn’t be fixed. Even worse, there’s a twenty percent chance his other eye could go down the same path, rendering him blind.

Bruni shares deeply personal stories about his life, his health and how he manages his world with a (mostly) invisible disability. Bruni layers into his memoir all that was involved with taking care of his once highly competent father who has Alzheimer’s, going through a break-up when he’d just learned his diagnosis, and incredible stories about how different people deal with disease or a disabling condition. Review: worth your time to read or listen on audio. Loved it.

Pearl Five

The greatest lesson I have learned in life is that I still have a lot to learn.” — Maya Angelou

One fun thing about this week: we have snow in our forecast at 100 percent. If it snows in Atlanta, it’s usually a light dusting (what I call “pretty snow”). So wish us luck. Usually when the powers-that-be forecast snow, it doesn’t actually snow. But even the tiny snowflake on the weather report is fun to see.

One last thing: I got my Pringles (I mean, my shingle’s) shot this week. Years ago, my mom’s friend got shingles in her early 60s and it was not pretty. I vowed that I’d get the shot (there’s two at different intervals.) Consider this a gentle nudge.

Have a habit-fueled weekend everyone!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

I am not an expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a nurse or a nutritionist: the information within TheInspiredEater.com is based solely on my personal experience and is not intended to be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. ♥

Weebles wable but they don’t fall down

Hello Thrivers!

I’ve been begging my computer to work all day, if you’re reading this I haven’t yet chucked it off the deck.

Let’s begin. 🙂

Pearl One

After Will Smith punched Chris Rock, there was talk that Smith’s career was over. But because I’ve been studying the ultra-successful for years now, my immediate thought was don’t count this dude out so fast, he may very well come roaring back.

Similarly, Elon Musk, interviewed a few years back by 60 Minutes was asked something like, “if Tesla doesn’t work out, will you quit”? Musk said, “oh no. I’ll never quit.”

Last story, did you see the hilarious Leslie Jones on an SNL bit, saying “Oprah got fired at the age of 23. Can you imagine firing Oprah?! It wasn’t a mistake, because she wasn’t Oprah yet, she was just some 23 year old punk who needed to get fired so she could become Oprah. Sometimes you got to fail to succeed.”

If you pay close attention to the successful “failures,” you’ll soon see that the ultras do not go “gently into the night.” They don’t give up because Kim Kardashian and Kanye West treat her badly on the world’s stage.

Of course, you could cry “confirmation bias!!” And in return I’d say, “I’m sorry I can’t really hear you because I’m too busy studying the successfuls and applying their strategies and tactics to my own life.”

The Ultras’ Playbook

Here’s the essential map to how the superstars navigate life: first, they dream BIG, then they create a written detailed plan and finally, they eliminate everything that’s not moving them forward. If a to z doesn’t work, they hop the back fence and kick down the kitchen door to move themselves that much closer to the winner’s circle.

If their country-western singing job wasn’t hitting the right notes, no big-deal, then they’d give being a pop-singer a go, but note how they give up.

Pearl Two

I didn’t plan on writing about the new weight loss med, but the Scarfer said that I absolutely should. So here we go.

I’ve tried to stay mildly current on the diabetic med that turned out to have a nifty weight loss side effect. The diabetic med, now called Wegovy, has being hailed by many wealthy celebs for it’s amazing powers to get thin quick effect.

Here’s how Wegovy rolls.

According to YaleMedicine.org, “Not everyone is eligible for treatment with semaglutide (active ingredient in Wegovy). Doctors can prescribe it for adults who have obesity, with a body mass index (BMI) of greater than 30; or overweight, with a BMI greater than 27 accompanied by weight-related medical problems such as high blood pressure, type 2 diabetes, or high cholesterol.”

My first, second, and third thought is, awesome for those who would likely die young from diseases that can come from obesity.

Once a week you give yourself the injectable using the Wegovy “pen” that’s made to be both painless and easy to use.

Yes, there are possible side effects like diarrhea, fatigue, and nausea among others. But not everyone gets side effects and if they do, hopefully they’re mild.

My Experience with Fen-phen

You and I aren’t new to meds that create weight loss. Remember fen-phen?

Back in the 90s I had a friend who had an important high school reunion in her near future. Panicking about her weight she became a devout follower of fen-phen. She lost the weight and looked lean for her reunion. Upon returning home, she had a small stroke. It didn’t hamper her life in a significant way, but still. Scary.

I also found a doctor who prescribed the med for me. I took it for maybe two days before the Scarfer flipped out and said that I was killing myself.

But you should have seen how clean my house was. (We lose weight and have a clean home? Bring it!!)

But Y2K aside, the Scarfer wasn’t usually wrong, so I stopped. I hate it when he’s right. You probably know that the FDA flipped out too and in ‘97 pulled the med from the market because a study showed it caused damage to heart valves along with strokes. ♥

The Crux of It

Whether we try Wegovy today, tried fen-phen back in the day, have a stomach procedure, or use a starvation diet, every external “fix” requires us to embed smarter eating habits, mind-sets and tools into the fiber of our being for the weight loss to actually last.

We’re tired of losing weight with results that don’t last.

If a pill or a procedure comes along that lets us live on Pringles and donuts, sign me up!

But until that joyous moment arrives learning to deal with the food in our food-on-steroids culture is the surest way to maintain a forever-loss.

Pearl Three

I’m keeping Pearl Three short so that this post doesn’t turn into a novel. During the month of February, I’m leaving this slot for talking smart mind-shifts. Today’s topic: I’ve had several ask me how I eat on vacation. Years ago, I would have gotten serious and explained why it’s so important to keep your great habits going no matter if you’re in the Virgin Islands or Vegas.

But these days I explain it like this: Just like I’d never leave my meds at home, I don’t leave my smart eating habits at home either. Oh, I might have one detour a day, but mostly I stay firmly on the Smart Eating Path when I’m far from home. Who wants to return from the trip to having gained five? Not I and I bet not you either.

Pearl Four

Two book-dessert suggestions for you today one non-fiction and one fiction. I love Stephen King, just not his horror-genre so I don’t usually read him, but I did read his amazing and popular book, On Writing: A Memoir on the Craft.

I know, you’re thinking, but lady I’m not a writer. Great news: the book is half and half. Part of On Writing is a master class worth of advice, but the book is also his memoir and includes details about the car accident that came very close to ending his life. He’s critical of the driver who plowed into him, of course. But he doesn’t hold back his fury at the two women who could have given him a heads up about the goofball driver in the first place, but didn’t. Phenomenal read.

The fiction that I’m loving is, Single, Carefree, Mellow by Katherine Heiny. Yes, I mentioned her last week. When I find a good book, I search out the author’s other books. Now, had I known that this book were a compilation of short stories all wrapped up in conclusions at the end, I wouldn’t have ordered it at the library. I don’t think of myself as a short story lover.

But that would have been an a mistake.

Review: fantastic read when you need something light in the domestic-humor-fiction department.

Pearl Five

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie (Creator of Peter Pan).

Have a beautiful weekend, everyone!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

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Did you know that the opposite of couch-potato inertia is Latin dancing? Well, it should be!

Pearl One

Our cave woman likes to think she knows everything, but she doesn’t get us — in total — at all.

Remember, the cave woman is the one who cheers us on when we feel the smallest twinge of hunger — along with emotional upset — to eat the highest calories around, but did you know that she also loves to muck up our dreams and plans too? Bummer because she rocks at messing up great ideas.

Let’s take that I’m trying a new Pilates studio. Take a look at how my own cave woman attempts to ruin my plans:

Knowing that I’m headed to an entirely new experience, she’ll come at me full-throttle hurling questions like, do you know how expensive that Pilates class is? What could you be thinking? You have two kids in college. Let me help you out, it’s raining and much too cold to leave the house today anyhow. Maybe come spring. Or once you’ve gotten into better shape so that you don’t embarrass yourself in front of all the scary, new people. (Cause no offense, but your muscles are like overcooked spaghetti.)

She thinks we’re nuts and that if it wasn’t for her wise protection, we’d have been goners long ago.

How to Manage the Buttinsky

Noun. Inertia. A tendency to hide indoors seemingly glued to the couch. Lumpish, draggy, lifeless.

Our cave woman undermines our best laid plans, but she hides behind the word inertia to avoid detection. I say, it’s time to blow her cover: the cave woman and inertia are one and the same!

So when we have phenomenal ideas, how do we override our cave woman’s grip on our life?

First, we acknowledge that our busybody is actually on the scene. She’s at her strongest when we don’t even know she’s around.

When she tells us that we’ll likely be rejected by the other Pilates hard-bodies (her wet noodle thing and all), and will literally die from being rejected, the cave woman is at her best. This is the moment when she’s distracted us with — what sounds like — crystal clear reasoning, but is actually just her way of trying to ruin our sparkling plans.

Inertia (aka cave woman) is relentless and will not quit until we’ve given up our “silly” ideas altogether.

So, how to politely give her a blankie and send her back into the cave?

As I’ve said, we start by overriding our cave woman when we acknowledge her presence. Not knowing that she’s in stealth mode is how she gets away with so much.

Second, we allow her to vent in our journal. We let her list every frightening concern she has and then tell her, “so noted, thank you for your participation.”

Remember eons ago, it was the cave woman’s task to hear the tiniest snap of a twig to then move like lightening to safety thereby avoiding an advancing predator. In modern times, the cave woman is always on high alert and assuming that a saber tooth tiger is around the next corner.

And trying to explain the difference between the saber tooth and a Pilates class leaves everyone frustrated and confused.

But great news: the cave woman is spectacularly wrong. Because in today’s world, her high alert mode isn’t needed to deal with our day-to-day lives.  

I’d like to tell you that as I became more aware of my cave woman it became easier to call her out and send her back to the cave.

But that hasn’t been the case in my life.

While I’m much better at giving her the slip than I once was, I’ve made peace with the idea that I need to use this muscle almost daily to keep my prefrontal brain strong and my cave woman snoozing.

Pearl Two

Now let’s talk about one of my most favorite tools ever. For the win: what is the opposite of inertia?

That’s right!! Momentum! Noun. The more and more (and more) I stopped eating after 6 p.m., the more momentum’s strength fueled my evenings. Getting out of inertia is tough, but it’s worth it because everyone loves the thrill of momentum.

How do we Create the Superpower that is Momentum?

Here’s how I get myself out of inertia and into the beauty of momentum-land as quickly as possible.

Let’s say that you want to read more in 2023. Your to-do list shouldn’t say: read more. Better to chunk “read more” into small tasks for various to-do lists:

  • locate the closest library.
  • visit library and get official library card.
  • At home, go online and order phenomenal books.
  • When the books arrive, drive to library and pick up.
  • Place books in your home where you’ll most likely read them.
  • Now put “read book before bed” (or whenever works for you) on your to-do list.
  • Suggest to yourself that you’ll read at least ten pages each time.

Et voila!

The funny thing is that unwelcome habits can be installed immediately. One time, I drove down a specific road and stopped for a vanilla shake — again, one time –, and thereafter my cave woman assumes that we’re stopping for a shake every single time I’m on that road. These days I stay off that road.

We all get that embedding a fantastic new habit into our daily life means a lot of conscious thought. Make it easier on yourself by using the power of chunking down to bring your new habit to life.

Pearl Three

You know what? It’s tempting to think that losing weight is merely a vanity thing. Not something true adults really bother with. Eat when you’re hungry and move more. What’s so hard?

I also fall into the trap of wanting to look decent in my jeans, but this week I was reminded that being overweight is a lot more serious than merely how we look in our clothes. Being overweight is also the culprit in many dangerous diseases including certain cancers, diabetes, heart disease, stroke and gall bladder disease. (Been there, removed that.)

Problem is you and I were never taught how to navigate a culture layered in food-porn. As you know, it’s a real trick to stay at a healthy weight with donut shops in every bleeping inch of our lives.

And keep in mind, the diet-culture itself loses profit (actually risks going bankrupt) if we succeed at a forever-loss. Same with the fast-food joints and bright, shiny grocery store aisles that showcase chemicals and poison inside every alluring box or package.

This week I’m thinking about a Thriver’s loved one who passed. I wish I’d known W. and had a heart-to-heart with her, maybe could’ve suggested a few ideas. At the very least, tell her that she wasn’t alone, that so many of us fight the food-drug.

It’s my belief that our culture hasn’t done right by the Ws of our world. We haven’t had a conversation about navigating this ever-present substance that’s so available and so easy to abuse.

K, today’s post is dedicated to you and W.

Pearl Four

The Pearl Four slot has become the book-dessert slot where I share what I’m reading and loving this week (thank you once again to Thriver, Ms. B for this wonderful idea). I should tell you that I won’t be suggesting book genres like chick-lit (for the most part), horror, or mysteries (maybe one day, I’ll get into mysteries).

I love books that teach me something amazing, but are also funny, and 100 percent entertaining to read like The One Hundred Year Old Man Who Climbed Out of the Window and Disappeared by Jonas Jonasson.

My book-dessert this week is Standard Deviation by Katharine Heiny and falls under the genre of “humorous/domestic fiction.” Standard Deviation is easy to read (meaning not War and Peace) and I read it in a week of two-hour chunks of time. (I’d make fun of her last name, but I keep repeating to myself, I’m a grown up, I’m a grown up, I’m a grown up.)

The story is about a modern day couple living in Manhattan who’re raising their 10-year-old son who has Asperger’s. But Asperger’s is more of a sub-theme, I’d tell you the theme-theme, but that would spoil the book for you.

I highly recommend this sparkling and touching story.

Pearl Five

Life leaps like a geyser for those who drill through the rock of inertia.” – Tony Hsieh

You’ve all been so sweet writing to wish me luck with my parents moving into their home. They’re going to a beautiful place right in their suburb. Thank you so much for writing and inquiring.

As always, if you liked this post, please share with a loved one.

Have a dessert-book-ish weekend, everyone!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

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Hey Everyone!

Let’s get right to it!

Pearl One

Some of us read every word of these posts – and I love it when you point out typos, I really do! – while others read one post here and another there, but here’s the thing: in not reading 90 percent of this blog you’re missing the full impact of how I was able to lose 55 lbs. and, 17 years later, maintain the loss.

I approached my own initial forever-weight loss and maintenance differently than we’ve long learned to do from your average diet company, diet book, or strenuous, unsustainable boot-camp approach.

Problem is, I haven’t figured out how to say that I have a better way without sounding cheesy.

“I lost 55 lbs. and you can too!”

See how goofy that sounds?

If you have any ideas re: how to de-cheese me, I’m all eyes! 🙂

My Can’t Live Without Strategies & Tactics for Losing after Fifty

I happen to agree wholeheartedly with myself that losing after 50 and creating a forever-loss equals about — oh — a million or so mind-shifts, habits and tools. But if someone said, “right, but if you could only pick three important themes, what would they be?”

I would pick these guys:

1. The Pivotal Reframe that Makes Losing Possible

Years ago, it dawned on me to call losing weight, “my part-time job.” Seventeen years into maintenance I now call it “my hobby.”

As you know, there’s so much involved in losing weight. Sweeping the kitchen of obstacle-calories, asking housemates to please eat junk food out of the house (said with a smile), buying the right foods (and gear like an air fryer) to make the trek a smidge more doable, is all a crazy amount of work.

So, calling this process of losing after 50 “a part-time job” immediately gave me room to breathe. I wasn’t trying anymore to cram my new Smart Eating Lifestyle into every spare nook and cranny of my life (and feeling boiling resentment along the way), but with the “part-time job” reframe, I had the luxury to open windows of time that allowed me to set myself up for success.

2. I don’t let myself get hungry

Could there be a more important strategy? Me-thinks not. You and I have a habit with hunger and it’s not a good one.

Allowing ourselves to get overly-hungry is the sure-fire way to mess up our smart eating plans.

And I’m not only talking about famished-hunger, I’m talking about the kind of hunger that presents itself after a meal when we think, “a handful of peanut M&Ms sure sounds tasty.”

Which was me last night.

And after these many years, the cave woman part of my brain suggested this very handful of candy just last night.

It wasn’t ten or twenty years ago.

It was last night.

Before I started to vacuum up the calories, I realized what was happening — I was still merely hungry — and had a small bowl of cereal. Disaster averted.

My M&M craving? Gone.

Bottom line: nobody makes smart food choices when she’s hungry.

My tactics: live life with your cold-tote — packed in smart food – by your side. Always Eat Before You Eat. And never, ever return home hungry.

3. I Plan and Plan and Plan

In case you’re wondering, maintaining a 55-pound loss after age 50 is no picnic. So planning is a monumental part of my day-to-day.

My tactics: On Sunday afternoons, I make food that I can grab on the run like my whole-wheat pumpkin muffins; I hard boil eggs. I make two servings or so of brown rice. I read restaurant menus online in advance of entering the venue. I keep junk food out of my kitchen and smart food beautifully displayed in it.

Pearl Two

If you’re new to the Inspired Eater, you should know that I was a butterball from age seven or eight until about the age of 42. (If you’d like the details re: my fun life with food, check out theses two links: About Me and Begin Here.)

One time in my 30s, I was at a casual meeting with four or five colleagues and the issue of weight and healthy eating came up. The group started chattering away about how they eat well by bringing such-and-such to work and . . . then they all looked at me, grew silent, and quickly moved onto the next agenda item.

And you know what?

It didn’t really bother me – yes, it hurt a little – because at that point I’d already lost ten or fifteen pounds and knew that I was headed for a forever-loss. I was new to the group and these women didn’t know how far I’d already come.

This sort of experience is why I say, “I understand. Being heavy is hard for a gazillion different reasons and losing the weight is super hard because, well, we LOVE food!!”

And that’s my point: we don’t need to love food in all caps ever again. We’re taking ourselves from capital LOVE to lowercase “love” when it comes to food.

Same with actual meals. Don’t make dishes that taste GREAT!

Make delicious food that’s good enough.

See the difference? We can love food that’s a B- and keep the A+ gob-smacking, unbelievable food as the rare treat.

Let others think what they will, we know we’re headed some place special (and it’s called a “forever-loss”).

Pearl Three

A funny celebrity story. Remember how Renee Zellweiger gained about 30 lbs. for Bridget Jones’s Diary? Well I laughed when I heard her once say – and I’m paraphrasing – that she was perplexed to realize that to gain weight, one donut wouldn’t do the trick and that she’d had to eat many calories along with other high-fat foods to plump up for the role.

It’s good intell for you and me. It’s not one cone, one slice of birthday cake, or one bowl of mac ‘n cheese, it’s the amount that matters (and, yes, I know you know, but I wanted to share anyway).

You and I aren’t usually food-hungry or we’d stop at “one” of whatever food. When we plow through many, many calories we’re starving for something much deeper.

And the only portal I know of that takes us to our super wise sub-conscious — on a daily basis — is journal-writing. Ask yourself quality questions such as, what was happening inside of me the moment before, the hour before, the day before, the week before, and the month before I chowed the leftover pizza from last night (my sons were all, “what happened to the pizza?”). It’s powerful: give your highly-evolved sub-conscious a voice and watch her amaze you.

Pearl Four

For some time we’ve used Pearl Four to talk food that’s both tasty and nutritious, but I’m pretty tapped out. I think I’ve shared my reliables: stir-fry, whole-wheat pumpkin (or banana or apple) muffins, really good fruit in the summer, and smoothies. If you’ve found a super helpful food please share in the comments below. We can all use a new food that makes our trek a little less daunting. Include how I make smart food on The Inspired Eater: Fed Up.

That said, have I shared with you that there’s an almond milk that’s just 30 calories? I live on it. While it comes in plain, I love “vanilla.” You’ll find it at your grocery store with the other milks.

Our new Pearl Four is thanks to a suggestion by Ms. B, who asked that I share good books. Great idea!

Here goes.

My habit is to try several books each week and ditch the ones that don’t work for me. I read to about page 10 or even 20, but if something doesn’t improve, back into my library bag it goes. I promise to only share amazing books that I LOVE (caps intended; books deserve it).

The author I have for you today is Matt Haig who authored two incredible, wowza books:

The Humans. When you first start reading The Humans you might wonder if it’s a non-fiction and then think that maybe it’s sci-si. It’s neither. It’s a five-star read, infused with a bit of magic, that’ll make you happy to be a human. The story is about an alien who’s been tasked with visiting Earth to see what humans are all about. The alien inhabits a dad’s body and goes home to “his” family. It’s a fish-out-of-water story and has humorous moments, but it’s touching and wonderful and please read it.

The Midnight Library. This Haig-masterpiece is about a woman who isn’t so thrilled with her life. Nothing’s going her way and she’s done. She ends up in a purgatory that takes her down several cool life-threads. If you’ve ever wondered, what if?, this is your read. And Haig outdid himself with the ending.

I highly recommend both The Humans and The Midnight Library. They’re easy to read and you can plow through each in a weekend.

Pearl Five

“What did you think? I would not comeback? See I am back.” ~ Invajy

I LOVE this quote (again, caps intended). The idea being: don’t ever give up. So what if you ate the entire bag of Doritos and your tongue is numb and orange? Ditch the drama, journal-write about what went south that led to the emptied Dorito bag, and then do your “ta-da” comeback (we’ve so got this).

I would love it if you’d follow me on Instagram and/or Twitter!

And if something touched you in the post, I’d appreciate it so much if you’d share it with a loved one.

Have a dessert-book-ish weekend!

♥, Wendy

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Everything exquisite is much, much harder than it looks.

Wreath by theSplendidDoor

Pearl One

I’ve said, you’ve said, we’ve all said, “I’m going on a diet.”

As if a forever-loss is akin to saying, “I’m going to college.” Or, “I’m raising kids.” Or, “I’m training to be a heart surgeon.”

You and I know that college, kids and highly skilled jobs require – oh — about a gazillion-steps each. (Not to mention the exorbitant price tag.)

And yet we don’t accord ourselves the same respect when we say, “I’m going on a diet.” We make it sound like an easy one-and-done activity.

Our culture is entranced with the story of “easy.” Seriously, listen to how often the word “easy” comes up in the media, on product and store signage, and even in the language of you, me and everyone in our world.

We’ve all been trained to throw the word “easy” into whatever we’re talking about.

As if “easy” is really a thing.

Easy is not a thing.

Why do we banter the word around? My guess is because life is so very arduous and demanding (and sometimes tragic).

But can we blame our culture? Somewhat, yes. We can say that navigating our culture’s food is a sizeable part of the problem. If we’re drug addicted, we wouldn’t want to see cocaine drive-thrus on every corner. And yet those of us decreasing our food dependence face food-porn at every turn.

I know what you’re thinking: The culture will do what the culture is going to do, I’m the one to blame for my weight issue.

And to that I say, you’re wrong. Here’s why: It’s vital to acknowledge what we’re actually dealing with. We marinate in a food-on-steroids world, but act like it’s no biggie.

But as you know, it’s a biggie. Because if we don’t get this truth, then we don’t bring the right tools to the trek.

So, take this thought in and chew on it for a while: we’ve taken the enjoyment of food far past what our grandparents could have imagined. Today, we use food for entertainment, comfort, companionship, and for celebration.

And yet, our brains were never created to deal with so many calories so easily accessible on the regular.

So if you call yourself “weak” and think, everyone else can handle it, again, you’d be wrong. In our culture, most are grappling with some substance. If we’re not about to over drink, do drugs, or smoke, overeating is the next obvious choice when we need to chill.

Can we learn to live without overeating? Of course.

Is it easy? I’d be lying to you if I said “yes.”

You and I are trekking one of the Matterhorns of our lives — yes, you and I didn’t show up on the planet yesterday, we’ve been up many a Matterhorn — and it requires serious planning, practice, and tools. It requires the serious everything. Including the smart back-up plan.

And that’s our takeaway. Nothing about losing and maintaining after 50 is “easy.” Somebody has to be honest. Thing is, you already know what I’m saying is right. You’ve long known that our trek is super difficult. Now give your inner wisdom the floor, because she knows the truth. She knows that the emperor is wearing no clothes.

Pearl Two

So what to do with the idea that losing after 50 and maintaining a forever-loss is akin to a PhD? I’m so glad you asked!

The coveted degree is buried in micro-moves.

You know how there are a million steps in attaining an undergraduate degree and many more in earning a Masters or higher?

The steps to getting degrees can fill books.

That’s how I look at losing 55 lbs. in my 40s and am into year 17 of maintenance. There’s a billion step involved.

(And, no, you can’t use the “I’m too old” excuse. Why? Well, that’s another pearl, but for now no “I’m an old dog” talk.)

In a sense, when you acknowledge the bajillion micro-steps you’re essentially writing your own book about how losing and maintaining after 50 is going down in your life. And I strongly encourage you to literally write every day in your journal the steps you are taking — daily — as you evolve into a smart eater.

You’ll be writing about actual eating (what are my worst times of day? What are my easiest? How can I plan for the toughest times? Like, do I have a play-book for Friday nights? Or long afternoons? Or lonely evenings?).

You’ll be writing about your emotional life (what is the emotion I struggle with most in life? In my life, I struggle big-time with self-forgiveness. Seems like the more mature I get, the more horrified I am about the antics of younger-me).

You’ll go into the entertainment part of your life (what do I do for fun? Besides eating or cooking or watching shows about eating or cooking).

You’ll consider how you soothe you (how do I calm myself when it hits the fan? Besides any of the crutches).

I could go on and on. Because so much is involved in losing and maintaining. Not to belabor, but the very notion that any of this is “easy” is preposterous.

Once you’re onboard with how many micro-moves are involved in creating a forever-loss, the closer you’ll be to creating one.

Pearl Three

I can’t emphasize enough that if you love to read, the power of book desserts can create a new habit for yourself that sees you going to bed early, dessert in hand, and reaping the rewards.

A thriver – Ms. B. — suggested that I share the book I’m currently reading and also share what I’m reading next (see below). Now, the reason I haven’t shared is that I assumed that you only wanted to hear about the five-star books. But I like your idea, B, because why not share 4.5 star books too?

They’re still exceptional reads.

I just finished a book from one of my favorite authors, Erik Larson. His book Thunderstruck tells how Marconi’s invention of wireless communication went hand-in-glove with England’s second most famous murder (after Jack the Ripper). And the second most famous murder wasn’t serial-killer, gory stuff. (There’s a different reason that the murder was so well-known in England.)

You guys, the ending to this book is astonishing. If you haven’t read Larson he shares stories from history and tells them in the most insanely exciting way possible. (And Larson explains how he finds and uses primary material: his goal being to take solid facts and spin them into a jaw-dropping story.)

Review about Thunderstruck: because Larson was still relatively new to this genre — creating roller coaster reads— the first 100 pages were a tad dry. They were about Marconi and his place in our world.

But around page 100, the book picks up and soon soars. I highly recommend Thunderstruck, but if you get bored, just skim like I did. At a certain point your skimming days moments will be over.

My favorite Larson books: The Splendid and the Vile, Dead Wake the Last Crossing of the Lusitania, and Isaac’s Storm.

My Next Book: The Winners by another favorite author, Fredrik Backman (A Man Called Ove).

Great idea B!!

Pearl Four

In 2022 I set aside Pearl Four to talk healthy, tasty food. Honestly, I’m pretty sure that I’ve hit on the various foods I use regularly to make the losing-after-50 trek more fun.

But reader M has made two variations based on “my” (found in a local mag 20 years ago) whole-wheat muffin recipe.

There was a time when my picky-eater son only ate about five foods, and the whole-wheat muffin recipe in pumpkin was one of them.

But as he grew, I branched out and swapped bananas and walnuts for the pumpkin. Reader, M, went a step further, she emailed:

Hi Wendy,

I thought I’d show you my newest variation on your whole wheat pumpkin muffin recipe (scroll to Pearl Four to see details on how to bake these gems).

I had some apples I wanted to use, so I cut them into chunks and microwaved them at 50% power for 1 min, several times until they felt squishy with a fork.

Then I made your recipe and used them instead of the pumpkin. I realized when I was spooning the batter into the muffin cups that I should have gone ahead and mashed up the apples into a kind of puree, but too late!  So some of the muffins might have little or no apples in them, oh well! Live and learn hopefully!

Oh, I also added some sprinkles to the dough, but I don’t think they show up very well.

I don’t know how they taste yet, but they smell good!

Muffin review:  Update! They are yummy! I have to say, next time, maybe I’ll mash most of the apples, but leave a few chunks to press into each muffin. The sensation when biting into one of the apple chunks was YUM!

Okay, I’m in. Using apples in this recipe sounds awesome. I’m wondering if M added a teaspoon of cinnamon to the batch to make it taste more apple pie-ish. Thank you M for sharing a moment in your life with us!

Pearl Five

Real transformation requires real honesty. If you want to move forward – get real with yourself.” – Bryant McGill

I would love it if you’d follow me on Instagram and/or Twitter!

Have a great weekend, everyone!

♥, Wendy

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My favorite cold tote-bag to carry smart snacks.

My five-star book list.

Pearl One

Back in the day, I always felt a surge of excitement when I’d start my “diet” whether it was on a Monday morning, at the beginning of May (to be ready for summer) or on New Year’s Day.

And, in every scenario, I’d crash and burn within weeks (sometimes days).

Never once did it occur to me that committing to a future time-frame (I’ll start Monday) went hand-in-glove with the inevitable decimation I’d have a few weeks later.

Now that I’ve maintained my loss for 17 years, it’s become blindingly clear that creating a forever-loss involves about 102 different mind-shifts, skills, and habits.

Our culture pushes the idea that the cool kids live it up over the holidays, but batten down the hatches on January one.

When the new diet loses its luster, it’s become a hilarious cultural norm to say, “At least I made it to February with my resolution intact!!” (Yuck, yuck, yuck.)

But, when we’re alone, we’re not laughing.

If you’ve started the year with a resolve to eat well, take a look at my top tips for spinning a traditional resolution into a forever Smart Eating Lifestyle.

1. The Clarity Anchor.

In Atomic Habits, James Clear writes, “Many people think they lack motivation when what they really lack is clarity.”

I recently heard that the addiction world calls it “a moment of clarity” when something huge has happened to us and we’re changed, but I call it, “deepening our why.”

As I’ve mentioned, I’ve never been one to maintain a workout schedule. So for the first year when I started my yoga/Pilates habit, I’d drive away from my cozy home thinking, it’s for the boys, it’s for the boys, it’s for the boys.

But by the second year, my mantra morphed into, “community! Friends! Strength!”

When we’re burning out on an activity it’s vital to return to your “why” and journal-write about it. Your why may have changed and you might need to ID an entirely new why for the current day.

Put the question to your subconscious and let it solution-solve for you. Journal prompts: I’m so tired of a, b, and c. Which part of the new habit do I particularly dislike? What part do I love? What’s my original why? Does it need deepening? Or do I need a new why altogether? What excuses do I lean on to end the new habit? How do I navigate “boredom”? How do I manage disappointment?

2. Do you Accept Your Natural Rhythms?

As you’re developing a smart new habit, are you working within the parameters of your personality? For example, I’m a morning person, I love animals, and I never embraced skiing (after years on the slopes).

When I make a forever-change in my life I work with who I am. In other words, I’m not a giraffe trying to be a parrot.

Problems often arise when I work way, way outside of “me.”

Example, I can goal myself to create a morning run schedule that sees me heading out the door at 5 a.m. for a run, but – bahaha – I crack myself up.

Will never happen.

My most productive writing time is in the morning from about 8 a.m. to noon. I schedule appointments for the afternoon, when words are difficult and make writing pointless.

In other words, I work within my natural rhythms. Anything less and I’m taking a difficult trek and making it that much harder. Journal prompt: When you hit burn-out, are you working with who you are at your core?

3. Toto, We’re Not in High School Anymore

I call our larger culture “the cool kids.” Thing is, if we live the larger culture norm we’re overeating, yo-yo dieting, and going in and out of a gym membership. The larger culture also spends a fortune on weddings, houses, cars, vacations, clothes, and make-up.

Yes, we have Clark Howard, but mainly we live in debt because, well, “everyone else is.”

Same with overeating. We’re in overeating-debt hoping that the new diet “will work”; the rest of the time thinking, everyone else gets to eat, why not me?

We might even think, it’s silly to spend so much time buying the right food, preparing the right food, and keeping the right food with me in the cold-tote. I mean, who pulls menus up online before eating in a restaurant?

Actually, when weight begins to impact our health, it’s silly not to take losing seriously. Will you have to be super serious forever? (Only if you want to maintain your weight, otherwise meet up with the cool kids for a margarita and a plate of nachos, and call it good.)

4. A Smidge of Tough Love

Become comfortable with the idea that incorporating a new habit is very challenging. Give that to yourself. In other words, instead of asking yourself, “what’s wrong with me? Why can’t I do this? Other people do.”

Tell yourself, “a lot of people can’t – or won’t – do the habit I’m now embedding.”

Whether your goal is to give up ice cream or walk 30 minutes a day, “most people” are struggling. Our culture is packed in food distractions, tech distractions, drinking distractions.

Mainly, we’re living a distracted life.

So when you’re consciously embedding a new habit into your daily, once the honeymoon part of your new habit has spun into the “messy middle,” explain to yourself that what you’re doing isn’t for the faint of heart.

Remind yourself: this is a hard trek we’re forging. If you tell yourself anything less, you won’t bring the right tools and attitude to your new habit formation. Journal prompt: where did I get the idea that losing weight should be easy? Does my family of origin have weight issues? How have they handled staying healthy?

5. Culturally Sanctioned Sky-high Expectations

This title pretty much says it all. We’re bombarded with the idea that weight loss after age 50 “is easy.” Here’s the thing, anyone who promotes the idea that weight loss at any age is easy, has their hand on your wallet.

Maybe if we lived in a wonderland where fast food only sold beautiful salads and fresh fruit, high sugar and salty treats weren’t a thing, and cars didn’t exist and bicycles ruled the world, then we’d all be in amazing shape.

But in our world, we’re trekking the Matterhorn. At least with drugs, cigarettes, and alcohol the larger culture understands why someone would go to rehab or get dry. But tell someone you’ve given up pancakes and waffles, and they might roll their eyes and want to know why.

The larger culture pushes the food-drug as being a happy, celebratory part of our lives. Problem is, we treat every day like it’s Christmas morning. The old days when special food appeared once or twice a year have left the building. Journal-prompts: What are your expectations for yourself? Are you hard on you? How do you internally speak to yourself? How do you manage disappointment? How do you cheerlead yourself?

Burn out is a fancy way of saying that we’ve lost touch with our deeper selves. Embrace your new habit by journal-writing as you go. Stay in touch with you. (Only remember to feed yourself great books, yoga classes, Broadway shows, a rescue dog that’s a whole lot of work, but totally worth it and so forth.)

Maintain what matters most to you.

And breathe in a successful experience.

Pearl Two

Do you mind another James Clear quote? In Atomic Habits James writes that “the greatest threat to success is not failure, but boredom.”

I couldn’t agree more. I’ve done a ton of dumb stuff in my life merely because I was bored. And – as we all well know — eating fun food is surefire way to pinball us straight out of boredom (at least for the moment). Fun food is cheap, fun food is a breeze to attain, and fun food is sanctioned by the world.

When fun food calls to me it means one of three things. I’m either hungry, tired or I’m bored. If I’m all three, I’ve really entered the twilight zone.

Getting un-bored with our new habit isn’t a walk on the beach. The smartest way to give our subconscious a way to “talk” to us is through journal-writing.

Pick up the pen – or keyboard- and discover what makes you sparkle and come up with creative ideas to bring the sparkle to life.

Pearl Three

Our January topic: Dealing well with plateaus or why I plateauing. Our culture has drilled into us that plateaus are bad and decreasing body weight in a linear fashion is good.

Nope.

Here’s the truth: when we quickly go down, down, down in weight, our cave woman brain wakes up, thinks we’re in a developing country’s famine and gets to work “saving” us (leading us to the highest caloric food she can find).

Our goal is to keep our cave woman snoozing happily and not bothering us. That’s where the plateau is our friend. What comes after a ten pound loss? A month of what I call “holding” or what our culture calls plateauing.

It really is that simple. Become fine with the plateau and let your body adjust to your new weight. After a month of holding, then begin to lose slowly again.

Pearl Four

What I’m packing in my cold-tote this week. I can’t be trusted around nuts. Almonds, walnuts, peanuts (and don’t get me started on pistachios). If I start with one small handful it’s an immediate slide into (many) more handfuls.

Hence, this workaround. I only allow myself nuts that I’ve bagged up in a reasonable portion size and put into my cold-tote. As you know, I take my cold-tote with me when I’m out and about. The cold-tote packed in healthy food keeps me out of the fast food drive-thru and safe when I grocery shop.

Pearl Five

The No. 1 cause of burnout is doing the same thing over and over again and not seeing results.”

— Steve Kaczmarski

And the golden-takeaway is that “results” are different for different people. My result might be having successfully contained my Cookie Monster after 9 p.m.

While your successful result is having created a habit that sees you eating apple slices dipped in peanut butter rather than your afternoon bag of M&Ms.

Also, in the New Year I’ve begun my e-coaching program that will focus on ironclad solutions to your most annoying food problems. For three months (or more, your choice) we’ll email each other at least three times a week looking specifically at how to shift your eating patterns with a goal of a forever weight loss. For the details email me at Wendy@theInspiredEater.com. The price for e-coaching is $49/per month.

Following me on Instagram and Twitter would be awesome!

Have a wonderful week everyone!

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

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Maintain the mystery. Protect your passion. Shun sharing with your Eeyore.

Pearl One

He’s cute and pathetic, and has the sweetest pink bow on his tail. We might want to mother him — you know — transform his sad little outlook.

And if he’d only stayed in the book, there wouldn’t be a problem.

But the Eeyore-people of the planet are all around us. At first they seem benign. It almost seems inconceivable that they can dream-destroy, but beware these seemingly “innocent” characters.

While it might appear like a good, warm hug would transform an Eeyore it won’t work because a) they won’t change unless internally motivated and b) they’re more entrenched in their beliefs and are actually dangerous to those of us dedicated to growing and evolving in life. The Eeyore can decimate our dreams, goals, and plans with one or two beleaguered comment(s).

That said the Eeyores comes in so many shades of gloom that it’s not always apparent that we’re dealing with an actual Eeyore.

Your basic, no-frills Eeyore will forever default to lamenting, “nothing good ever happens. It’s just one thing after another. Must be raining out. Woe is me.”

Other Eeyores are passive-aggressive. This type concludes every barb with, “Come on! I was just joking!” or “I only say (the barb) to be helpful. I’m worried about you. I don’t want you getting your hopes up, only to see them dashed. Again.”

And finally we come to the aggressive-aggressive Eeyore who – upon hearing our new venture — responds with laughter while belittling, ignoring, or sneering at our plans.

While somewhere deep inside we know there’s no convincing an Eeyore, we try anyway when we say, “Really, this time feels different. I’m changing my habits and how I deal with food.” And at that – like clockwork – the Eeyore shakes his head, chuckles a bit and says, “What will this be? Like your 368th time of ‘you’re really transforming’? I don’t get why you waste your energy.”

And with that he walks away leaving you in a puddle of anger, hurt, maybe even a little agreement (“maybe he’s right”). Do you see why I call an Eeyore “dangerous”? The instant you start doubting yourself, they’ve made an inroad and will work to topple your plans.

After he leaves the room, you work internally to put your heart back together (again), clean the kitchen and head to bed all while thinking, “why can’t he be more supportive?”

Take a good, long look – quietly — at the person you’re engaging with. And journal-write about what you see before you. 

Whether you’re dealing with an Eeyore-friend, family member, co-worker, or partner, they’re dangerous because they can decimate our plans, if we allow it.

Never dismiss an Eeyore’s attitude as nothing, or think, he just doesn’t understand. As I lose weight and change my habits, he’ll come along.

Thing is, Eeyores don’t change. For whatever reason — that’s between them and their therapist — they don’t want us to grow and evolve. They have a certain way of seeing us, and they want the image kept in place.

So, protect your plans. Be a closed book, and get on with transforming your life.

Pearl Two

Your mission should you accept it. Let’s say that you’ve found a diamond mine and can’t wait to tell the Eeyores in your life how beautiful and sparkly and awesome the mine is!

And therein lies the real problem, you “can’t wait to tell your Eeyore.”

Of course we want to share our happiness, but we need to firmly understand that an Eeyore will not take joy in your joy.

Sadly, like a broken record, the Eeyores want to tell you why something won’t work. They have zero interest in brainstorming ways to help you jump the hurdle. Most have no idea how to jump a hurdle anyway.

Dream a Little Dream of Me

In the beginning, as you start to put your dream into action, don’t share the dream and action-plan with anyone. Let the diamond mine be your own special secret for months (even years) to come.

Same goes, when you’re in the “messy middle” of your action plan. (I write about the messy middle here.)

Eventually when you feel a steely resolve about your diamond mine and are ready to share, be insanely choosy about who you share it with.

If you feel at all squishy, an Eeyore will smell blood and point out the many flaws in your plan because he’s “just trying to help.”

Which is fine. Once you feel a total, no holds barred commitment to your dream, then whatever negativity pours out of your Eeyore will simply bounce off.

But personally I believe in moving the Eeyore’s in your life along. It might sound heartless, but I said goodbye to the two Eeyore-friends in my life. And for my Eeyore-family members, I share very little to no info.

Today it’s become a habit. Until I’m 100 percent behind my venture I share the dream and plan with nobody. Ever.

Pearl Three

Vocab Alert! I have a new term for the items in our lives that make crushing the Smart Eating Lifestyle more do-able. From now forward, I’ll call these little helpers — like measuring cups, air fryers, a cold-tote and so forth — “gear.”

My favorite gear at the moment is silicone “parchment paper.” My family goes through parchment paper quickly and I was happy to find that they make the silicone parchment paper version. So, my pizza-eating son received silicone parchment paper for Christmas.

The silicone parchment paper works as beautifully as the silicone muffin cups that I also love and recommend.

If you have smart eating gear, we’d love to hear about it!! Please share with the group in the comments below.

Pearl Four

Our food slot. Decades ago, I had a favorite restaurant that served an amazing appetizer: the pretty plate held a generous wedge of Cambazola cheese, four heads of garlic, and cherry chutney. And all of the tasty spreadables were joined by little French bread rounds ready to be layered in cheese, garlic, and chutney.

OMG.

I inhaled more of this awesome appetizer than I’d like to admit.

But when I decided to make some big changes in the mid-90s and began losing weight in earnest, no way was the appetizer coming with me into my new Smart Eating Life.  

So, I kissed Cambazola cheese goodbye, but planned to keep my relationship with the roasted garlic in the mix.

Here’s how I make it. I take a head of garlic – not a clove, but a head – that comes in a papery-white cloak (so to speak). I chop off the first quarter or third of the head (not at the root, but at the head’s head), exposing all the little cloves.

I drizzle each head in a bit of olive oil, and place the head face down on foil. The foil gets wrapped up like a little package and goes into a preheated oven at 400 degrees. (When I make roasted garlic for my family, they each get one full head.)

Roast for 30-minutes. After roasting, the garlic will be like butter and very easy to scoop out with a knife and spread onto bread, crackers, or even added to your salad.

Pearl Five

Don’t walk away from negative people. Run!” – Mark Twain

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♥, Wendy

P.S. A

Yes, Virginia, we can have tasty cocktails in December.

Photo by shche_ team on Unsplash

Hey All!

I’m sorry that I’m so late today (I blame December).

Pearl One

Is it a real holiday if we’re not celebrating by overeating and over drinking? There was certainly a time when I’d have thought, well of course eating big is part of the fun!!

Nowadays, I’m not so sure. I think about when my grandma was a little girl — 1916 to 1928 — special food only appeared on Christmas, it was too special and pricey to have on the regular. Which isn’t something you and I have much familiarity given that we live in the Age of Amazon.

While eating big throughout December sounds like a hoot, I wonder. I mean, pretend we’re going to a huge Broadway show like the Lion King or Hamilton, if we’re offered cheesecake would we really chow in earnest with all of the excitement spilling out on stage?! (I’m not talking about a boring show, I’m talking about a spectacular performance.)

While I wasn’t lucky enough to see Hamilton in person, I did see the Lion King and at my heaviest I wouldn’t have dreamed of eating with gusto while watching that show’s feast for the eyes. I call the Broadway shows nourishment for our hearts.

Another example: say you flew to be in the audience for your grandchild’s piano recital, do you wish you had a chocolate-mint shake hidden in your lap so that you could slurp quietly? I would call being at a loved one’s recital nourishment for our hearts too.

My point is that we might be using massive amounts of high-caloric food to make our time together seem “more fun,” when really it’s our hearts crying out for nourishment like the following:

  • encouraging everyone to share a heartfelt memory (each person contributes a happy memory involving one other person in the room, or a story about a beloved animal, vacation, or hurdle-overcome).
  • making hot chocolate and s’mores around an outdoor fire pit.

I just wonder how much overeating is due to very little engagement with others?

We live in the wealthiest culture known to mom-kind, and yet we’re also the loneliest. According to U.S. Census data (info collected pre-Covid), “One-third of adults over 45 years of age feel lonely, while 43% of adults over 65 report they’re lonely on a regular basis.”

It seems to me like we’re short-changing ourselves when we dive into food as the “be-all” for the holidays.

This season, let’s be the model by encouraging activities that see us engaging with each other, rather than over drinking and overeating with our nearest and dearest.

Pearl Two

I’m excited because this “skill” is one of my favorites. Ready for a sure-fire way to support yourself while living the Smart Eating Lifestyle for December and every month thereafter?

Put constraints into your life. For example, I largely don’t buy books (because they’re so hard to move) and think it’s way easier to use the library. When I think of travel I limit myself (for now) to DC down to Florida. I only use hypoallergenic make-up because my eyes, my skin, my heart – everything is sensitive. lol.

Because of my constraints I don’t peruse Costco’s great book section hemming and hawing over buying a book for myself. But I will jot the name down and get it at the library. I don’t think about visiting Lake Tahoe or Hawaii (for now) because the Eastern seaboard beaches down to Florida are awesome.

We already constrain ourselves in life, but we may not realize that’s what we’re doing. Vegans and vegetarians are definitely constraining themselves. I constrain myself from only adopting rescue kitties and pups. When I was young, my dad always raved about Toyotas – and funny enough – that’s what I buy today.

So, you see my point.

But how does constraining ourselves help us thrive on the Smart Eating Lifestyle? Our lives get a bit easier when we give up an entire food item like ice cream which I’ve done for years (until the ice cream fiasco with my braces, but I’m happily back on my, “I don’t eat ice cream” plan).

Avoid Decision Fatigue

Use the constraint tool to make your smart eating life easier. Pick a food group like bread, desserts, alcohol, or cereal and just tell yourself, When I eat out I only choose from the side dishes or salad section. If I order a full entrée I take half of the meal home in a doggie bag.

As my Gram would say, “no ifs, ands, or buts.”

Constrain yourself, and reap the resulting success.

Pearl Three

Our December Topic: food “tools” that I lean on to make maintaining a lower weight doable. In honor of this very festive month, I give you:

Peppermint Hot Chocolate

Makes two servings.

On simmer heat two cups of chocolate almond milk. Calories range from 35 to 100 calories on the brand, but remember to choose unsweetened for the lowest calories.

After heating the chocolate, pour into mugs and add a quarter cup of peppermint schnapps to each mug (150 calories for one quarter cup or two ounces).

To make it more fun add a swoosh of whipped cream to the top and stir with a candy cane. While this is made for two people, I make it for one: me.

Pearl Four

Our Food Slot! In honor of this very festive month, I give you a fun dessert that doesn’t break the bank:

Sliced angel food cake drizzled in chocolate with crushed candy cane sprinkled on top. I’ve taken this exact, very pretty combination to potlucks. But I’m not adverse to eating slices at home.

I’d love to hear your favorite “food tools.” Send them in! Wendy@WendyIrvineWriter.com.

Pearl Five

I had no choice but to boss up and create my own lane.” — Anonymous

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you! 🙂

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One thing the Little House girls would instantly recognize in our living room: the candy cane.

Pearl One

Remember Laura and Mary being dumbstruck at finding an orange, a penny, and a peppermint stick in their Christmas stocking?

Well, you and I have our own Little House story because unless you’re a Vanderbilt, you grew up in the ‘70s back when eating in a restaurant was for special occasions only, and seasonal treats were relegated to specific windows of time like homemade ice cream in the summer and beautiful cookies in December.

Fast-forward some 40 years and we’re hard-pressed to come up with a food item that we can’t score within – oh – about an hour.

In Laura and Marys’ time, they only had special food on Christmas itself. The days of overeating on the holidays with the tired excuse of, I’ll only see red pepper jelly blanketing cream cheese in December. Better dig in, are over.

In this century we can find mashed potatoes, sweet potatoes, dinner rolls, fancy chocolates and pretty cookies everywhere all year long.

So, don’t allow you to deceive you. This December ask yourself one of the most powerful questions I know:

Do I want to be a size 8, or do I want to eat the rest of the red velvet cheesecake?

I use this question often to save me from the gorgeous – but empty — calories.

My thought on why this question works so well is that when we first lay eyes on, say, a sumptuous December dinner, our cave woman brain is wide awake and “helps us” pile our plate (she’s great that way).

But the moment we ask ourselves do I want to be a size 8 or do I want to taste everything on the table and go back for thirds? our prefrontal brain kicks in, and “provides ‘top-down’, higher-order guidance.” (Nature.com/articles/nrn2648)

We can create the Smart Eating Lifestyle we want for ourselves, it’s just a matter of learning to wield the mental tools necessary to keep our cave woman happily snoozing in her cave. Because if she’s not bothering us, our prefrontal can get on with creating the life we most want.

Best December tip: when at a gathering, always fill your plate three-quarters full with naked veggies (only no sauce, no dressing or slight amount).

Pearl Two

Have you heard of a mini-bucket list? (I just made it up.) Here’s what I’m doing.

My December and January bucket lists will include everything I want to do/try, but don’t always find the time for.

December

  • See a neighborhood light show with my family (my sons are older but they still love the lights).
  • Love sending out cards to my editors. Either all editors are wonderful people or I just got lucky.
  • I love making Christmas photo gifts (Costco’s is great).
  • I love waking up Christmas morning to cinnamon rolls that I made the night before. In the morning I just bake them and they’re good to go.
  • I’m playing holiday music every day, but from a new bullet speaker I bought, not blaring from my computer like we once did.
  • I’m giving a nice food tower to the guy around the corner who makes the most beautiful light display every year. His yard – on a corner where everyone who drives into the neighborhood sees his home – is blanketed in white lights and not tacky at all. He has a lit snowman, a lit manger scene, lit deer, there’s so much more. It’s his hobby. Year-round he keeps his yard nice, but he really goes to town in December. And he is not retired, he’s probably somewhere in his 40s!! (I’ll take a photo and share.)

January

  • First, we’re pet sitting an African grey here in Atlanta. For only two nights, but still. (I’m very excited and reading up on the breed now.) He’s 27 years young if you were wondering.
  • I’m doing a lot of writing in January because I have an important article due, and of course I love writing Inspired Eater.
  • I’m doubling-down on finding really exceptional books to read. Right now I’m reading Tell the Wolves I’m Home. I’m a third of the way into it. My review: worth your time, it’s a page turner. This was the author’s first book and what a woza performance.
  • My mom in California has Alzheimer’s, and she loves receiving mail. In both December and January I’m committing to send her several cards a month. I’ve been told they don’t need to say much. Boy, I wouldn’t wish this disease on anybody, ever. My dad is the caretaker and as heartbreaking as it’s been for him, he’s keeping the ship afloat.

And that concludes my two mini-bucket lists.

I’m curious, what will your December and January bucket lists include? If you don’t know, journaling is the magical portal to your heart.

Pearl Three

New subject for December: How food “tools” make our lives easier.

I’ve mentioned I call actual food my “food-tools.” So today we’re talking faux-chicken patties. El Yumo. I toast a whole wheat English muffin, put tiny amounts of ranch dressing on each bun, spread on a bunch of green sprouts, pull the fake-chicken patty out of the oven and – ta da! – one heck of tasty sandwich. And it’s even quite filling.

If I don’t have sprouts, I’ll put on cucumber coins. And I really love it when I have baby tomatoes because then I take a bite of sandwich and pop a tomato in my mouth. Over and over.

Ah, good times.

I think Morningstar Farms was the first company to offer chicken patties, but these days a gazillion brands make them and you’ll find these tasty patties in the freezer section of most stores.

Nutrition will vary based on brand, but this gives you a good idea about how these guys stack up. One fake-chicken patty is a serving. Calories: 150, fat: 7g, fiber: 4g, Carbs: 13g, Protein: 8g.

Pearl Four

Cheese. In my smart eating world, I call any kind of cheese “a spice.” The only time I make an exception is when I have a slice of pizza the rare two or three times a year.

There’s nothing wrong with cheese, per se, it’s just easy to overeat and high-caloric. So long ago, I started telling myself regularly, cheese is a spice.

Pearl Five

Food is the most widely abused anxiety “drug,” and working out is the most potent underutilized anti-depressant.” — Anonymous

Fifteen days until Christmas. And this is the first Christmas in maybe forever when I haven’t spent the month freaking out.

So, the Christmas cards don’t go out until Valentines? I mean, who really cares, right?

I love this quote and keep it on the side of my fridge year-round, “Don’t worry about being perfect. Make memories.”

Have a peaceful month, everyone.

♥, Wendy

P.S. Are you new to the Inspired Eater? Welcome!! This blog won’t make much sense until you first read the Aunt Bea post (and you’ll find Aunt Bea on this page to the right under my short bio). On your cell you’ll see it immediately following the first post. After you enter your email address, the Aunt Bea article will be sent to your email’s inbox. If it’s not there, you might check the spam folder. And always feel free to email me at Wendy@TheInspiredEater.com and I’ll get Aunt Bea right to you!

You know the scoop: I am an Amazon affiliate so if you buy something through a link at this site, I may receive a small commission that won’t impact your price at all.

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When we were teens, drama was fine. But today, kick the drama and be curious instead.

Pearl One

Meet a friend who lost 49 pounds and has kept them off for ten years.

Gail writes:

I had an interesting experience on my birthday. For various reasons I wasn’t able to go out and do fun things, as I usually do, so I decided to release my iron control and have what I used to call ” an eating day”, which included a very large portion of cheesy mashed potatoes.

The next day I’d put on three pounds. In the past, I would have either panicked and starved myself, or carried on eating. I resumed my normal diet and exercise and within three days was back to normal weight.

Very reassuring.

I love this.

You and I are not new to this game. The scale has gone up and down our entire lives. We know the days of angry-tears and we know the good times too.

Even so, to gain Gail’s skill, here’s what we want to practice: ditching the drama when the scale is not going in the “right” direction.

What I mean by “drama” is that, let’s say, you weigh yourself in the morning, don’t like what you see on the scale and start beating yourself up. You’re furious. You tell yourself that you’re idiotic, stupid and so forth.

Guess how I know? After 16 years of maintenance I still have those bad days. Not as many, but I have them.

And — when I do — like Gail, I don’t go to pieces. Or berate myself. None of that.

Because when you “take yourself to task” in your heart, you’re going backwards. Nothing comes from turning on yourself.

Instead learn to be curious. In your journal, write the timeline of events that led you to overeat. Essentially map out what happened and learn more about who you are with certain triggers.

Then go “Gail” on your Smart Eating Lifestyle. That’s right. Let’s say you’ve gained, follow her exact lead:

In the past, I would have either panicked and starved myself, or carried on eating. I resumed my normal diet and exercise and within three days was back to normal weight.

That’s right. Say buh-bye to all the hoopla that comes from attacking yourself when you’ve gained, get curious, write in your journal — and steer yourself right back to your Smart Eating Lifestyle.

I don’t “think” you can do this. I know you can.

If you want to meet Gail, she’s British and has a fun and colorful fashion blog at Is this Mutton?

Pearl Two

In life, it’s what you make it mean. True story. I was in a meeting in a large conference room with a group of cops and managers. Mid-meeting, an officer showed up with a K-9 officer, a black German shepherd named Bennie.

We took a small break, and I used my time to go bananas over the sweetheart and throw a Kong toy for him again and again. A wonderful GSD.

Another woman was in the meeting. When Bennie arrived she was acting uncomfortable. At the break, a flurry ensued. She was obviously terrified and repeated “no, no, no” (as officers were trying to reassure her) and bolted out of the room never to be seen again.

Same large conference room. Same meeting. Same dog. Two totally different reactions. In slowing down the film here’s what happened:

Door opens and in walks an officer and Officer Bennie.

She sees the dog and thinks, monster! From the thought, she feels scared.

I see Bennie and think, furry baby! From the thought, I feel delighted.

Her action: she leaves the room.

My action: love-bomb the puppy!

This woman wasn’t being “silly.” I have a good friend who grew up in the same culture as this woman. In their world small dogs are fine, but big dogs are vicious and dangerous.

My point: a circumstance unfolds, we have a thought and from the thought we have a feeling. And it’s within our power to choose the thought that will will impact our feeling.

The sequence goes: “situation” then ” our thought” then our “feeling.” Give this concept a lot of your time, because every situation in life boils down to this sequence. There are two more steps, but first I’m hoping you’ll embrace this flow.

If this doesn’t make sense, I would love it if you email me: Wendy@theInspiredEater.com.

Pearl Three

We keep this slot for a new topic each month and in November we’re talking “stacking.”

Today I’m stacking what comforts me when life is being life, and I’m overwhelmed. Take a look at my Comfort Stack:

One

Being in bed on a cold night, and going under my electric blanket.

Two

Laying on the couch under my Grandma’s knitted blankie, headphones on listening to a favorite podcast. Most important: kitty pads over and curls up on Mount Tummy.

Three

In bed – same electric blanket – reading a phenomenal book or watching a favorite show: The Crown, Schitt’s Creek, or Call the Midwife.

Four

Being in the library with three of my most favorite things: free books, magazines and silence.

Five

I love being home – alone – and putting on great music to putter-clean. Largely I’m a panic-cleaner, but occasionally I get the house to myself, and I love doing whatever needs attention (which is everything).

Six

I used to get comfort by being at my yoga/Pilates studio. For the most part we knew each other – sort of –, like I knew when a yoga-friend went to South Korea to visit family. That kind of thing.

And I knew each instructor’s style. (Not saying it was easy. In the beginning I slipped in my own sweat, but it felt homey.)

Now it’s your turn. I’d love to hear about your Comfort Stack in the comments below!

Pearl Four

I ran across this recipe and thought, sounds tasty (and I was right).

Oats muesli-style for the brrrr!! months:

Take:  

  • Half an apple or pear, grated (I diced my apple)
  • 1/2 cup rolled oats
  • 1/2 cup milk or plant milk of your choice (I used almond milk; some use Kefir)
  • 1/2 cup Greek yogurt (I used regular yogurt)
  • 1/4 cup dried fruits of your choice (I left this out completely, a quarter-cup seems like a lot)
  • a squeeze of honey (I didn’t use)
  • a generous handful of nuts (I use a light sprinkle of walnuts. I’d never use “a generous sprinkle” of anything).

During the cold months, combine all the ingredients in a cereal bowl and allow to sit for 20 minutes. No, you aren’t heating anything, but the dish is warmer than if it sits in the fridge all night.

But during the summer, let the muesli sit overnight in the fridge and in the morning you’ll wake up to a delicious cold bowl.

Pearl Five

Ok. So you had a bad day. Don’t beat yourself up, don’t let one bad decision send you spiraling out of control. Get back to making decisions that improve your health and happiness. You are who you choose to be.” — Anonymous

I have an advertising budget of lol. If you’ve enjoyed these pearls, I’d love it if you’d share them with friends or family.

On Tuesday we’ll talk Holiday Health Challenge. For this last week before Thanksgiving, join me in doubling-down and doing our new habit each day of this week. And share how you’re doing in the comments below! 🙂

Have a beautiful mid-November everyone!!

♥, Wendy

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